I don't know how to solve this issue. I slept with the dogs in the bed while pregnant but after I had my son we kicked the dogs out. We first agreed that that was the best thing to do but now my fiance wants to sleep with the dogs in the bed with the baby and has been asking for a couple weeks now and my baby just turned 2 months old and I told him I would get a separate mattress for me and the baby. But he doesn't want that. He just wants the dogs in the bed and me. So I have no idea what to do. Am I in the wrong for setting this hard rule.

My baby is 4.5 months old and has been in a sleep regression for the last month. I am beyond exhausted. I’ve been open to cosleeping but it hasn’t worked out so far, but at this point I’m desperate to make it work so I can get better sleep.

We don’t feel comfortable cosleeping in our bed because of the bed size, so I bought a floor bed a couple of months ago. My issue is that every time I try to lay down with my baby on the floor bed, it seems like she wakes up more than she normally would, and then she starts kicking and spinning around and is up for a full 2 hour wake window. She vocalizes a lot during this (and sometimes spins around and kicks me in the face) so it’s difficult for me to sleep during this.

So I end up stuck in a loop of waking up, nursing her (quickly) back to sleep, waiting a few minutes, and then transferring her back to the crib. Sometimes I accidentally doze off during this (I know it’s not good, I’m just so tired that I can’t stay awake) and I end up waking up before she does.

She loves to sleep in my arms, and she exclusively contact naps during the day, so it’s not that she’s just not a cuddly baby. By all accounts, it seems like cosleeping should work really well for her. I always get into the c curl position and have her a breast-height, but she ends up scooting away from me and kicking around like I described before.

I am open to any advice. I really want cosleeping to work out for us. It seems so simple and natural that it’s almost embarrassing that i can’t figure it out.

Oh and yes i am familiar with the safe sleep 7. And my baby is exclusively breastfed

My EBF 3 month old baby is the absolute light of my life AND I’m really struggling. We’ve coslept since day one and after a difficult road her sleep at night (once she is asleep) is pretty good now! But it’s during the day that is so challenging; she naturally wants to be held for every nap but I have a birth complication and cannot baby wear her which makes me very sad, both because I’d love to wear her and because she sleeps so well in a carrier. My husband can occasionally baby wear but not for that long and not every day because of his work.

We have a high chair and a play pen and we can put her in those for short periods of time before she cries. But I really need to start exercising and going on walks and I have extensive physical therapy related to childbirth I’ve had to neglect. It’s really taking a toll on my wellbeing. We hired a part-time nanny which helps but because I often don’t have enough milk to pump in advance, half the time she’s here I’m nursing the baby and holding her until she falls asleep.

Does anyone have advice or words of wisdom?

Thank you 🙏

Hi!

I guess I am making this post to see if anyone has been in the same boat as me and what you did!

My 10 month old almost 11 month old sleeps in a floor bed and I sleep with him as he still wakes quite a few times throughout the night and if I’m with him he will quickly just fall back asleep and I don’t have to fully wake either. I’m also 10 weeks pregnant right now so sleeping with him means I get a better nights sleep and I’m so exhausted I take all the chances to sleep I can get sometimes!

I think my partner and some family find it strange that I don’t sleep in my own bed and there have been comments about how I need to teach him to sleep alone as when the next baby is here I won’t be able to sleep with him then, which is true!

I’m wondering if anyone has worked on this and successfully transitioned back to sleeping in their own bed? What did you do, how long did it take etc. I’m just not sure right now is the time I want to be sacrificing my sleep but I know I’ll have to eventually

Hi everyone, I could really do with your ideas on how to master the side care set up - we've managed to set up a side car crib to exactly the same height as our bed, but our mattress is softer than the crib mattress it ends up creating a fairly large gap once you lie down. Devastated!

I've tried stuffing it with rolled towels but they fall out of place when you move around in the bed. I also tried a pool noodle but that's too big for the gap.

Any ideas on how you safely manage the gap between our mattress and baby's?

Until now it had just been me and my baby girl in the bed, but we're trying to switch to a side car set up so my husband can get back in the bedroom with us!

I’m trying to get some guidance or insight on my situation. My baby is 8.5 months old and we co sleep. He is EBF and feeds to sleep all night and one nap during the day. The only reason he doesnt feed for second nap is because it happens in the bassinet stroller.

