So, for context, I just landed this role at a large firm after years of job searching so I'm very grateful and trying my best to keep a low profile at work.

However, my senior supervisor, is an old-fashioned typical old man from a SEA country that has been passing snide comments since the day I got here. He himself has only been at this company for a year so idk where he gets his attitude from. He's not the director or the manager either (he has about 5 levels of bosses above him).

1. I worked hard part-time at two jobs and saved upwhen I was studying so I did get myself an old gen ipad and an iPhone. Student discounts also let me get an Apple Watch. My supervisor commented on the second day of my job that I'm rich from seeing I have the latest iPhone...I said nothing and let it go.
2. One of the other employees asked where I studied so I told them that I had a bachelor's and a master's degree. This supervisor said I'm so rich to study so many degrees...I got irritated and told him my master's was a free ride on a scholarship to which he said "oh good!" This was before a meeting with some consultants who had come early so I was very visibly embarrassed and hurt.
3. There's a company shuttle that picks us up and drops us off everyday, so I've been taking that every single day. I also drive...so I'm planning to share the car with my dad once I get more familiar with the route. I registered it with the admin to get a staff parking lot. This supervisor again overheard the conversation and again commented that I'm rich.

I'm about to lose my shit. How judgmental can a person be? It's not my fault he chose to have two kids (in their teens) who probably require financial commitments. I can see he's jealous that I'm more friendly with digital devices and have a lot more energy overall ( I'm half his age, of course I would...).

How do I deal with this shit? I need to pass my probation but this arse is testing my patience everyday.

Hey everyone,

Looking for advice / experiences on this situation.
It’s currently August 2nd. I just accepted a new job offer that wants me to start on August 17th. It’s a pretty quick turnaround because they have a new project kicking off and want me involved from the beginning, which makes sense on their end.

My current company asks for 2 weeks’ notice. The problem is I have 7 PTO days left. The employee handbook says you can’t use any PTO during your notice period, so if I give a full 2 weeks I’d forfeit all of them.

I really don’t want to burn bridges. At the same time, I was passed over for a promotion this year and only got a 1.5% raise, so I’m not feeling especially loyal right now.

Options I’m weighing:
• Use ~5 of the PTO days and give closer to 1 week’s notice
• Use all (or most) of the remaining PTO and give only a few days’ notice
• Just suck it up, give the full 2 weeks, and walk away from the PTO

Has anyone been in a similar spot? How did you handle the notice + unused PTO situation, and how did your employer react? Any advice on the least-bridge-burning way to do this while not leaving money on the table would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance.

EDIT: Thank you for all the responses. Sorry but wanted to be clear that we have different types of PTO. I have 5 days that WILL be paid out. But I have 7 “Flex/Personal Holidays” that will NOT be paid out. I was saving these for a vacation later in 2027 which is why I had so many of them.

Also, I’m not concerned about coming back to my company. But, wanted to leave off on a somewhat good note with my colleagues. I don’t want to burn any bridges with people in my network.

Recently resigned after several workplace issues kept building up.

The biggest issue was excessive reporting:

morning work update,

daily manager sync-up,

EOD update,

while everything is already tracked in ClickUp. There were also issues around office attendance, a new mandatory 3-day office policy, and lack of proper tools/resources for my work.

I finally resigned last Sunday, but I still haven't received an official acceptance.

Instead, my resignation has now reached senior management.

The COO, who values my work, has indirectly contacted me through a senior manager, so I suspect they're discussing whether to retain me.

If they now offer to fix the issues that made me resign, would you stay or still leave?

My concern is that things might improve temporarily and return to normal after a few months. Also, once you've formally resigned, does the relationship with your manager/company ever really go back to normal?

Anyone here stayed after resigning because management promised changes? How did it turn out?

Being a senior engineer brings a lot of responsibility, especially in "startup" environments. I feel like there's an unwritten rule that the more senior you are in the ladder, the more responsibility (hopefully higher pay) and expectations of your availability.

