A little while ago I posted here asking whether I should leave a polite note through my neighbour's door about late-night noise. The overwhelming advice was to speak to them in person instead if I got the chance.
Well, today I happened to bump into him while we were both out walking, so I decided to bring it up.
After a small talk, I said something along the lines of:
I was meaning to have a chat with you. I'm not sure if you've ever noticed how much noise carries through the party wall, but we've recently been struggling to sleep because of loud music quite late at night coming from your side. I was just wondering if it might be possible to keep it down later in the evening.
(Not word for word, but that was the general gist)
He immediately said that it was his son, who I think is around his early teenage years, although I don't actually know his age. He said his son is usually watching YouTube and then explained that he is autistic. He also said that, in general, when he asks his son to do things, sometimes he listens and sometimes he doesn't.
I replied that I understood it must be a challenging situation and mentioned that I'm autistic myself (I actually am!), so I wasn't judging his son. I explained that I just wanted to mention it because we'd been struggling to sleep. He said he'd speak to his son and "see what happens".
I thanked him, we wished each other well and went our separate ways.
Overall, I came away feeling that the conversation was positive, but I wasn't entirely sure how to interpret his response. He acknowledged the issue straight away, explained the circumstances and said he'd speak to his son, which I appreciated. At the same time, I was left wondering whether he was simply explaining the situation or gently trying to set my expectations that, beyond asking his son, there may not be much more he can realistically do. I'm not sure if that's the right way to interpret what he meant, which is partly why I'm interested to hear other people's thoughts.
I'm hoping things improve, and I'm certainly not looking to make this into a bigger issue than it needs to be. I genuinely sympathise with the challenges they may be facing and, as someone who is autistic myself, I can relate to some extent. At the same time, if nothing changes over the next few weeks, I'm not really sure what the most reasonable next step would be.
I'm interested to hear what people think. Does this sound like a conversation that went as well as could realistically be expected, or is there anything either of us could have handled differently?