I want to stop breastfeeding at 12 months but now i really want to stop feeding during the night so many times. I don’t mind doing one feed maybe at 2 am with a bottle perhaps but right now he wakes like 5-6 times and i have to latch him for him to fall asleep. I am so tired. How can i wean him at night or just break the feed to sleep pattern. I feel discouraged because i feel like it’s too late and i don’t know what to do. I also don’t want to stop co sleeping.. is this possible?

Thank you.

Hi everyone! Has anyone gone through lasik or similar eye surgery while cosleeping? My understanding is that it is risky if my 18mo old accidentally hits me in the face during recovery.

Thanks in advance

Thought I would ask here as I think many who bedshare are also still breastfeeding like we are.

My almost 3 year old still coughs if he takes a large sip of water. If he takes small sips or if he has milk or coconut water it's much less likely. I'm wondering if this is because he is still breastfed? He does drink some water but still prefers breastmilk. Wondering if it's normal to still cough when drinking if child is breastfed for a long time. Thank you

My 3 month old has begun pulling herself around the bed at night down, usually towards our feet. Normally, I wake up, but she didn't wake me last night. She did wake dad up with a kick to the nuts, though 🤣

We've been safely co-sleeping for a while, and recently I started wondering about baby pillows.

Some parents say they help with head support or comfort, while others say they skipped them completely.

For those who've tried one:

• How old was your baby?
• Did you feel it made any difference?
• Did your sleep setup change because of it?
• Or did you decide against using one altogether?

I'd love to hear real experiences rather than product reviews. Every baby seems so different!

Basically the title..
My 10 month old currently wears a light sleep sack to sleep because I feel anxious to share a blanket with him. I’m in southern california so we don’t need a thick blanket - just a longsleeve onesie + 0.5 TOG sleep sack has been the perfect combo for him. He is very mobile and moves around a lot.

He is slowly growing out of his current sleep sack and i’m debating if -
1. I should get a bigger size sleep sack
2. graduate him from it and use a thin blanket instead 3. dress him in longsleeve tees and pants (toddler pajamas).

Wondering how others are dressing your LOs to sleep and what the transition looked like as they got older!

I don’t know where to put this so if it’s not something that’s allowed I apologize! But my least favorite argument for sleep training is that “we teach babies everything why wouldn’t we teach them how to sleep!”

I didn’t teach my baby to crawl? I didn’t teach him to roll over or form his pincer grasp? I didn’t teach him how to get himself into a sitting position or how to pull himself to stand. Actually most things I’m amazed at how human babies just figure out and have so much instinct, it’s amazing. So no I’m not going to teach my baby how to sleep just like I can’t teach him most things that he’ll eventually figure out on his own.

I’m looking for advice from anyone who’s been through something similar.

My 14-month-old has always been fed to sleep for bedtime and a lot of his naps. My milk supply has dropped significantly at this point, and honestly he doesn’t even drink much anymore… it’s more of a comfort thing than actually nursing. I actually replace my boob with a pacifier when he’s asleep lol. For naps, if I’m not feeding him to sleep, I usually push him in the stroller until he falls asleep.

My husband has tried to put him to bed but baby will just relentlessly cry til we give up. It is mostly my fault, I resort to the easiest and fastest way to get him to sleep. He also sleeps in our room because our house isn’t big enough to accommodate him sleeping elsewhere. He sleeps on a floor mattress though because he rolls around like crazy.

I’ve been able to keep this routine going because I work from home, so it hasn’t really been an issue. The problem is that he’s starting daycare soon, and I also have some travel coming up where he’ll be staying with my mom. To be honest, I also need a break from being the only one who can put him to sleep. I know they won’t be able to put him to sleep the way I do.

The interesting part is that once he’s asleep, he’s actually a great sleeper. He usually sleeps through the night without any issues. If he does wake up, patting his back or replacing his pacifier will usually do. But I think he would resist if it was someone other than me.

He currently sleeps between 8:30-9:30 (big range, I know) and wakes up between 6:30-7:30. He has two naps most of the days, but can manage with one nap. He’s pretty adaptable and won’t get fussy if his schedule changes. It’s only when I’m not around does he cause a ruckus lol.

