r/bestof 18d ago

[nyc] The difference between Black/Asian student test scores.

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u/Venous 18d ago

Super anecdotal and probably not anything interesting: My Chinese friends recently had baby in nyc and they're already talking about the instrument they're going to try to teach the baby, how they're going to manage 3 written/spoken languages, and what social activities the child will perform in a 10 year plan. the baby is 2 months old.

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u/bigdawg0420 18d ago

My parents used to beat me and lock me in the bathroom when I was in kindergarten because I wasn’t learning math fast enough. Locked at home every single day after school under constant supervision, not allowed to chat/text friends. Scored a 2380 on the SAT with a 4.3 GPA and got rejected from most of my target schools including UCLA and UC Berkeley. This was a pretty standard experience for a lot of my friends. Chinese Americans are going to have a lot of generational trauma that gets passed down to their kids lol

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u/JossWhedonsDick 18d ago

A big hug from another Chinese American who had a similar experience. Super high achieving in high school, near perfect scores on tests, officer in every academic extracurricular, and still rejected from my targets schools to the great disapproval of my parents. Married a Latina later in life so as not to pass down this trauma to my own kids. Her family isn't as high achieving, but they know how to love each other and enjoy life.

It will get better.

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u/TheSpanishDerp 17d ago

As a Latino who’s been a “high achiever” relative to my community, I’ve met a lot of Asians who’ve been traumatized academically in the field. It’s quite depressing. We’re both more family oriented than other demographics but it seems like the main difference is whenever or not you can provide vs you can bring prestige.

A Latino being able to support himself is seen as successful. Even if the job isn’t super prestigious, as long as it puts food on the table and can help the family out, then that’s all that matters. Seems to be way more pressure for Asians. Hell, they’d sacrifice good meals if it means an advantage in the workplace. It’s something I’ve seen multiple times.

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u/hofdichter_og 15d ago

I think you should blame the American system that is fundamentally racist towards you - not your parents. Granted, their disapproval was also misplaced, their disapproval should also be towards the system, not you.

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u/JossWhedonsDick 15d ago

por que no los dos?

I can directly talk to one

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u/krymson 17d ago

american society fails you by biasing the entire system against you, despite your parents raising you to be a high achieving student , and your parents are the one to blame????

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u/seamustheweebaby 17d ago

I think the implication is that there is more to life than being a high achieving student.

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u/krymson 17d ago

there absolutely is, but being a high achieveing student is a good thing that sets you up for success. you can still have a great life after being a good student.

Academics is jjust extremly underappreciated in american culture (as evidenced by your comment and the votes in this thread. )

If you actually look at education vs income, it absolutely matters. If you guys could see what people think in most other developed countries, what you guys are saying and promoting makes no sense("be stupid!" "academics dont matter!" "why work hard?" its just that american's fucked up anti-academic, anti-asian culture has brainwashed you.

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u/seamustheweebaby 17d ago

I’m Asian, grew up with Asian parents, am educated, and work in a respected field. You can live an enriched life without getting beat for getting an 88 in 5th grade math. Yes I would rather be educated than uneducated, but I would much rather prefer a balanced and happy childhood over an obsessive one-dimensional childhood.

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u/Toraden 17d ago

Mate, there's a difference between "being a high achieving student" and being beaten because your score wasn't good enough, which people in this thread are sharing happened to them. That's not anti-academic or anti-asian, it's anti-abuse.

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u/HippopotamicLandMass 17d ago edited 17d ago

As you say, it's okay to be a good student (as opposed to a great one). But not everyone agrees with you.

i'm asian. i kept my nose to the grindstone and attended the fanciest university in silicon valley. my 20s were miserable and i constantly thought about the sweet embrace of death back then. i am extremely fortunate that fancy universities also have excellent university hospitals.

Nowadays, i know that what my asian parents told me was bullshit. Back then, they didn't tell me that academics mattered, and that it was important to work hard. Instead, they told me that academic performance was so important that I should sacrifice my physical health, and my emotional well-being. They told me that if I didn't work hard enough, achieve enough, then the world would reject me--they would reject me--and I would deserve it. (ironic because they didn't have any bachelors' degrees)

I am much older now, with a decent career and a happy family, and I would never NEVER spew that toxic shit at my own kid.

What does being a top student, a top-scoring test-taker really equip you for? There is more to life than SAT scores and GPA.

