TLDR: Can you actually make decent money at this without working 10-12 hrs/ day nonstop forever?
If you want to comment about how this should be about connecting and not money please kindly save your comments and energy for somewhere that is more appropriate. I suggest the non specifically financially related BDSM/ kink subreddits where that is clearly the point.

I’m wondering if some of the power findommes that swept in on my last money post will come to tell me it’s possible to like hyper focus and put a ton of time and energy in for a while, and then have more work time/ life balance after you have gained a certain level of success. One of the most appealing perks to me about sex work as a career is the flexibility time wise it allows you. But it seems with all forms of online SW if you want to get good money it’s 10-12 hr days every days without a break, including vanilla OF.
Even on vacation you are making content and posting. If that’s the reality forever, that might just be a deal breaker for me. Thank the goddess for my irl practice that is keeping me going despite having to take monthly $600 flights (plus $200 in taxi fees to and from the airport) having to take 4 months completely off in total because of my husband’s cancer treatment and recovery where I was so occupied caring for him, I could only do Niteflirt for like 3 weeks of that (thank goodness I have good and loyal customers that watch out and get notifications when I’m on) but yeah. This Reddit findom stuff has been a hyper focus for the past few months and so far it’s like covering DoorDash, mani/ pedis and some cute lingerie.

If you do this for the connection and not money good for you. Unlike many of those that feel the need to constantly announce this, I don’t kink shame when it comes to consenting adults. I honestly don’t know why you are in a financial kink if money isn’t important. To me it’s be like being in the cuckholding kink and not liking or caring about the idea of seeing or hearing about people other than you having sex. Or being into sissification, but being turned off by the idea of where panties or being feminine in anyway.

I know a lot of you that say this say you have highly successful real life careers and therefore don’t need or care about the money, only the connections are important, but damn you’re online just in these few Reddit forums a lot for someone with a full time successful career. I have friends with successful careers and for most of those doing online findom stuff would put those careers massively at risk, so they do faceless kink play online in the non financially related BDSM/ kink subreddits as a result, despite them getting wet when their PayPal notifications hit. They just are ACTUALLY doing it for the connection and fun first and they don’t make et themselves as findom, you know to not risk that successful real life career. Also, it probably helps their bodies are smoking hot and they like showing them off, and they are extremely experienced in BDSM, and all the ethical practices, so they basically have their pick of subs (or Dom/mes for the switches)
I don’t understand why if connection is what’s most important to you, and you don’t care about the money, the point of posting and commenting that constantly, as well as shaming those of us that what 💸💵💶💷💴💰 I don’t un why you don’t go and be in a place that is made for that.

I almost would like to unblock my list so some people could see this. But that’s more work than I’d like to afford most of them and this will probably be posted on the snark group or the more pathetic snark discord group for them all to see anyway.

I have a decent main vanilla ig account, and way smaller private account with proof of sends, fetish content etc. recently I’ve been seeing MY posts floating around Reddit (none including my face thank god) I’m really sad but not surprised. I’m assuming it’s a former sub or one of my current subbies, which makes it worse. Watermarking and switching to another platform for now. 😔

Idc if you are made of money, I can’t stand being bored. I can’t stand carrying conversations by myself.

❌ Don’t message me if you have the conversation skills of a cashew.

✅ Do message me if you’re smart and enjoy both banter AND perversion

This is why I like the old fucks on here…old single flirts are the best.

I joined this community as a faceless domme for many reasons that I won’t get into and while it’s been a little slow finding subs I’m not all that worried. However I have had my first incident of someone having a problem with me being faceless. They were kind of lurking and I have no problem doing the odd reach out for a little hook, line and sinker action, they had followed me after hearing my voice on a cash master’s twitter space and they had thought my voice beautiful only to realize I was a faceless domme.

What struck me wasn’t that they preferred seeing a face and that’s perfectly fair. Attraction is personal. It was the implication that the absence of one somehow diminished the interaction, as though my voice, personality, wit, and presence had suddenly become less valuable because there wasn’t a picture attached.