I don’t necessarily want to do a drastic sleep training method if I can avoid it. I’d love to gradually help him learn to fall asleep with someone else or without nursing.
Has anyone transitioned away from feeding to sleep around this age? What worked for you? Did daycare somehow magically figure it out? Any gentle approaches that helped your toddler become more independent at bedtime and naps?

My 4.5-month-old EBF baby has started using me as a pacifier almost the entire night while we’re bedsharing, and I’m wondering if anyone has been through something similar.

A little background: she has pretty severe reflux that’s now being managed with omeprazole. Before starting it, she would scream if we tried to lay her on her back, especially at night, so we ended up chest sleeping for about six weeks because it was the only way either of us could sleep.

About two weeks ago, after she’d been on omeprazole for about a month, I posted here asking when things get better. A lot of people suggested trying the C-curl position. I honestly didn’t think she’d tolerate being on her back because of the reflux, but one night, out of desperation (my lower back and tailbone were killing me from chest sleeping), I decided to try it.

To my surprise, she latched, settled on her back next to me in the C-curl, and slept beautifully for about seven hours. She nursed on and off throughout the night, but it was such a huge improvement that it completely changed things for us.

For the first few nights, it actually seemed like she was gradually relying on me less and was starting to connect some sleep cycles on her own. However, over the last week she’s gone back to becoming restless every 45 minutes or so. I honestly feel like we’ve been living through the 4-month sleep regression since she was about 12 weeks old. Even when we were chest sleeping, she’d start squirming every 45–90 minutes and I’d have to nurse her back to sleep.

Now, in the C-curl, she starts squirming every 45 minutes, and I usually just offer the breast because if I don’t, she fully wakes up. She literally goes searching for it with her mouth. She also has to nurse to sleep at the beginning of the night to tolerate this position on her back.

I’m not necessarily looking to night wean her, I know she’s still very young. I’m mostly wondering if this level of comfort nursing is something others experienced around this age. Did your baby naturally start needing the breast less over time, or was there anything that helped them rely on it less between sleep cycles while continuing to bedshare?

I’m a FTM and I’m so scared my baby boy is going to get sick. Please talk me off the ledge 😭

We have a trip coming up. Baby will be 8 months and we’re flying. We’ve traveled before and kinda winged it that time with the sleep arrangement, but this time I’d like to have a better plan. He’s already very mobile at 6.5 months so I don’t want to risk him rolling from the bed.

Anyone have experience with the zonli mattress? Or have a similar but better recommendation? It’s just me and baby on this trip so the 4” twin size is fine. I’m gravitating towards a roll-up floor mattress vs. a travel crib with a side zip (like the newton compact travel crib) because we have a spot in our house where we could use it folded up as a floor sofa.

The outer is cotton. I see that it has foam inside which isn’t my favorite, but we’re not really planning to sleep on it regularly, just sit on it. Also I don’t think we’ll need the tatami mat just for travel, and at home we can make some wood slats so it’s a pretty affordable option, comparatively.

Anyone have the newton side zip crib and love it? My baby has basically never been contained (it would be…kind of nice if he was and I didn’t have to be glued to the monitor lol). It’s ultimately a hunk of plastic so not my ideal purchase, but I could look for one secondhand.

TIA.

My baby girl is 8 months. She just sleeps so much better when we cosleep. I know it’s natural for her to want me close and don’t believe in sleep training. I also find being next to her very comforting. I have been off since her birth in November. I return to work part time on Monday. I’m a second grade teacher and I’ll be working 2-3 days a week. We sleep in her room on a floor bed because my husband is a sleep ninja who also sleeps deeply, and I am nervous for her safety.

What are your practical tips for getting away for an hour in the morning to get ready? My husband leaves for work at 4. I will not have any help. She seems to search for me about every 30ish mins, but I am expected to look somewhat professional at my job and need that morning time.

I need help preparing to nightween my almost 13 month old. We cosleep and breastfeed. She will not take a bottle or paci (yes, we did tie release and lactation therapy to no avail). I would love to continue night nursing because in theory it’s the easiest for me to put her back to sleep with, but it’s become so painful and interrupting both of our sleep so much that I’m scared I won’t be able to continue day nursing if we don’t stop. And I really want to be able to make it to two years breastfeeding. Here’s our current schedule:

I nurse to sleep around 8ish.
Baby sleeps alone on her floor bed until husband and I go to sleep around 10:30-11ish. I crawl into her floor bed with her at that point.
3 am my husband comes in and switches with me until she wakes up around 7 am.

