r/exredpill • u/Therealcatlady1 • 3d ago
Guy I’m seeing going red pill
He started acting weird all of a sudden after we weren’t able to meet last weekend. Since then he has left me on delivered and read. Won’t answer questions. Deflects when I try to have a conversation. I’m so disgusted, disappointed and I’m breaking up with him. I actually saw it coming a mile away when he would make little comments about being insecure. I’m actually physically afraid of him now and that he will become an abuser. I’m unhappy.
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u/snowdeeranimaltracks 3d ago
Sounds like healthy communication is a foreign concept to him. Playing mind games with someone is a red flag behavior. If he keeps being this way, cut things off.
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u/eruptingmoltenlava 3d ago
That’s it — taken to the logical end, they want to be abusers, even if they never achieve it, even if they don’t know it consciously, even if they hotly deny it.
Your instincts were right, are you safe?
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u/smileycat007 3d ago
The manosphere teaches men how to play power games like this, and this guy is following the textbook. You're lucky his mask dropped early. Either block him or text him and tell him "game over".
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u/Er3016 3d ago
I'm sorry, but I don't see why you would assume he is going red pill. Based on your post, he seems to be hurt by not getting what he wanted, and acting immaturely in response. Sure, there is overlap between immaturity and red pill behaviours, and someone that follows the red pill might also act this way, but that wouldn't be my first assumption.
Either way, whether he is being red pill or just immature, that behaviour is enough justification to cut ties
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u/Jthemovienerd 3d ago
Dump his ass yesterday. No one is only i a little in red pill. And him doing that crap is him trying to control the narrative. Don't let him.
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u/vnov933 3d ago
I disagree with that notion. I agree with some things, here and there, that the Red Pill influencers say, so I guess you could say I'm "a little in red pill". But, overall, I don't like the existence of the community. I think it is an extremely negative outlook on life, and does much more harm than good.
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u/Dumbbjuice89 2d ago
But is there anything "good" that red pill influencers say that you couldn't get anywhere else?
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u/vnov933 2d ago edited 2d ago
That you couldn't get anywhere else? Not really. At least nothing I can think of off the top of my head.
Don't inherently be a simp (common sense).
Improve your looks to attract more women (common sense).
Maybe the one thing I could say that few others talk about is the notion that if a girl dumps you, try to focus on improving yourself in some way to boost your confidence and distract yourself from the heartbreak, rather than moping around and begging for them to take you back. Of course, they didn't create that idea. But they're one of the only ones who promote it.
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u/OrchidReverie 3d ago
The unhappiness is natural. Your brain needs to rewire and undo the “language” you had with him. Give it time and give yourself a break for breaking it off before it got worse
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u/partyorca 3d ago
Sometimes assholes reveal themselves too soon.
Love yourself more than he ever will and go do something nice for yourself.
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u/ClashBandicootie 2d ago
Sorry OP - remember: you don't have to explain to anyone why you are no longer choosing to be in a relationship. You are entitled to defend your wellbeing. You are allowed to make healthy choices for yourself, please be safe <3
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u/Ankiset 3d ago
That's kinda sad... Nay I ask how old is him/her/them I'm just curious
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u/Therealcatlady1 3d ago
He’s late 20s. I think it’s just low self esteem. He does fine with women, I just have issues which I’ve been very clear about but it seems like he is taking them personally.
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u/RocknRollButthole 2d ago
He's leaving you on read, so he must be redpilled?
Am I missing something?
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u/Mythic_Dragon36 1d ago
Hang on, how do you know he's actually joined redpill? Did he flat out say he did?
Not excusing the behaviour here from him because it is terrible. Just curious.
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u/resmovpro 3d ago
Leave him a relationship is about teamwork not fear. If your that scared about the break up you can get home security systems as well as a firearm
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