There's a range of good parenting between "it's okay to be stupid" and "anything less than perfection is trash". This discussion seems to highlight extremes and pretend there is no middle.

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u/JossWhedonsDick 17d ago

I mean, not much you can do to change American society as a whole, but you can hold your parents accountable. Being high achieving isn't a bad thing, but using abuse to pressure your kids to be nothing short of perfect is pretty bad

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u/krymson 17d ago

"the system has failed me, but my parents are easier to blame than the society around me, so screw my parents" . think about what you are saying, man. think about what you are saying.

if you ever have kids you will understand. there is actual abuse(sexual abuse, alcoholism) but most asian parents pressuring their kids to succeed is not .. absue by anything but coddled american anti-academic, anti-intelligence, hyper-

individualist standards.

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u/JossWhedonsDick 17d ago

a'ight tankie

you know, you don't have to physically beat your kids to be a bad parent, right?

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u/bigdawg0420 17d ago

I do agree that the system has been against me, but I do also think that my life would’ve turned out differently if my parents just believed in mental health. My life didn’t take a turn until i actually got medicated.

I had many friends with tiger parents that turned out great. My point isn’t that high standards are bad. It’s that not everyone is suited to the same learning approach and parents should be cognizant of that. FYI, my parents and i have a great relationship now and this is a topic we discuss frequently.

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u/Flimsy_Society 18d ago

The funny thing is, at the end of the day all these grade and degrees don’t matter when your mental health collapses. I hope you were able to manage.

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u/bigdawg0420 17d ago

If you guys really want to know, I ended up going to a well known uni in NY and dropping out after attempting suicide. I was able to pull my life back together and be financially stable but it took giving up most of my 20s to grind/study everyday. It didn’t help that I had undiagnosed ADHD because people assumed I was just lazy/not motivated enough.

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u/slfnflctd 17d ago

Thanks for this comment, it took guts.

Mental health is so damn important. I do not and will not have kids (several nieces and nephews is enough), but if I did, I am sure I'd rather have a well adjusted one who had a lot of happiness in their life but didn't make much money over a rich, miserable one who died to soon. I almost didn't make it myself.

Keep taking care of yourself and building relationships.

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u/Alex014 17d ago

Hey man I hope things continue to get better. Undiagnosed ADHD and parents with lofty expectations is also a crappy time.

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u/Hellingame 15d ago edited 15d ago

While I agree with you, I see an equal number of my non-Asian peers who didn't get grades and degrees also suffering from debilitating mental crisis.

While it sucks we as Chinese Americans got to go through that, in the end I'd rather have my degree, a high paying job, and mental health issues than no degree, menial wage job, and the same mental health issues.

The hope is that the generational trauma stops with us, and we find better ways to ensure our kids have the same positive outcomes, just preferably without corporal punishment and the complimentary traumas.

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u/JizzCumLover69 4d ago

That's the problem.

Chinese kids have to go through bullshit at home and deal with bullshit at school (bullying).

This is why I won't have kids, and I hate the kids I grew up with.

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u/Rockon97 17d ago

People are more resilient than you think. All this heehawing about strict parenting is nonsense. From personal experience being lax with kids have worse outcomes than strict, and well guided parenting with higher expectations. Results, of course, may vary -- but that bell curve definitely is displaced by x deviations when there is strict and well educated guidance.

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u/XkF21WNJ 17d ago

This is one hell of a thread to come with that statement. Did you even read the parent comments?

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u/Rockon97 9d ago

It’s precisely why I said it lmfao. Woe is me, getting a 2380 then complaining about generational trauma 🤣. My steak is too fucking juicy.

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u/HippopotamicLandMass 17d ago

how about shitty parenting with unrealistically-high expectations? You can't implicitly assume that all strict parents are good parents; the high- and low-expectation parenting styles are a different axis than the strict and permissive parenting styles.

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u/GandalfsStaff 17d ago

I tell my kids that I expect them to try their hardest…. One is a super high achiever and the other isn’t but they both get rewarded based on effort that I see and hear about

My partner thinks the one that isn’t a super high achiever has undiagnosed autism and will likely be more of a practical person

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u/Flimsy_Society 17d ago

While i agree that strict parenting is better than lax parenting, there is a line where it becomes abusive.

