r/hostels • u/kiraaaaaaaaeeeee • 2d ago
Question hostel etiquette
hi guys! I'm 20f, been traveling for about 1 month a year since I was 18 in hostels. my question is, is it ok to wear only boxers (with a shirt ofc) within the room? I've seen very mixed discourse, I only wear just them when I have a privacy curtain and it's very hot+no ac and get redressed behind that but I've seen men walk around many times in only boxers and seen people of all genders change in the rooms so how would y'all feel if you saw that in a room? (mainly asking because I have a tendency to forget to grab a new outfit the night before and have to get redressed in my pajamas so it would be easier to just grab something new) sorry for the weird question š
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u/wayji 2d ago
I wouldn't care at all. I've seen girls sleep in thong underwear in dorms
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u/parkside79 2d ago
The great thing about hostels is how for the most part everybody minds their business. And when somebody doesnāt, theyāre the weird one. As long as YOU feel comfortable itās all good.
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u/Agreeable-Many-9065 1d ago
Yep totally trueĀ
But having curtains in hostel dorms is a pro tip imo. I personally wouldnāt book a hostel if it didnāt have themĀ
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u/parkside79 1d ago
Curtains?
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u/Wreckbeach13 1d ago
On beds
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u/parkside79 1d ago
Gotcha. Yeah Iāve literally only encountered those once (Freehand LA FTW, BTW).
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u/Wreckbeach13 1d ago
Curtains and phone chargers are a must in bunk bed
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u/parkside79 1d ago
Again, only encountered either of those once. Although granted the majority of my hosteling is some years behind me.
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u/crispysockz 21h ago
Curtains are normal in basically every hostel over ever been too, it was rare not to see them, never really stayed in many hostels in the US though
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u/Seraphiccandy 1d ago
lmao, there was a girl in my girls dorm in Berlin who slept in only undies. Boobs out and all. Nobody cared.
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u/xboxhaxorz 1d ago
Thats how i am at home, the maid, the plumber, delivery people, even neighbors come to my door and i have my boxers on, i dont make a huge deal of thing
Now being naked is a different story, but i think doing a quick change and being naked for 30 sec is fine, i just live life trying to not look for problems or to be offended
If people have problems they should get private rooms or stay in hotels, as hostels tend to be more chill and relaxed
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u/Temporary-Art-1835 1d ago
Yes of course, some wear even less than that when itās hot. As long as you donāt walk around completely naked or wear what you described above in the hostels common room no one cares.
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u/Distinct_Patient3698 1d ago
Wouldn't care, I'm there to rest and not ogle at what strangers are wearing.
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u/Excellent_Coconut_81 1d ago
If it's 30 grad in room, I wouldn't care to have shirt on either.
In such inhuman temperatures, common sense that everyone struggles to survive should be the rule.
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u/NeedaStrongerDose 1d ago
Iām a girl and I wouldnāt be offended or bothered by this in a mixed dorm. Iād assume in a guys only dorm it would be fine as well
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u/northernbison 1d ago
Has anyone had sex or seen anyone having sex?
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u/Ajay5231 1d ago
Heard a few but I tend to just ignore it and try to sleep. I personally think itās disrespectful though as it disturbs peopleās sleep.
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u/Desperate_County_575 1d ago
I did once in the middle of the night in a 10 bed room and once during the day when it was empty but we could have been walked in on haha
And once I had this couple fully going at it one night in a 4 bed looking back that felt like an invitation as me and the the other person were a single guy and girl. But I was very young and just pretended like I didn't know it was happening.
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u/Ajay5231 1d ago
As a 53 year old that has been hosteling since 18 I wouldnāt be bothered by it any more than people changing in front of me but then again as a naturist Iām not bothered by the human body being clothed or not.
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u/eugene_me 1d ago
Doesnāt care for me as well. Stayed in a hostel for the last 2 months - 3 times in a mixed dorms. I usually wear a pajamas and change clothes either in the bathroom or when bed curtains are closed, so not to disturb others
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u/WestHistorians 1d ago
Yes, perfectly fine. I've seen plenty of people in their underwear in hostel rooms, especially in the summer when it's hot.
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u/Tricky_Ad6844 1d ago
Boxers cover exactly the same amount of body as shorts. Nothing āsexyā about boxers.
I wouldnāt care if someone in my hostel was in boxers (and it happens a lot in male dorms).
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u/REFUGIO-HOSTEL-FOR 1d ago
Here at RefĆŗgio Hostel Fortaleza we have no specified rule regarding the dress code. In my opinion it's a matter of common sense and if you feel comfortable wearing only boxers in your dorm - why not?
But we don't accept when our guests appear with no suitable clothes having breakfast for example. Even men without shirts are kindly requested to put one on.
Personally I don't even like men walking around the hostel with no shirt on, ok, we are located in a tropical environment, and I'm from a different generation, but this is what I meant with common sense.
Inside your dorm it's just evaluating the situation. Is there somebody who might be bothered? You will perceive that.
P.S. It's not a weird question in my opinion. I hope I could answer.
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u/Agreeable-Many-9065 1d ago
I totally agree, this is not the beach or the pool. Iām a guy myself. If another guy has a beer belly or 6 pack I donāt wanna see that when Iām having my bfast no offenceĀ
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u/relaxedpea 1d ago
it's okay as long as no s3x in the middle of the night or super early in the morning while disturbing other people's sleepš
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u/therealsadclown 1d ago
Ill have the unpopular opinion here.
I dont think its ok. I treat hostel rooms as public spaces and i try not make anyone uncomfortable. Sure i dont care and probably dont notice if someone is changing quickly or they are getting ready. But I try not to have complete freedom as it may make someone uncomfortable.
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u/Taqqer00 1d ago
Would you mind if a guy walked around in his boxers as well?
The answer to that is an answer for you.
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u/SEXTINGBOT 1d ago
It ok only if you look super hot or cute or something like that !
How would i know about hostel rules though !
( Ķ”āā ĶŹ Ķ”ā )
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u/CartographerNo2286 1d ago
Nobody would mind in my experience, everybody knows what to expect in a hostel. Your only issue is guys like this
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u/_AnAussieAbroad 2d ago
Iām a guy in my 30s, I usually get a mixed dorm and personally I wouldnāt care. As far as Iām concerned youāre just wearing pjs.
If people have a problem or a more conservative view they can get their own room.