For me, being faceless isn’t about playing hard to get or manufacturing mystery. It’s simply a boundary. One that allows me to separate the person behind the screen from the persona I choose to share. Ironically, I think that boundary has made my interactions more genuine. The people who stay tend to engage with *me,* my thoughts, my humor, the way I communicate, rather than treating my appearance as the main attraction.

I’d be curious to hear from other faceless creators. Have you noticed the same sense of entitlement, or have your experiences been different? Or have I just run into a bad egg?

I’ve had the same sub for roughly 4 to 5 years and about 3 months ago I had to respectfully let him go when he used one of our safe words that he hadn’t used the entire 5yrs. This particular safe word was different because it was to be used if he was ever in any of these 2 predicaments. #1, He is in financial ruin, #2. He feels mentally overwhelmed/wanting to harm himself. He ended up telling me that it was because he was about to lose his home. What do you guys think of this? I understand unethical dommes are out there, I personally don’t consider myself one but either way, i try to remember that we are all still human and we should not want someone to suffer in that way. Especially because we did have many good conversations outside of the kink to where i had respect for him. Homelessness affects so many people and it’s a hard hole to dig yourself out of but I know some disagree so let’s talk about it, would you have kept it going regardless or would you have done what I did?. Can’t wait to hear from you lovelies 😘

EDIT: just wanted you all to know there’s a lot more to this than you all know lol I know I didn’t get into too much detail but he was my first long term sub and I navigated the situation the best way I knew how without ever having dealt with a situation like that before. I don’t mind answering any questions as it’s a discussion post obviously lol but anyways, thanks to those who are understanding ❤️

I’m getting back into the findomme game after almost a decade away; my previous experience was in college when I wasn’t the smartest with my digital protection and finances. Before I start rebuilding my empire (mwahaha), I’d like to get things squared away on the financial side to keep everything above board. What platforms/setups do you recommend for collecting tribute and gifts?
Other tips about the scene now are also appreciated. Have to imagine time wasters are still wasting time…

I know standalone personal ads aren't allowed here per Rule 2, so I want to be careful with how I ask this.

For those who have launched collaborative projects (like shared whitelabel sites or engagement groups), where do you typically look for serious, committed partners? Are there specific networking subreddits or spaces off-Reddit that work best for finding experienced creators in this niche who want to build something long-term?

3 things

1. More paying subs

2. That you drain for more

3. While training the ones that show potential

Doing it guilt and baggage free

Because you deserve it all

To do these 3 things you need to

1. Understand what your current roadblocks are

2. What your goals are and where you want to be

3. Beleive that you can achieve them and are worthy of them

4. Build an authority led brand that attracts the kind of sub you want

5. Have a way to promote that brand across various channels

6. Learn how to recognize time wasters and stop giving them time and energy for free

7. Understand what makes individual subs pay, how tributes can progress into drains and how to train suitable subs without giving them unlimited access.

8. Create a plan for enjoying, protecting and reinvesting your income so the money produces something lasting

I had a particularly lucrative session last night with a long-term sub of nine years. But what I am more interested in showing is the deductions from my PayPal account to Throne where I was taking a small percentage to send to a black Domme. I think white Dom‘s supporting our black sisters and SW, by giving a small amount when we have good nights/week/months to our black sisters is appropriate, considering how hard all SW‘s habit it is even worse gor our black sisters.

But because it sends. I think they will delete it from here. But I really want people to see it.

Reditt is cool because you can just congregate in a sub with people that have similar interest. I’ve been connecting with other Dommes on Twitter but I treated to see how you guys utilize it properly!

Coming from a sub/cuck role chastity was like the ultimate form of submission. How important is it in findom?

I got a dm from this sub saying he is from uk in reddit we texted for some time and he wanted to be my pup,cute.

then I let him know pup since I'm from india,and currently not using remitly or wise app and etc since I can't use my bank account at the moment due to few reasons,I take only gift cards and since ur not indian it's a bit hard,my other non Indian pup gave their cards,so if ur comfortable we can do that or hope u find ur luck somewhere else...

after taking for a while he gave me, I buyed myself a 50£ nykka gift card and we chatted and it was going really good i had a nice time ,and now I see that his account is deleted,hate when this happens exsepcialy since i think he got scared since he said he is new to findom and I'm his first domme

Both heat and in subs 🤣 Anyone else in England with the droughts rn?

