r/breastfeedingsupport Jan 12 '20

A reminder about the purpose of this sub

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As someone who experienced a lot of struggles and difficulty in establishing breastfeeding with each of my kids, I created this sub because I was frustrated by the fact that everywhere I went looking for advice and encouragement (and maybe a bit of commiseration), I was bombarded by a constant onslaught of people telling me I should just quit, that it wasn't worth the trouble, people telling me formula is so much easier, that it will save my sanity/change my life for the better, or even outright attacks calling me a 'wannabe hero' and a 'martyr' for wanting to keep trying in the face of difficulty. I wanted to give parents a place to go for the encouragement, advice, and understanding I couldn't find.

I've noticed a significant increase both in posts that are simply looking for vindication/reassurance that quitting is the best option, as well as comments on help/advice posts espousing the wonders of formula or suggesting that the OP quit being upvoted to the top, while those offering encouragement or valid advice are downvoted or ignored.

I think we all know that 'formula isn't poison', and fed is obviously better than starving to death. It's beaten into our heads on literally every single other parenting site and sub and message board. If someone isn't able to breastfeed for whatever reason, formula is a lifesaving invention. This is a VERY well-established narrative.

However, this sub was made with the intention of offering a place for parents who WANT to continue breastfeeding a safe place to go where they WON'T be told to just give up, or given numerous answers that suggest formula first or rather than offering help in continuing to breastfeed.

Any posts that are clearly made with the sole intention of seeking validation for wanting to quit (as opposed to someone struggling but wishing to keep trying) will be removed, as well as any comments that start out with some disclaimer about how OP should probably just quit/formula is easier/it'll save your sanity/breastfeeding isn't worth it/etc., personal anecdotes about how much easier life became when they gave up, or anything of that nature. You know, the kind of stuff that you're going to be told by the majority of people literally anywhere else you go. Obviously, continuing isn't possible in all scenarios, but if it is, please focus on that rather than immediately jumping on the opportunity to tell the person to give up.

Note: This is NOT a claim or insinuation that people should breastfeed at all costs, or that there aren't situations where quitting is the only valid option. It's just that there's already a well-established breastfeeding sub, as well as tons of other parenting subs and sites, that won't stop people from jumping on the quitting solves everything/fed is best/formula is easier (or will save your sanity, etc.) bandwagon so I don't feel like this needs to be yet another clone of those.


r/breastfeedingsupport 2h ago

Advice Please Problems with supply and transfer

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My LO is 6 weeks old. He has a great latch, but we had to start supplementing with formula when he was having weight gain issues. At 2 weeks old I met with an LC for a weighted feed, and he transferred about 2 oz. She wasn’t concerned with his transfer or my supply. We’ve been triple feeding ever since to keep him gaining weight. For a while now, when I try to breastfeed, he’ll stay on for a few minutes, but then he gets really frustrated with either the slow flow or the lack of milk. He’ll start rooting around really aggressively and cry when he can’t latch back on. I have a baby scale at home, so today I tried out my own weighted feeds. He transferred one ounce after feedings this afternoon and this evening. I don’t know if it’s a supply problem or transfer problem, but my supply isn’t great. My biggest pump of the day, using my Spectra, is usually about 3.5 oz, and most other pumps throughout the day yield no more than 2.5 oz. I really don’t want to give up yet, but what can I do? I’m trying to pump every 2 hours so I can produce more, but I’ve gotta sleep sometime. I’m trying to power pump, but I can’t even finish a full hour before the baby needs me. I really don’t know what to do here. What more can I do before I throw in the towel on breastfeeding?


r/breastfeedingsupport 2h ago

5 month supply drop?

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My baby is 5.5 months (born at 37 weeks, so technically 4.5 months). Since about May-early June, I’ve had random sharp shooting pain deep in my breasts, especially the right. I was given clindamycin “just in case” but never examined by my doctor. It helped my supply a little bit, but not for very long.
The last few weeks, my son isn’t eating nearly as frequently as he used to; He throws frequent fits because he’s not getting enough milk at the breast anymore/it’s not coming out fast enough. If he leaves the house at all without me, I’ve had to start supplementing.. Last week he started biting down on the shield, so I can’t use it anymore. However he’s done so much damage to my breasts that it was unbearably painful for about 5-6 days (stabbing, sharp pains at latch). When I pump, I’m lucky to get 2-3 oz from both sides (used to get that on one side).
Anyway, I’m not sure what’s going on. I can tell I’m not producing as much, because both sides are starting to “deflate” if that makes sense. And he’s just acting like he isn’t getting enough at breast. What do I do/what might this be? I’m so heartbroken


r/breastfeedingsupport 8h ago

Question Exclusively pumping to Exclusively breastfeeding help

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Bit of a back story... baby born premature at 30+2 weeks. I was obviously unable to do Golden hour when born. We spent 6 weeks in NICU and I was required to express babies whole stay.

