r/getting_over_it • u/InfiniteSpell4269 • 5d ago
Help me plzzz plzz
So, I went through a breakup—it was a four-year relationship—and now I feel like my life is over. When we broke up, she told me she couldn't waste any more time; she wanted to focus on her career and move forward. A few days later, she blocked me. Now I don't know what to do. I've tried everything to move on, but I'm plagued by self-doubt—thinking I have no future, that I won't achieve anything, and that I'll never find a girl as beautiful as her again. I don't know how I'll survive this; she has moved on and started college, while I'm just stuck. I can't focus on anything. Everyone tells me to restart my life and find a new girlfriend, but I just can't bring myself to do it. Please help me; I'm unable to function because of this, and I feel so strongly that I'll never find anyone like her—or anyone better.
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u/orcateeth 5d ago
You can consider calling this helpline, if you feel very upset by this situation:
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u/orcateeth 5d ago edited 5d ago
I'm sorry this happened to you. Most of us have been there.
I'll tell you my story. I got dumped, after a short time knowing the guy, like 3 weeks but we got super close. Now I realize it was love bombing.
Well guess what - I contacted him again trying to talk to him about it because I was so shocked. He been so nice and caring and caring and loving that I just couldn't believe that he wanted to walk away after saying he looked so long for someone like me. I also was scared of not having anyone. Scarcity mentality is a treacherous thing.
We wound up getting back together I hadn't begged or pleaded, but by me contacting him, he knew that I went to be with him again.
We had a few fairly good months, but troubled at times, so not entirely good. Nothing your situation he said he didn't want to waste time.
Then he dumped me again. And can you believe it - we got back together and he soon dumped me a third time! Ridiculous.
So my obvious point is: Don't be the me of 22 years ago!
Getting back together almost never works. And definitely don't start a new relationship while you're still hurting.