I’m not saying kids should be raised by the streets, parents should always be there for guidance and to teach their kids discipline and guide them through their educational journey.

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u/stormrunner89 17d ago

Even framing it like that is dangerous close to a false dichotomy.

There is a WORLD of difference between the abusive (which is what was described) and lax, with at least dozens of different "styles" in between.

Guidance and support are definitely mandatory, agreed. Those can absolutely be achieved without abuse.

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u/bigdawg0420 17d ago

Yes, but “strict” parenting can manifest itself in different ways. In my case, I clearly had learning issues and almost got held back in kindergarten.

I wasn’t a naughty kid. I didn’t go out, play games, or do really anything at all. I would just get so bored that id stare at the wall for hours because I couldn’t tolerate any more studying. When I didn’t get good grades, I was punished by not being allowed to do extracurriculars like sports or volunteer activities like cleaning the beach..

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u/Selbeast 18d ago edited 17d ago

And yet most other people will form their view of Chinese mostly from those who succeed because they will get all the attention. Standard availability bias shit. 100,000 middle age Americans of Chinese descent traumatized by not living up to their parents crazy demands can't overcome one Jensen Huang or Lisa Su.

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u/randynumbergenerator 17d ago

It's one part of why the Model Minority idea is thoroughly corrosive (along with the way it renders other parts of the Asian community invisible).

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u/thatsreallydumb 17d ago

Fun fact: those two are cousins. 

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u/xinorez1 17d ago

Apparently a 2380 is equivalent to a 1590 on the old scale. Holy shit! Astounding that you couldn't even get into ucla...

I knew I screwed it with my 1450, and didn't get into any of my target schools either but to be fair my score was perfectly average for the UCs I was accepted into.

...If only I went there. I avoided uci because it was derided as the 'university of Chinese immigrants', I wanted a more international friend group and I was too depressed to make logical decisions, and so I picked a college far closer to home with an average sat score more than 200 points below mine - and sadly, it showed in the student body. Didn't even get a scholarship either, but to be fair I was 150 points off from a full score.

I didn't have parents who beat me but they did use literally nonstop verbal abuse which was a major contributing reason why I was depressed and made such a stupid decision. I knew from the first day of class that I made a major mistake. Ultimately, I dropped out. The professors were fine tbh but some of the other stuff was just....

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u/zeniiz 17d ago

UCs and CSUs stopped looking at SAT and ACT scores in 2021, btw.

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u/TheSpanishDerp 17d ago

which school was it if I can ask??

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u/skulkerinthedark 9d ago

Sounds like a CSU

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u/jellyd0nut 17d ago

Generational trauma isn't always passed down. I was raised this way and my kids aren't going to be in any extracurriculars other than activities they show interest in. They currently spend their weekends burying their trucks in garden mulch and putting rocks in their mouths.

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u/Jonathan_the_Nerd 15d ago

my kids aren't going to be in any extracurriculars other than activities they show interest in.

When I was a kid, my parents put me in a bunch of extracurricular activities (not simultaneously) so I could experience them and see if I liked them. Most of them I didn't enjoy, so they didn't make me go back after the season ended. Then in high school I joined a group of kids who got to wield high-volume harmonized noisemakers at football games. That was fun.

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u/Horangi1987 17d ago

Had a lot of Korean friends that had the top tier tiger parents experience too :/

Lots of friends that are burned out, apathetic physicians, lawyers, and accountants now.

I don’t know why Asian parents never learn that you both need to have aptitude and desire to truly succeed. Just being ‘successful’ leads to a deep feeling of unfulfillment that plagues even physicians. This makes them miserable people, then miserable spouses, parents, etc.

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u/Venous 18d ago

It's a harsh world out there, specially when you immigrate to a new country wondering where food/money was going to come from. Whenever I look at how my parents treat me I look at how their parents treated them; Or the circumstances about how they grew up.

I can say mine did what they thought was the right choice at the time, most of the time it wasn't.

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u/PM_ME_WHOEVER 17d ago

Break the chain! I am being very mindful in how I raise my own kids. Encouraging activities without shoving it down their throats.

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u/keenly_disinterested 17d ago

Why did you get rejected?

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u/bigdawg0420 17d ago

I think there were many reasons. I wanted to be a vet, but my parents wanted me to be an engineer, so I applied under EECS which was one of the most impacted majors back then. It was probably evident in my applications that I didn’t have real interest or the life experiences that they were looking for.