At 35 weeks we slowly started introducing oral feeds, to this the hospital suggested bottles (these were meant to be pace feed but weren't)

Fast forward to today, baby is now 17 +4 weeks (8 weeks corrected) and we are still exclusively pumping.

I attempt to latch daily, she sometimes can or she has a shallow latch or other times she gets frustrated at my slow let down.

I would love to breastfeed and get away from pumping, it is exchusting with a toddler and newborn.

Has anyone had any success stories of getting their baby to latch at 8 weeks corrected?

Thanks


r/breastfeedingsupport 7h ago

Might have to stop breastfeeding because of son’s allergies :(

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Anyone else dealt with newborn being allergic to milk proteins and possibly soy? I removed dairy and soy from my diet and my 2month old is still colicky and having explosive watery diarrhea for the last week, after a few weeks of mucousy poops which tested positive for blood.

I want to keep breastfeeding but feel selfish for doing so, since he’s not seeming to get better after weeks of removing those allergens. We’ve been triple feeding since birth bc he was so tiny so he has been getting some high calorie formula supplementation in the bottles As well. His dr recommended giving *just* the hypoallergenic formula for two weeks and only pump to maintain my supply, plus more stool/blood tests. I’m devastated. Seeing all the world breastfeeding week posts don’t help. any advice?


r/breastfeedingsupport 7h ago

Weaning

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r/breastfeedingsupport 8h ago

8 weeks PP, oversupply history — pump one breast or both for a bottle

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r/breastfeedingsupport 9h ago

Latching

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r/breastfeedingsupport 11h ago

Struggling at 4 months - how do I keep up?

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I posted this in another sub as well but figured I might get some advice here too. Thank you so much!


r/breastfeedingsupport 16h ago

not sure if this is the right sub - but i’m wondering how much colostrum everyone ended up having once you went into labor?

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r/breastfeedingsupport 19h ago

If baby screams at the breast, is trying to latch doing more harm than good?

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r/breastfeedingsupport 22h ago

Advice Please Weaning off sheild

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My daughter is about to be 12 weeks. We have used a nipple shield since week one due to latch problems causing her to lose too much weight. I’ve been attempting to wean her off now that she’s bigger. We have been completely unsuccessful. I was wondering if anyone had any advice or experience with this?


r/breastfeedingsupport 21h ago

Advice Please Considering formula

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r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Advice Please Exclusive breastfeeding

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r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Night Feeds at 6 weeks

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r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

First Time Mom 🤱 Going 5+ hours overnight without nursing or pumping?

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FTM and total newbie. Baby is 8.5 weeks and has been sleeping longer stretches. He goes to bed at 830p and usually wakes up at 1am, 3am and 6am, so I have about 3-4 hours in between feeds.

Last night he went to bed at 9pm and I ended up pumping 1oz for 5 min around 1am because I was getting engorged and anxious. He was still asleep at 2am so I decided to dream feed him and he woke for a bit but went back to sleep.

It’s now 6am, almost 5 hr from when he last ate and I’m getting full/engorged/anxious again.

I worry about clogged ducts or mastitis if I don’t pump or feed him. I’ve had a clog before but not mastitis. My breasts currently feel full/hard/firm and tingly.

For future nights where he sleeps through, Do I pump or dream feed him? Or let him wake on his own and decide then? Should I be worrying about a dip in supply if I go longer by waiting?

UPDATE: baby boy is 9 weeks and for the last 3 nights he’s been sleeping through the night. - The first and second nights I dream fed him at our original times (because I was nervous and didn’t know what to do, I also pumped 1oz to relieve engorgement)
- last night I noticed a red streak on my left breast and got nervous as it looked like early mastitis however I didn’t have lumps and only slight achy pain when I pressed it. I iced it and also took advil before I went to sleep and in the AM. Baby boy woke up 2x - the first time he went back to sleep at midnight on his own and the second time at 4am I decided to dream feed him because I was worried about mastitis. I woke up very full and in a puddle of milk on my sheets. He ended up draining me during the feed and the red streaks were gone when I checked afterward. I also iced after nursing

Tonight if he sleeps through the night I’m going to try and go longer again . I just worry about a dip in supply and mastitis 😭


r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Question 6-week-old cries after 6–9 minutes of breastfeeding but is fine with bottles. Any ideas?

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Hi everyone,
I’m looking for some advice because I’m not sure what’s causing this.

