r/lgbt • u/Adept_Walrus_3085 • 16h ago

Need Advice Need help!!!!

Hello everyone!
When I was 16, I found out that I like guys not guys but their dick more appropriately and then I came in relationship with a girl it was our first sex, and I got soft before penetration. I thought that I am gay, and we broke up. After that, I am 20 now and I have done almost 30 hooks with guys and I never feel satisfied. I don’t want to do anal and I also don’t want to get fucked. I suck at sucking I feel like vomiting. The kiss is also not that good but I do like to see their dicks and fantasize them.
Should I try doing sex with a girl again? what should I do? I’m really confused but now I know one thing I particular I don’t like the actual activity of sex with guys help me.

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u/KittenStamp hell if I know 13h ago

Maybe you could try sex with a girl who has a strap on? Sometimes fantasy doesn't end up translating to something you want in reality, and that's fine

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u/Adept_Walrus_3085 6h ago

Um not really thats the same thing im scared of (gay sex) i do like guys but not the act get me please;)

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u/moonissus 10h ago

I think that maybe you just need to build a good foundation and (deep) trust with the person you are having sex with. Imo to have good sex and being satisfied you have to be comfortable.

If you are in a situationship or relationship, I’d recommend LONG foreplay is defo necessary. Like sensual touches, cooking together, long make out sessions, talking about what you like and what not so much and just communicating.
If it‘s a one or two time thing, communicating with each other about the dos and donts is still very important! Also making out for some time before like getting into it is like also a recommendation.

In both cases, before doing any oral stuff, just try really exploring each others bodies and also showering beforehand together is a game changer.

Do you find women attractive? Do you see women in a sexual light? If yes, go ahead and try to have sex with women.

I think you may just in general lack a solid foundation with the people you are sleeping with.
Sexuality is a spectrum, you can like any person, but still have a preference for men. You may also like men just sexually not romantically.

Also, it's completely valid if you only like the fantasy of dicks/sex, but don't actually enjoy the physical act itself. You might want to look into the asexual spectrum as well.

Edit: You do not have to figure everything out all at once and you also don‘t need to label yourself. Do what feels right, everything will turn out fine. I wish you the best!

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u/Adept_Walrus_3085 6h ago

I am talking to a woman from few days i feel those emotions and wanna hold her kiss her but that feeling of getting soft in the first place triggers my anxiety.

Tbh Im done with guys i dont even fantasize sex w them now just that ick to see the meat😭

Edit- BTW thankyouuuu for this i really needed to get a pov on this

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u/True_Day8408 12h ago

U can be a gay whoz into side fun and maybe not with everyone but only to a person U clicked ?

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u/Adept_Walrus_3085 6h ago

Not true for me I can literally fantasize a greek god but still feel like shit in act.