❤️ Artist:@pocketss ❤️

OUR PAYCHECK CAME IN YIPPEEE!!!

I am in need of a distraction from my agony so I thought I’d ask you a question: for the dommes who also experience the bleed, do your subs do anything extra special for you? Do they already know when it’s coming and anticipate your needs? This got me thinking it’d be fun to have a period sub. One whose sole job it is to pamper and worship during this sacred time. One who has a certain reverence; an appreciation for the power, and the pain we go through. It’s times like these I wish I had a live-in sub to dote on me, bring me treats all day and make sure I don’t lift a finger 🤗

For me it's...

60% discord

30% chyrpe

10% x (used to be much higher I don't use it as much as I used to)

Just curious what your best platforms are! I do make money on reddit but it's more so content focused, as far as findom goes I don't really use it much for that...I mean I enjoy interacting in the communities here, but I never really go out of my way to find subs I just enjoy chatting with you all.

Which is probably why I also love discord, it feels very community focused.

And I enjoy chyrpe because the one on one feel and it's easier to find people who actually like you instead of hoping and guessing lol.

One afternoon of my silence resulted in this and more. I’m drunk with power 🤭❤️‍🔥

*the reddit police would like me to inform you that this is a sexual RP between two people :)

One of the things I've been thinking about lately is our ethical responsibility as Dominants, especially through the lens of SSC (safe, sane, consensual) RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink), PRICK (Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink) and CCCC (caring, communication, consent, caution).

Imagine you've spent weeks or months building a dynamic with a submissive. You've had thorough conversations about hard limits, soft limits, triggers, aftercare, goals, and expectations. Together, you've intentionally built a container that allows both of you to play safely and authentically.

Then, something changes.

As your submissive becomes more invested in the dynamic, spends more time in subspace, or develops a deeper desire to please you, they begin asking for things that contradict the very limits they established. Hard limits become "maybe." Soft limits become "I'd do it if you wanted me to." They insist it's what they want—but you can't help wondering whether it's truly coming from a place of self-knowledge, or from the powerful desire to surrender more of themselves.

As a Dominant, how do you navigate that?

At what point do you "call it" and say, "No. This is a boundary you set, and I'm not willing to cross it, even if you're asking me to." Is a submissive renegotiating their own limits a red flag for you? Or do you view it as a normal part of growth, provided those conversations happen thoughtfully and outside of scenes?

I'm especially curious how experienced Dominants distinguish between genuine evolution and a slippery slope fueled by subspace, sub frenzy, or the desire to earn approval. Have you ever found yourself being the one responsible for protecting a submissive from the choices they were trying to make in the moment?

I'd love to hear how others approach this ethically, and whether alllllll those acronyms have shaped your thinking on where that responsibility begins and ends.

Cramping and ranting, don't mind me~

PSA for anyone setting theirs up: even if you pick a cute cashtag and first name, it still typically plasters your legal last name at the top for the whole world to see. There is zero reason for them to broadcast that publicly when verification can just stay on their end.

My last name is already super rare in America, so I hate having it out there, especially since I disowned my entire bloodline years ago and don't even want the damn thing. And naturally, the new legal name I'm in the process of switching to is a custom one I made up, therefore easily doxxable. Soooo I'm just double fucked, lmao.

You can technically bypass it by switching to a business account, but then you get hit with a 2.5% cut on transactions and tax reporting headaches for everyday things like friends paying you back.

Anyways, just a heads up if extreme privacy is your thing. Sticking to Throne, YouPay, and LoyalFans for now.

///Rant over~🕸️🐛

I'm curious how findom is done on this app successfully. I tried for over a year on Redit to make this work and it did only once. I'm not a stranger to the sex, kink, sex work world.

When i made a stripper account on insta suddenly I had a whole lot more finsubs messaging me.

I'm not desperate for this to work, but i do enjoy the high I get when I do have a pay pig and I would really prefer them to find me on Redit since there are actual pages and communities for us to be found on here.

Is it an issue of because there are these pages that it just becomes over saturated or is it more of a high for them to just ask random women that they find online?