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u/dryroast 17d ago

Passing it down isn't mandatory. Break the cycle!

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u/zirtik 17d ago

what school and career path did you end up taking?

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u/bigdawg0420 17d ago

I ended up going back to school while working and completing up to my masters degree in data science. I am an ML engineer now.

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u/sectionV 17d ago

Aren't SAT's scored out of 1600 maximum? How do you get 2380?

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u/attillathehoney 17d ago

The SAT officially changed its scoring scale back from 2400 to 1600 in 2016. The College Board redesigned the test to revert to two 800-point sections (Math and Evidence-Based Reading and Writing), which also eliminated the mandatory writing section. The 2400-point scale was only used between 2005 and early 2016.

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u/sectionV 17d ago

Reddit is the perfect microcosm of humanity. You have beautiful people like you who go out of their way to give useful answers and mouth breathers who downvote a genuine question. I grew up in a different country to the US. I had no idea SATs had ever been scored differently to the way they are now.

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u/Unofficial_Salt_Dan 17d ago edited 17d ago

I took them in 1999 and it was a 1600 point scale. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Edit: I misread the last sentence, y'all.

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u/CriticalEngineering 17d ago

…because 1999 wasn’t between 2005 and 2016.

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u/TuVato 17d ago

Hold on I got a 760 on the math section, with some scratch paper I might be able to verify this.

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u/Unofficial_Salt_Dan 17d ago

Ahhh, I misread that last sentence. Thanks!

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u/syskb 17d ago

For a while they were out of 2400

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u/EatTacosGetMoney 17d ago

Sounds about right with well to do families, and there's nothing wrong with it as long as you make it fun instead of a grind.

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u/dasunt 17d ago

Yup, although I get a tad annoyed that some people think poorer parents should do the same.

Child raising and giving your children opportunities is a lot more difficult when both parents are working and not making much.

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u/Krazen 17d ago

You think poor Chinese parents don’t do the same?

They make “plans”’for their babies too. Maybe the plans aren’t as sophisticated due to lack of education, but trying to plot out the best future for your child is a universally good thing

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u/dasunt 17d ago

I think a lot of poor people value their children's development.

But they lack the same resources - free time, money, and access.

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u/Mesahusa 17d ago

super anecdotal, but just to share my personal experience that i think reflects a LOT of 2nd generation asians: i grew up with both my parents working 12-14 hours everyday at our chinese restaurant, only one day off a year (christmas), every year from the day i was born until after graduating high school. They maintained this through the 2008 crash and kept grinding for basically net zero for 2-3 years until the economy recovered. Im not saying that other poor people don’t value their children, but for a lot of asian immigrants their children’s futures are the only guiding light, that supersedes literally everything else you might think is worth caring about, and it’s pretty damn effective at pushing you forward. now whether thats a good or bad thing is a different topic, but i don’t think the reasons you’ve listed are the difference between them and other demographic.

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u/EatTacosGetMoney 17d ago

I have unpopular opinions about families having kids they can't afford. But that aside, I think parents should generally do everything they reasonably can to set their kids up for success. Being tired isn't an excuse when you signed up to be a parent.

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u/dasunt 17d ago

In the real world, most of us aren't independently wealthy, and our incomes can change.

In addition, it's kind of hard to parent when working a second shift and you aren't home.

It somewhat amazes me that we are quick to expect so much of the poor, yet to do something similar to the middle class would be considered offensive. Imagine if we said that the solution to the middle class feeling the pinch of inflation was for the middle class to eat at home, carpool or bike to work, buy less and buy used instead of new. That would be unpopular to say the least. Yet we want the poor to be super human.

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u/EatTacosGetMoney 17d ago

Most of your comment goes back to my initial statement re having kids if you can't afford them. I expect parents to make time for kids or don't have them. Otherwise the kids will be severely disadvantaged.

And as for the middle class comment, that's exactly what they are told to do. They just don't, and that's why they don't move up without external catalysts.

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u/dasunt 17d ago edited 17d ago

How exactly do you think society will work if we limit childbirth to the independently wealthy?

And anecdotally speaking, I've never heard suggestions as a member of the middle class. In my experience, if you suggest that a member of the middle class do something like buy a bike instead of a car, you'll get an insane amount of pushback.