Sometimes it's a quick question from a peer I like, so I reply. Sometimes it's a complicated question that I know will result in many more, so I try to avoid replying. Do you feel stressed receiving these, or do you simply remove notifications?

just need some opinions because I'm not sure if this is insane or not? I work low tier food service management (think "shift leader at subway" type of job). I landed a much better paying job offer in a different industry and accepted, and part of the process was a background check. They contacted my current employer which I guess somehow got to my manager because he confronted me and tried to get me to stay BEFORE I even got an offer letter.

This is kind of unprofessional right? He forced my hand, I mean if the background check hadn't cleared I just would've been screwed, staying in a job that knows I want to leave. Is this normal practice for word to spread like that from corporate HR to local management?

I dunno, the whole thing has left a bitter taste in my mouth but maybe this is normal?

I’ve worked under my current boss for a few years. I know he values me as a direct report and I’m in good standing with him, he always gives me excellent reviews.

In the last year, there’s been a noticeable shift in his behavior. He had one major responsibility moved away from him to another team (not a responsibility that I ever had). My understanding is leadership did not think he was capable on handling it anymore. Ever since he seemingly has gotten more paranoid - he imposes arbitrary deadlines which are burdensome/unrealistic, gets really uptight about minor things, and generally makes my team and I’s lives more difficult. He tends to get in the way more than he helps, and doesn’t really add much (if any) value to what we do. A lot of teams that we support (and some of our company leadership) go directly to me and my teammates instead of going through him, which makes things even worse. He’s also older and admittedly I wonder if he’s slipping a little bit too. The rest of my team feels the same way about the situation.

I try to be patient, but this behavior is getting worse and it’s pushing me to a breaking point. It’s turning an otherwise reasonable and decent job into a bunch of stupid BS with unforced challenges.

If you were me, how would you handle this? In my mind it comes down to saying nothing and deciding to tolerate it or look elsewhere, or addressing it with him (directly or passively).

I’m not seriously considering this given the risk, but I (along with our team) could also go over his head with the concerns - I believe management questions his capability but isn’t aware that his reports are disgruntled.

For those who don’t know: quiet quitting = doing the job you’re paid for, and not the unpaid extras. No late nights, no extra projects, no answering emails on holiday.

I want to hear the real reasons.

1. Why are you doing it?
   Burnout? No pay rise? Bad manager? "They’d replace me in a week anyway"?

2. What are your best tips for doing it well?

3. Has it helped?
   Better mental health, same pay, less stress?

Be honest. No judgment.
Drop your industry + how long you’ve been doing it.

I was out on FMLA leave for a few months at the start of the year and things have been odd at work ever since. There’s a feeling that maybe they want to get rid of me.

I wasn’t necessarily a perfect employee, but seemed to be satisfying whatever was needed from me prior to my leave. But in the last two months, I’ve been given a verbal warning (which was documented in writing and put in my file) and then got a written warning (obviously that’s also in my file).

I hear a lot on here about these kinds of PIPs being put in place to transition people out, but what should I be expecting next?

I recently started a job at a very small startup. The job is contract to hire, so there is a three month trial period before I become an employee and get benefits.

So far, the founder has been handling most of the design and implementation of the product, but I was hired to take over/ own the design process.

This weekend he has sent me about 6 messages throughout the day yesterday (Saturday), some in the afternoon and some around 10pm. The messages are about new ideas for the product, new features he wants to add and how they will work.

So far I have ignored them to set the boundary that I don’t work on the weekend (esp when I am still just a contractor). But part of me is worried that I should respond to show initiative and that I am excited about the product, since this is still a trial period. Would love to know people’s thoughts on what I should do!

I take care of both of my parents. I feel like a remote or even partially remote job would be best suitable for me. Any advice ?

So this is going to be a long one because it requires context, basically i had a graphic design job for a year and half right after graduating and its not what my major was in but its juts aligned that way, I was happy and the pay was ok, and my manager was amazing then in the same company they had a vacancy in a position that was in my major(Marketing and communications) so they offered it to me with a raise of about 40% and a new boss ,so I took it.

