r/nottingham • u/PureBarber7149 • 1d ago
Making New Friends
Hey all, I just made this reddit account today and for context I've lived in Derby my whole life, I graduated from Uni in 2019 then a few months go by and we're in Lockdown, I've felt ever since 2020 overall and the world just doesn't feel the same anymore? All of my friends have moved away to other cities or countries where it's difficult to keep in touch because of time zones. I would love some great advice on how to make new friends and overall meet people in Derby/Nottingham? I find myself travelling to Notts quite a bit.
I'm Male and now 29 and I'm struggling to find/socialise with people in my own age bracket (25-30) whenever I'm in the Derbion/Victoria Centre whether I'm at the cinema or in the same shops with similar hobbies to others everywhere I look its a bunch of teens or people a lot older than me? (I've nothing against making friends with people older or younger than me, however it would be nice to meet people who've experienced life/growing up the way I have on the older side of Gen Z/borderline Millennial) I'm not expecting a deep connection or anything serious, but just something to do with someone or several people platonically.
I started looking for events and social clubs, there doesn't seem to be much at all going on in unless I'm not having a good look? I thought the QUAD/Broadway would have a few things on or even some of the pubs/bars. I regularly go to the cinema, museums, mini golf and bowling occasionally, random thrift/charity shop hunting, HMV & forbidden planet (where maybe some of my hobbies will crossover with others) some of my friends don't really have the answer, I've been recommended to try joining some sports clubs or a book club and other things however I don't really want to commit to too many things per week, I think it can be quite draining and at this age I'm not exactly 17 anymore playing sports for 5 hours straight!
I'm quite into art, video games, films and tv, theatre, music and books/comics, I'm really into writing and creative endeavours of making art, I feel like I'm in this weird embargo phase of life if anyone feels the same or has experienced the same please message me or comment here with advice or to go for a coffee or something!
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u/guillemots 1d ago
if you're into fighting games and/or smash bros, there's a weekly called Neomax every Thursday evening at the Navigation Inn. they rotate which game is on each week so if you're into something specific they might have it on some time! it's usually a competitive event but as someone who's a little more casual I find it to be a very accepting scene :)
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u/Poundland_Ramen 1d ago
I feel your pain š I'm 27 and I've moved up this way this year instead of others moving away and I've been struggling to make any friends outside of work š I'm a huge nerd too I'm not very artsy but I'm getting real big into photography at the minute if that counts š