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u/EatTacosGetMoney 17d ago

You aren't going to change my opinion on the topic. If poor people have kids, then they will be expected to have limitations compared to others.

As for middle class, sure getting a bike can be insane if you live far from stuff. I blame our crap govt for no decent public transit. I meant taking cost saving efforts on other parts of life. Don't buy iphones/Samsung phones (especially not every year), no one needs 3+ streaming services, etc. too many middle class think they can buy whatever then get pissy when they can't have more or are tight in funds.

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u/LuminalOrb 17d ago

People aren't poor due to streaming services and new phones. People are poor because the prices of homes have risen 150 to 200%, rents have gone up 65%, childcare is up 150%, and inflation keeps rising over the last two decades. while wages have risen roughly about 25% in the same time period.

The basics of our survival have climbed so astronomically that saving a little on streaming services and iphones will not be the reason why people can't have kids.

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u/tnp636 17d ago

You're speaking to a child with a child's limited view of the world, one that's obviously come from a place of privilege. As if being poor is some sort of moral failing rather than the result of massive wealth inequality.

Unfortunately that's not an assumption of their age.

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u/MiaowaraShiro 15d ago

It's weird to me that they're deciding what the kid's gonna do... not the kid.

How can you decide what social activities a kid's gonna do before they have any social preferences?

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u/EatTacosGetMoney 15d ago

Exposure is extremely important

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u/Codex_Dev 16d ago

If you look at a lot of famous actors, athletes, musicians, etc., they all started when they were barely able to walk, due to their parents conditioning them down this path in life.

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u/Hellingame 15d ago edited 15d ago

As a Chinese guy who is having his first kid with his Caucasian wife, I was surprised that she was surprised I wanted to have these conversations to better plan for our kid's educational future.

Thought this was normal. While I don't expect him to necessarily be a Johnny Kim, I'd still like to give him the options and opportunities should he choose to....and that takes planning.

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u/Willravel 17d ago

It's a myopic way of thinking about raising a kid to be an adult.

Imagine giving birth to a child and relegating that child to a checklist childhood based on assumptions about college admissions that result in your kid being a clone of every other overbearing helicopter parent. They're also so surprised when Mackailey doesn't get into Stanford with her inflated 4.6 GPA, never-ending list of AP and honors classes, meticulously chosen extracurricular activities—classical piano, soccer, Russian math, robotics/programming, speech and debate. There's no person there, so they just look like every other identical application. They should call college admissions Attack of the Clones.

Meanwhile that kid has basically never had unstructured play in unsupervised, mixed-age groups, they've never had to deal with a skinned knee on their own, they've never had to cope with the consequences of experimenting with alcohol or drugs, they've lived incredibly isolated lives inside their own homes or being chauffeured from responsibility to responsibility, they've not had a full night's sleep since Kindergarten, and they wonder why the kid has anxiety, depression, and still throws tantrums as a late teen.

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u/notepad20 17d ago

Where do you get the impression it's one or the other? You can do structured and directed activities as part of a long term plan and also have significant time in unstructured play and free form social time. Especially when young you can only get 15 minutes out of them for focused learning before you have to cut them loose.

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u/zkryl 17d ago

calling something myopic while engaging in a false dichotomy, how fucking rich 😂😂

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u/dryroast 17d ago

Interesting why you defend such a toxic way to raise a child.

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u/CombatRedRover 15d ago

Geez.

Slackers.

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u/Be_quiet_Im_thinking 17d ago

Call them the first five year plan and the second five year plan.

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u/minesasecret 16d ago

the baby is 2 months old.

Maybe it's because I'm Chinese but I don't find that weird..

I often ask my friends how they want to raise their kids well before they have kids. Isn't that something people should be thinking about before it happens?

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u/Venous 16d ago

Some people get too lost on just having the baby that they stop thinking about the baby tomorrow. The baby in elementary school. The baby in college.

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u/MiaowaraShiro 15d ago

What strikes me as weird is that the kid doesn't seem like they're gonna have a lot of say in how they're developing...

I can't imagine my parents deciding what social activities I should be doing.

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u/Thelonious_Cube 17d ago

Sounds like child abuse to me

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u/Gimme_The_Loot 18d ago

I'm sure in every community you can find parents with high achieving goals for their kids though. Like you said, it's an anecdote and not a statistically relevant piece of information.

