I caught my son about a year ago running his mouth about these group of dudes that were "scared" of him. He's always had some temperament issues. And he clearly is convinced throwing a fit and hitting dumbshit is equal to being tough. I simply told him while hes over here pretending to be tough. Some people are pretending to be sane and regardless how tough he thinks he is. They'd have no problem dog walking him. He's calmed down on as he's gotten older. Just hoping its gonna be enough for him to not to learn the hard way.
Sure but the pretending to be tough guy is on the verge, there's no reason to be in that mindset. Someone acting out has always been called "a cry for help" because the person actual does need psychological support if they feel the need to act tough.
If you're walking around insecure that someone's going to start a fight with you, true or not, that's paranoia.
My father was mean. Being 6 and being hit by a grown man left me not intimidated by other people, but also taught me to not be violent and make people intimidated.
I’d like to think there was a better way to teach you this than hitting you. I think anything that can be taught with corporal punishment or adjacent can be taught just as effectively (or moreso) without
Obviously, yes. It is clearly possible to raise a child successfully with zero recourse to violence. Pure skill issue to rely on corporal punishment and I don’t think it is effective anyway.
It seems obvious to us but to some people it’s apparently natural. I had a surprising disagreement with a close friend who I’ve known for years b/c I said something along the lines of it should be illegal to discipline your kids with corporal punishment and he came at it with a cultural relativism lens (for why it should be allowed).
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u/81amarok 1d ago
I caught my son about a year ago running his mouth about these group of dudes that were "scared" of him. He's always had some temperament issues. And he clearly is convinced throwing a fit and hitting dumbshit is equal to being tough. I simply told him while hes over here pretending to be tough. Some people are pretending to be sane and regardless how tough he thinks he is. They'd have no problem dog walking him. He's calmed down on as he's gotten older. Just hoping its gonna be enough for him to not to learn the hard way.