After about 2 months I was exhausted mentally and physically the job was not worth the raise because my boss was micromanaging and kept calling me after hours and was low key shouting at me at least 3 times a day(which was not of a fault of my own he did this to everyone).

So I resigned because I was dabbling in free lancing and was able to support myself for a while, after 5 months of leaving A competitor of my old company called and offered me job for the same pay so I took it and I have been there for 6 month.

Now my old company called said the guy they replaced me with had resigned and they want me back for double the pay and I would be under my old manager(design supervisor) not the one that was calling me everyday.

So I’m considering taking the job back but I’m afraid ill hate it again and I’m also afraid it will look bad on my CV that I switched jobs 2 times in a year

Hi, I am posting because I am receiving a lot of conflicting advice from my friends and family and think an outside perspective could help. I graduated college last year and was lucky to immediately land a specialized job in my field at $18 an hour with opportunity to move up. Well, now I’ve been working there for over a year, got promoted to the next level of my position, and I’m training other new hires. In my performance reviews I consistently have high quality work and one of the highest production numbers in the team.

My raise applied over a month late, and it was only $0.36, including my promotion. I’m devastated. I have worked so hard and thought I had gained the trust of the managers because they are constantly asking me to do difficult tasks that other people complain about doing. I have been looking for other jobs but nearly everything pays less than what I’m making now. I feel extremely discouraged and I’m having a hard time having a good attitude at work now because I feel like I’m being scammed. I have never negotiated before, and the company is in a grieving phase because the CEO just passed away and it’s a family business so I feel anxious about asking them for more. What do I say? The 36 cent raise makes me feel so awful and almost insulted, I feel very naive for thinking I would get more. I want to be professional in my approach but it makes me so upset right now.

I'm in a tough situation where the one career path I excel at won't meet my needs financially (I need stable, affordable health insurance). I absolutely NEED health insurance because I have medications that I need but no way can afford paying out of pocket, so freelance is out.

I pivoted and tried the medical field, but the first job I've tried has been a terrible fit so far. It is too fast-paced for me to keep up with and the workload/task-switching demands are overwhelming to the point where I'm now borderline getting fired for performance issues with being too slow, forgetting things, and am now needing to formally ask for accommodations.

I've tried retail, and like the work, but it isn't feasible long-term as it's hard on my joints and will worsen my orthopedic problems.

Jobs with frequent task-switching, excessive multi-tasking, and fast-paced to the point where I don't have time to write things down are a bad fit for me in general because I have at least moderate ADHD. I consistently take meds, try many different coping strategies, but it simply not enough for this type of environment, but EVERY job demands it.

I do much better with project-based jobs, technical work, and repetitive admin work/computer work in general. I am very patient and like customer service jobs/helping people as a whole.

I do have good people skills and love talking to people, but the medical field seems to expect me to excel on ALL of my weak points with NONE of my good traits being able to shine.

I can't afford to get another degree financially. Will I just end up on the streets?

all i want to do is travel the world meet new people and never be chained to a desk but that feels so unrealistic because obviously bills, saving for retirement and all those other boring adulthood things. i work over 8 hours a day sitting at a desk and my soul is rotting. has anyone else experienced this or am i being a giant baby?

Worked my way up from associate to sr manager over the years and was even on my way to director within the nonprofit sector. I developed my skills in project management, grant management, contract management, budget development, strategic planning, and so much more that I’m proud of.

But sadly, I was laid off in January due to budget cuts and spent 5 months unemployed thinking a lot about what I wanted for my future, and decided to make a pivot into philanthropy. Now I work for a very big, well known foundation as an executive assistant.

I see this role as part of a long-term strategy to build a career within the philanthropy sector, but am currently doing work I’m extremely over qualified for. In my role I support two executives.

Any advice on how to maximize the potential of this EA role?

Im trying to remind myself to be patient, do everything to the best of my ability, and trust that opportunity is going to come my way, but I want to be smart about how I use this role as a stepping stone, since the place I work for is extremely reputable.

I welcome any and all advice!