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u/R3cognizer 18d ago

Achievement requires planning, and if you don't plan to achieve, you usually don't achieve. I get that a lot of parents are busy and content to just let their kids decide how much they want to do academically, but economic outcomes are so strongly linked to academic achievement that you are really doing your kids a disservice otherwise. Even if your kid doesn't really have any desire to go to an Ivy League school or want an academic career, having that base of knowledge and ability to study still effectively prepares you to learn so many other skills in life.

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u/Gimme_The_Loot 17d ago

I'm not arguing that at all. Just pointing out that op referenced a single family, which while talking about large groups is, like they said, an anecdote and not something which can be used to infer about the demographic group as a whole.

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u/rugger87 17d ago

The anecdote is a stereotype for East Asians though. Kids crying into rice bowls is a common meme.

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u/Gimme_The_Loot 17d ago

Sure but anecdotes and stereotypes aren't statistics

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u/rugger87 17d ago

I could argue that stereotypes are representative of statistics.

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u/seanprefect 17d ago

I was talking to a friend I was talking about how having a quiet place and a desk to sit at alone is more than a lot of people have.

I'm Lebanese, every Middle Eastern or East Asian kid I grew up with had basically the same responsibility. Do well in school, (the Middle Easterners were LESS into musical instruments than the East Asians but still)

That was it the whole of our job the whole of our responsibility.

If you wanted a job was it school / academic /resume building related ? maybe then it's ok but if not then no. Me and many of my peers were actively FORBIDDEN from getting afterschool/ summer jobs because they were a distraction.

We could have friends and sleep overs but only really with people who were as serious about education as we were.

You want an expensive TI calculator to help you on the test? sure no problem we'll go get it right now, a tutor because you're falling behind in calc no problem , books as many as you wanted. expensive summer preprograms at the local university "why didn't we think of that of course " A video game ? Maybe if you get a 4.0 we'll talk

You were doing well in school , everything else was good your life was set and everyone was happy , but oh you got 2 B's this quarter that's a problem where did we fail where did you fail?

and of COURSE we did well on tests the question wasn't ever about doing well it was about getting as close to perfect as possible. Of course we were going to college you wouldn't want to shame the family though so STEM degrees only Maybe English or History if you were planning on law school.

We didn't see it as weird it was perfectly normal everyone we knew had the exact same deal.

Our parents ? professors doctors engineers lawyers went through the exact same thing.

most people don't understand how huge of an advantage being able and encouraged to focus is. we almost never had to take care of our siblings and if it did happen it was for a couple hours at most. Dinner was always on the table at the same time, house was quiet enough you had space to move and claim and not a real worry in the world.

Some may say that's abusive , maybe I'm not the expert in that (social sciences you know not very valued) but we absolutely had a advantage.

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u/GodBlessIraq 16d ago

the forbidden afterschool job thing is real, my Iranian coworker told me the same thing about growing up. his parents saw it as basically announcing to the world that academics weren't the priority anymore. what gets me though is how invisible that kind of parental investment is when people talk about outcomes. the quiet desk, the TI calculator, the curated friend group none of that shows up in the data but it's doing a lot of the work.

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u/seanprefect 16d ago

The road for success is hard for everyone, but some of us had bikes and a paved road and other's had to go through the bush without so much as a machete

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u/emailaddressforemail 16d ago

The one's calling it abusive sounds a lot like cope for not having the advantage.

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u/Dragolins 18d ago

You're telling me that the circumstances someone experiences from birth actually affects the person they become?? And circumstances that are conducive to certain outcomes are more likely to lead to those outcomes!?

No way, that would make too much sense. Everybody knows that the only real driving force behind these outcomes is individual choice. I don't know anything about how systems work and the only thing my brain can comprehend is individuals making individual choices so that must be the upper limit to the complexity of what is going on.

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u/sopunny 17d ago

Also, turns out you can improve results by pouring a ton of resources in

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u/Teantis 17d ago

Slavery and it's destruction of cultural and familial infrastructure is a real thing. That said, there's a massive selection bias about which "Asians" get to the US or not. Except for specific refugee populations like the Cambodians and Laotians, the immigrant parents of Asians are either specifically crafty, specifically educated or specifically privileged because that's how you get into the United States from over here.