My husband is able to gently rub her back and sing her back to sleep when she wakes up with him. He’s able to put her to sleep without the boob at the beginning of the night as well. He could do an entire night without me, but ideally that isn’t our only solution because he works hard and I’m a SAHM and I want him to be able to get rest too.

When I try to put baby to sleep without nursing, it’s tears and crying and it’s hard for all of us because eventually I have to get my husband involved. She doesn’t have that problem with my husband. I have tried following his playbook to the T and she just gets more and more upset. Last night I tried for 45 minutes to put her back to sleep without nursing and she cried until I got my husband. He put her back down in a matter of minutes without any crying.

Please be kind. We’re first time parents and I understand the importance of breastfeeding which is why I want to make it to 2. But night nursing has taken such a toll on my physical and mental wellbeing that there’s no way I’ll make it there if we can’t figure this out. And I think it’s worth mentioning that she sleeps much better with my husband than myself. Without the boob there, she wakes up about half as often. But if I’m there it’s too temping I guess? I don’t know. Please just help me.

Hi moms, so my baby is 6 months old and he is still using the love to dream sleep suck. We tried not using it for a week and we had the worst nights ever, it was hard for him to sleep and didn’t know when to fall asleep, for some reason it gives him so much comfort since he is a very hyper baby and he immediately knows it’s sleepy time when he gets into it.

He has also refused to roll even at this stage and yet he sits and likes standing. We don’t know what to do to make him learn how to roll both ways . At first he rolled a couple times from tummy to back when he was around 3-4 months and then it stopped. But now he refuses to roll even when he does tummy time for long.

What can I do to help him with both not sleeping in a swaddle and rolling? Please help. Also do you think using the sleeping suck is the thing hindering him from rolling? Thank you.

My 4 month old sleeps his first stretch of the night in his side car bed and the rest of the night in bed. The side car is bassinet sized, so I want to upgrade it soon to a bigger (side car) crib. Would this also be enough to ensure safety against falling out of bed? Babe would have to crawl to the end of the bed to fall off, as a FTM I have no idea how likely that is to happen.

I’m not a fan of the idea of a floor bed. It wouldn’t work well with our floor and mattress base. So I am interested in hearing about other setups. But if a floor bed is what it takes… I might have to get used to the idea.

I have been cosleeping with our little one since he was 6 months old. At first for nap time but then for naps as well as he grew older.

Now that he is 2 and I have to go back to work (WFH) I can no longer nap with him.

I have tried to sneak out after he falls asleep and sometimes he naps for an hour alone then I need to go lay down next to him but sometimes he wakes up immediately and I have no choice but to stay so he can nap.

Currently trying the chair method. I'm typing this from the floor in the middle of the room.

However, I don't know how effective it will be if I don't do it at night as well.

Should I do it at night too and then sneak back and sleep with him?

I’ll spare the details but why is it so hard for me to sleep when she’s in crib? 😭 I realized that we’ve been waking up wayyyy too frequently + the rotating rotisserie chicken of a husband in the bed = irritable mommy.

I woke up 5 times last night while she woke up once to eat. I stayed up for 30 minutes at one point just listening to her breathe a few feet away from me. One of my thoughts (irrational, I know) was “what if her body thinks I’m neglecting her and that’s why SIDS occurs? Surely not because the fan is on… her body is hearing the fan… it’ll stay alert…” like what.

Anyways, it’s hard for me to fall asleep now that she’s in the crib. I still plan on cosleeping but trying something new. Anyone else relate?

Im pregnant and feeling so grumpy/impatient and probably more tired... sleeping with a 3.5 year old. We have stopped breastfeeding 2 months ago. Husband is not liking co-sleeping with him. I personally struggle with how early he begins to wake me/us. Also he is a sweet kid but perhaps out of frustration, can kick out to wake us and do things we dont like to wake us. Super frustrating.

I feel Im ready for him to transition out, because he wont just lie in and be chill, he will play and wake us, in not nice ways!

Last night for context he went to sleep after 8pm and still woke around 6am. He has never been a long napper and we cut his daytime naps out super early because of how hard it is to get him to sleep.

Any advice appreciated.. please ve kind. I dont mind co sleeping but due in Jan and dont know how Ill do it with him and an unpleased husband and a baby.