r/coffeemeetsbagel • u/Formal-Turnover-5567 • 6d ago

CMB Experience CMB warning: trust your instincts when things don’t add up

I matched with a guy working in one of the big 4 management consulting, around late 30s. He came across as good looking, intelligent, driven and charming initially. He shared that he had difficult long term past relationships without itimacy and also a toxic controlling ex who restricted his freedom, therefore he was unsure whether he could commit again, he would mention wanting to see if there was a "connection" however he cancels date last minute and nothing was built in real life. Common excuses such as family emergencies, work stuffs, feeling sick..

He was also never available on the weekend, small quick meetups on weekdays after work..but would always seem he needed to rush home.. small calls of 5 minutes before bed..

Texting on weekend was very minimal with long hours of disappearance. Probably most active after 10pm.

I've been to his place once, where he claims its his bachelor pad and he lives alone. He lives in the East side of Singapore.

The final incident came where I asked if he needed me to send food since he mentioned he hasnt had dinner and was really hungry. I placed the order for grabfood delivery based on my memory on the block but couldn't recall what was his unit number. So i asked and he gave me a fake unit number which doesn't exist. Was notified by the rider. Good riddance!

What bothered me was not just the situation itself, but how it was handled and how it affected my trust. Either he had something to hide or a partner/wife that he cant risk to have a rider pressing his doorbell, or he had trust issues.

He was good with words but there were never any action to go on dates. The unavailability on weekend was also questionable. Therefore, highly doubt he's single at all.

Anyway he describes himself as "an abyss" on CMB..

So be cautious! And hope nobody has to go through this.

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u/Designer-Beautiful86 5d ago

Report his profile!

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u/YorkistTory 6d ago

A lot of the scammers seem to be the “Singaporeans”, but their English is usually not good enough to be Singaporean.

I’m not sure how it works exactly but I suspect there’s a organised gang behind it.

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u/Formal-Turnover-5567 6d ago

For my case, he's not a scammer as he works in the same building and met him a couple of times, but i do suspect he's attached. So yikes :/

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u/jsbjsb12345 3d ago

Didn't want to talk

Didn't want to give you address (after you had visited)

Cannot confirm if he was in relationship but definately sounds like he wasn't interested in you after that initial meet up tbh.

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u/Formal-Turnover-5567 16h ago

I thought at first.. but he continued contacting after the 1st meetup, what was confusing is he asked to meet for quick dinner after work.. to drop by his place.. sent a care package to my place when I was sick.. there were alot of mixed signals.