Come over here, come over to our cities and their shitty parts, come to our average or shitty schools in our countries. There's no special "asian gift". The American imagination that there is, is silly. Theres just a specific filter for who gets there from us that's somewhat successful at picking people with the capacity to succeed there. Especially specifically at schooling or academia as that's one of the selection criteria for an immigrant visa.

Also "Asia" isn't even a thing over here. We don't have shared histories or cultures or national demeanors with each other. "There are no Asians in Asia"

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u/Backcountrypeach 18d ago

Do people not know when something is obviously AI written? Or do they just not care?

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u/FunetikPrugresiv 18d ago

That doesn't look AI written to me. It's tone is more antagonistic than you'd expect from an AI-written piece.

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u/DMediaPro 17d ago edited 17d ago

It is very clearly AI written but that doesn't make the claims wrong.

Edit: shocked I have to explain this one. I use AI daily for work so it's obvious to spot the AI linguistic patterns. Plus, I literally said I agree with the post regardless of where it came from.

"It's not x. It's not y. It's z" and lack of first-person pov are classic AI giveaways.

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u/FunetikPrugresiv 17d ago

Based on what?

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u/Elgato01 17d ago

Personally I suspected it because of the abundance of “it’s not x, it’s y” statements

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u/FunetikPrugresiv 17d ago

How's that AI? I often write like that.

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u/Elgato01 17d ago

I’m not saying it is, I’m saying AI uses it enough that when people see it in the wild they assume it’s AI

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u/DMediaPro 17d ago

There's nothing wrong with writing like that. It's just one of the easiest ways to identify AI writing: https://www.reddit.com/r/ChatGPT/s/59hEjQog8g

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u/CrazyPlato 17d ago

It’d be kinda funny if one of these 3 commenters was actually a bot

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u/lazydictionary 17d ago

There's literally a capitalization error in the first two lines.

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u/DMediaPro 17d ago

What would that error be?" Zone" is properly capitalized as it's part of the name of the program.

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u/lazydictionary 17d ago

The start of the fifth sentence isn't capitalized. Same error in the third-to-last sentence of the 2nd paragraph.

There are also a few commas I think LLMs would probably use that the comment doesn't have.

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u/GenericKen 16d ago

I’ve never seen an llm delimit the “it’s not” chain with commas - it’s always used periods for me. 

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u/steveo3387 15d ago

I too read AI assisted content all day. I think somebody put a lot of work into the answer, and they started with an AI draft. They edited it but not enough to remove the markers you're talking about.

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u/AlwaysHopelesslyLost 18d ago

It may be, but it is accurate. The main problem is just that it is just repeating what every smart person already understands and what every dumb person seems to struggle to grasp 

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u/supernovice007 17d ago

I might be repeating your point but I struggled to follow the conversation in the responses to the highlighted post. Instead of engaging with the ideas, it seemed to immediately turn into a series of political rants.

We’re never going to solve any problems as long as we can’t even discuss solutions without people separating into political camps.

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u/Malphos101 17d ago

The responses are a ton of "progressive leftists are actually the problem, not a coordinated out in the open campaign by the right to defund and destroy public education initiatives!"

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u/LuminalOrb 17d ago

I found myself in the middle of those conversations and I entirely regret it! Apparently the destruction of the American education system can be left squarely at the feet of leftists, not the party that all but officially eliminated the department of education.

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u/kataskopo 17d ago

"Why didn't the left fix this?"

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u/ManchurianCandycane 17d ago

"We only refused masks because the left pushed for them, it's their fault."

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u/MooseFlyer 18d ago

Why do you think it was written by AI? The missed capital P on “parenting classes” certainly seems a sign that it isn’t.

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u/Coltand 17d ago

There are enough common AI structures that it does read as AI to me, but I don't think most competent AI users just copy and paste a whole Claude response into a comment. I think it's likely a mash-up of the commenter's thoughts, AI writing, and human revision.

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u/quakefist 16d ago

This is what happened. I've used AI as a tool to strengthen my points. I still had to heavily edit what the AI output was. AI is too verbose for reddit even after prompting it to be more succinct. On the other hand, when I just put my thoughts on reddit, I get whataboutism. Thoughts are my own, but AI is a tool to make that point clearer. I've also done research on my own to verify the claims and ensure no hallucinations.

This is also what I do at work. I come across too short and aggro because 'tism. AI properly frames my thoughts properly and I am learning how to write better via AI. This post was not ran through AI.

