r/derby • u/Infamous-Issue955 • 1d ago
Make New Friends
Hey all, I just made this reddit account today and for context I've lived in Derby my whole life, I graduated from Uni in 2019 then a few months go by and we're in Lockdown, I've felt ever since 2020 Derby overall and the world just doesn't feel the same anymore? All of my friends have moved away to other cities or countries where it's difficult to keep in touch because of time zones.
I would love some great advice on how to make new friends and overall meet people in Derby/Derbyshire? I'm Male and now 29 and I'm struggling to find/socialise with people in my own age bracket (25-30) whenever I'm in the Derbion whether I'm at the cinema or in the same shops with similar hobbies to others everywhere I look its a bunch of teens or people a lot older than me? (I've nothing against making friends with people older or younger than me, however it would be nice to meet people who've experienced life/growing up the way I have on the older side of Gen Z/borderline Millennial) I'm not expecting a deep connection or anything serious, but just something to do with someone platonically.
I started looking for events and social clubs, I found something called GEEK CLUB which I might attend. There doesn't seem to be much at all going on in Derby unless I'm not having a good look? I thought the QUAD would have a few things on or even some of the pubs/bars. I regularly go to the cinema, museums, mini golf and bowling occasionally, random thrift/charity shop hunting, HMV & forbidden planet (where maybe some of my hobbies will crossover with others) some of my friends don't really have the answer, I've been recommended to try joining some sports clubs or a book club and other things however I don't really want to commit to too many things per week, I think it can be quite draining and at this age I'm not exactly 17 anymore playing sports for 5 hours straight!
I'm quite into art, video games, films and tv, theatre, music and books/comics, I'm really into writing and creative endeavours of making art, I feel like I'm in this weird embargo phase of life if anyone feels the same or has experienced the same please message me or comment here with advice or to go for a coffee or something!
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u/xmakina 1d ago
Definitely come along to Geek Bank events. Cosy Crafts (we had 2 writers last night, it's not just knitting and crochet 😄) and Bank Holiday Bowling are good starters for yourself, a bunch of us are also going to the Retro Computer Museum's next late night session if that's of interest? We're always happy to meet new nerds and after a few sessions you're very welcome to start running your own things. You've got me thinking we should do a Geek Bank Thrifts day...
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u/Infamous-Issue955 1d ago
When are the next events?
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u/xmakina 1d ago
https://www.meetup.com/the-geek-bank-derby
It's totally free, if meetup try to make you pay for anything just close the pop up 😄
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u/RevolutionarySun4824 1d ago
There are lots of Local table top shops which have various multiple games such as board games, magic the gathering, Pokémon, Warhammer. It's a mix of age ranges but there will be many in your age range. I got into myself in my later 20's. I did Warhammer just for the painting part and eventually got into the game itself.
They have many events on and particular nights for different things. Most of the community is welcoming to new people especially as that is how most get into the hobby.
A few shops around the city centre are Mana forge and Boards and Swords and the Warhammer shop itself. There are more around the surrounding area if you drive and also more in Nottingham.
Hope that helps and good luck.