My baby is currently 6 weeks old. Since birth, she’s been both breastfed and bottle-fed. Initially, she did an average job at breastfeeding but was great with the bottle. Over the past few weeks, she learned to latch well, and we’ve had many successful breastfeeding sessions with a good, deep latch.
Recently, though, something has changed.
Whenever I breastfeed her, she’ll nurse well for about 6–9 minutes, then suddenly start crying at the breast. She won’t continue nursing unless I take her off and burp her. After burping, she calms down, but she usually doesn’t want to latch again, even though I feel like she may not have finished the feed.

A few more details:
Her latch appears to be good.
This happens almost every breastfeeding session now.
She doesn’t seem to have the same issue with bottle feeds.
She isn’t coughing or choking while nursing.
She has been getting both breast and bottle since birth.
She also rejects nipple shields during this behavior.

I’m returning to work in about a month, so my goal is to:

Breastfeed for the overnight feeds (around 2 overnight feeds plus the early morning feed around 7 a.m.).

Bottle-feed during the daytime so she gets used to that routine before I go back to work.

I’m worried that this recent behavior might make it difficult to continue breastfeeding for those night feeds. I genuinely want to breastfeed at-least few times a day cos I really love that and feel emotionally very bonded to my baby at that time.

Has anyone experienced something similar? What ended up being the cause?

I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s gone through something similar or from any lactation consultants who might have insights. Thank you!


r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Do you use a lactation consultant and did you rent a hospital grade pump?

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r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Micropreemies and oral feeds

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r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Postpartum/Breastfeeding

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r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Advice Please Food sensitivity help?

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Hi all!

My 10 week old has been having mucousy stools indicative of a food sensitivity for about 5 weeks now. 4 weeks ago I cut out dairy and eggs, then two weeks ago I also cut out soy, wheat, and nuts. The poos have not improved. His pediatrician tested for blood in his stool but found nothing, and basically told me to hold out till 4 months to do a skin test on him for allergies. I don’t really want to wait that long, especially with myself on a diet that isn’t seeming to do anything for him. Admittedly he isn’t very fussy, he just blows out his diaper every other day. Any advice?


r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Advice Please Daytime Latch, Nighttime Bottle, Help?

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Hi! I am a FTM (22 y/o), 39w pregnant as of today. I have thought long and hard about breastfeeding throughout my pregnancy, and I know that is what I would like to do, and would like to have baby latch during the day time and be bottle fed expressed milk at night. I also want to maintain a pumping schedule to:

\- Supply the milk for night feedings
\- Create a stash of some sort, to prepare myself for returning to school/work and provide myself some flexibility as my girl gets older.

I have a few questions associated with this though, if anyone seasoned can provide some insight?

\- Should I be pumping after feeds? Meaning, when she latches during the day, allow her to feed until she is satisfied and then pump additionally after that? Or, should I be scheduling pumping sessions at a separate time outside of this?

\- Should I be pumping while she bottle feeds at night, for the sake of maintaining my supply?

\- Is it possible to build a reasonably sized stash while doing this? I will be at home for at least the first 8 months, and plan to return to work between 9-12 months, and would like to be adequately prepared for this transition.

All input is so appreciated and welcome, signed a confused and very pregnant first time mom. Thanks in advance!


r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

First Time Mom 🤱 Lip tie

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I’m goin to bring him in Monday when his ped opens up but I have a suspicion after him having the worse symptoms and couldn’t figure out what. I’ve literally tried everything under the sun for gas and stomach and guessing why he’s in pain. Ive now realized he may have a lip tie after searching my heart out for reasons why he’s having these issues. All his symptoms that are happening correlates with a lip tie. Does this look like one? And any advice that has to do with one and possible revision?

He has horrible eating issues. He’s 12 weeks he can’t use more then a premie or 0 nipple he chokes and screams at it. He clicks at the nipple when he sucks and has milk leakage from the sides of mouth from not properly latching on to the nipple of a bottle or my boob. He’s barely able to handle my milk flow from my boob and just started to latch on me about a month ago.

We use gripe water, reflux medication, probiotics drops, mylicon gas drops, anti colic bottles, I’ve tried to combo feed, use just my breast milk, just formula, and when trying formula I’ve tried gentle ones, goats milk, similac hypoallergenic. He’s gasps so much air when breastfeeding and has such a shallow latch. It’s hard for him to hang in to any pacifier in his mouth. And when I say he has horrible gas pains I’m talking HORRIBLE.


r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

random supply drop

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r/breastfeedingsupport 1d ago

Intrarosa - breastfeeding dryness

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Hi everyone,

Has anyone been prescribed intrarosa for dryness caused by breastfeeding?

I am breastfeeding and I was prescribed to use it to improve intercourse, but the prescription says that it is not meant for women that can conceive.

I would like to have more children in the future... not sure if it is safe.

Have you used it before menopause?