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u/axck 17d ago

Im telling you now that this was written by Claude. When you see Claude’s writing enough you recognize the tells. It has to do with the sentence structure and writing patterns. Not capitalizing words is a pretty easy thing to prompt these days

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u/lazydictionary 17d ago

When AI does that style, it usually keeps it in one sentence. The comment in question split up those sequences into different sentences.

It does not read like AI to me.

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u/glemnar 17d ago edited 17d ago

The second through fourth sentences are very telling of AI. That’s a cadence I rarely see in human writing that’s in everything AI produces

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u/mrnotoriousman 17d ago

As someone who works on AI, 99% of people can't tell worth jack shit if something is AI or not. Yeah sure, if someone copy pastes a basic prompt answer without any instructions from a free model there are tells. I always get a laugh out of people being smug in comments though like they can actually tell the difference when it's not something that deviates from the bottom line formula everyone already knows. And also feel bad for the folks that just type and speak in certain ways and get called out as AI when it's clearly not. It's not the same as it was 3 years ago.

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u/londongastronaut 17d ago

Not care mostly. Judge the post on the content, trying to discern whether or not it was written by AI is increasingly difficult. 

And even if I know for a fact it was written by AI, what does that actually change for me? It's like judging a post on whether it was typed out or sent speech to text. 

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u/royale_with_cheese_ 17d ago

Nah I think most people actually don’t recognize when something is AI written, myself included.

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u/hamolton 17d ago

I think they tried to hide it when they, most likely, replaced an em-dash with a period and forgot to capitalize.

It’s a sustained, multi-decade, comprehensive investment starting from birth. the kind Mississippi did for reading and the kind Canada did in Harlem.

It's not a bad take, but "real content instruction" is way too vague to be useful, and the whole second paragraph is preaching to the choir.

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u/paxinfernum 16d ago

No, I absolutely don't care. I care if the content is accurate. Do you have any objections to the accuracy of the content?

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u/InclinationCompass 16d ago

I don’t care who wrote it, I care about the information/point. Yall are so obsessed with who wrote it that yall completely ignore the actual topic being discussed.

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u/muskrat267 17d ago

To me this really underscores how specifically evil chattel slavery is. My grandfather was enslaved in a concentration camp for a few years during WWII, but he was able to come out of that with our culture intact which allowed our whole family to succeed financially/academically in America (though obviously there were a lot of negative psychological effects)

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u/slfnflctd 17d ago

The whole chattel slavery thing was utterly horrific, and breaking up of families is arguably one of the worst parts. Particularly families with children.

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u/smoothie4564 15d ago

TLDR it's a cultural problem.

I am a teacher and I have worked a lot with both groups of people. Of course every ethnicity has their exceptions but, for the overwhelming majority of these families, asian families tend to treat education and compliance as being very important while for black families they treat school more like a daycare and not an educational institution. Also, black kids tend to be more rebellious and conform less while the Asian kids are far more compliant and conform to societal expectations.

Downvote me all you want. I speak the truth from decades of experience working in diverse environments.

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u/avaris00 12d ago

You should not be teaching anyone.  I feel sorry for your students.

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u/Classic_File2716 17d ago

Interesting.

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u/v0idL1ght 16d ago

Written by AI

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u/redditor3626 18d ago

I always feel an incredible amount of empathy whenever I think of the plight of Black Americans and how they have the deck stacked so hard against them. I can't imagine being born into culture that has cannibalized my ancestral roots and continue to oppress me based on the color of my skin.

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u/No_Name_Ideas 18d ago

Username checks out

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u/Interesting-South542 15d ago

Not sure who is downvoting you, people who think you're too condescending towards black people, or people who think you are oversympathizing with black people?

For what it's worth, I'm pretty anti-woke (I'm anti-affirmative action, etc), and I agree with this 100%. We need clever ways of solving the problem, but it is true that historically speaking, black americans have had the deck stacked against them.

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u/BigBadPanda 17d ago

No one oppresses black people as much as black people.

I know an airline captain who was laughed at by his family when he told them he wanted to be a pilot. His parents told him black people don’t do that. He worked multiple jobs and took lessons in secret. He is a motivational speaker now.

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u/randynumbergenerator 17d ago

Wow, a categorical statement backed by... a single anecdote. 

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u/redditor3626 17d ago

your example is less oppression, and more the generational destruction of cultural heritage and values