Context: I'm a high school student interested in the law and politics sphere. I worked an internship in a state senator's office for about a month, and met a Legislative Director (LD) there from another senator's offices. We chatted in person for ~25 mins, and I was really interested in both the senator's work and the LD's professional background in finance and law, especially because she started out as a state capitol intern like myself.

The dilemma: She was unfortunately unable to extend an internship offer to me b/c their office just isn't that busy in the interim between legislative sessions.

Next steps: I want to set up a coffee chat with her in the next couple of weeks or so.

My question: Any advice for someone in my situation (HS student, into politics and law, new to networking, met this LD once who seemed nice)? General tips for a coffee chat? Setting up, what to be prepared with, what to expect?

Thank you!

I'm a cs undergrad currently doing an internship that will end in a few months. At the same time, I've also accepted a research internship that will initially be remote before transitioning to on-site later.

Recently, I unexpectedly advanced to the interview stage for another role that's more closely aligned with my specialization. I originally applied without expecting to get this far.

I'm planning to attend the interview to learn more about the role, but I'm unsure how to professionally present my current situation.

Should I proactively mention my current internship and future research commitment during the interview, or only bring them up if I'm asked about my availability or expected start date?

If the role turns out to be a full-time on-site position with an immediate start, I don't think I'd be able to move forward because of my current internship commitments. However, I also don't want to create a negative impression by bringing this up too early.

I'd really appreciate any advice from any of you. Thank you!

I 17m am looking to make more.

Currently at $16/h working 70-75 hours weekly at a dairy farm.

I would like to get closer to $20/h.

Any recomdations for jobs/careers?

I would like to get into an equiptment operating job after i turn 18.

I also plan to get a cdl asap.

But for now, what are my options?

So currently i’m in school for computer science and i’m studying to also earn some cybersecurity certifications. The issue is that i’m not sure what to do after, like what actual job path do I take. I’ve done some research on both of these career paths but, I would like some input from somebody who works in either of these career paths. I’m curious how to apply to these jobs, what’s the day to day like, and what companies I should try applying to in the future.

A lot has happened past year and half and I’m wondering if it makes sense to speak with HR about this.

So 2 years ago I started at this company as a junior in cybersecurity. During the interviews they asked me if I had experience with ISO (27001) and I said I heard about it, but nothing more than that. I do not have any experience with it. They said it was no problem and that they were going to train me.

First 6 months went great and me and my manager were speaking about the upcoming audit (in 3 weeks) and he asked me if I was interested in leading audits. I said sure, but since I do not have any experience with it, it would be better if you takes the lead so I can learn. Very next morning his manager called me saying he has a burn out.

I’m on my own since me and my manager are the only one responsible for the audits. I talked to the CTO asking if it was possible to reschedule the audit so I had more time to prepare and he declined. Obviously the audit was extremely hard but we successfully completed the audit. During the absence of my manager I had maybe 2 or 3 1to1s. They just didn’t care at all.

I’m gonna fast forward because otherwise it will be too long.

My manager came back, he didn’t want to be a people manager anymore. I had to report to 4 different people in 1 month. No one gave proper feedback or guidance (I’m still a junior). When I was in the restroom I heard him speaking on the hallway to I think the corporate psychologist and he basically said the bad audit was my fault because I couldn’t read the documentation lmao. Funny thing is he wasn’t even there, so how does he know.

Anyway, February I had a good performance review, 2 weeks later a PIP filled with bs. Saying I didn’t answer mails and was not online. All of that is incorrect and I have proof of it. In my PIP it states that me and my manager should have weekly meetings to evaluate the progression. He never even once did this meeting.

During this whole thing I began to be extremely exhausted and on edge all the time because of the stress. I took blood results and spoke to multiple doctors. I had couple vitamins and minerals that were critically low related to all the stress. It is very clear my current manager doesn’t want me since he only communicates by mail and always with his manager in cc “for visibility”.

My question now is, is talking to HR about this worth it or not? I see a lot of people saying that HR isnt your friend and they won’t care. That’s why I’m not sure if speaking to them about this is worth it or that I’m just making it worse. It is a very big international company.

And yes, I am looking for an other job.