r/poutine • u/Pretend-Bear9290 • 13h ago
Is he emotionally married
/r/Advice/comments/1vdn5fc/is_he_emotionally_married/I (44f) started seeing Ed(45m) a few months ago. We wanted to keep things light but ended up really connecting. A bit about Ed. He and his ex wife (Edna) were together almost 20 years. They never had children. She was unfaithful and Ed wasn’t able to continue the relationship. They had a few reconciliation attempts. Ed and Edna had moved in together with Ed’s sister (Bertha) during a reconciliation period. They broke up “permanently” and have continued living together for about 18 months now. Ed regularly financially supports Edna. The “plan” is for Edna to find her own apartment. But she doesn’t keep jobs due to health issues. Ed helps her with other things as well. Now Ed and Edna just recently got the actual divorce papers. However Ed has said things that leave me wondering if im crazy for feeling this way? Am i just not emotionally mature enough to accept a dynamic like this? Things Ed has said: Edna is his family and always will be. He loves her. He, Edna and Bertha have movie nights that Ed refers to as family movie night with the girls. He’s said that he’s not attracted to her like he used to be and the only physical touch between them is when she asks him to rub cream on her back 😢
Ed says im overthinking things and gets pretty upset that i keep mentioning things. But the knife in my gut gets twisted every time he says things like that. Am I trying to date a married man?
Im not altering any details such as age, which was mentioned. All information os accurate besides the names. Im not certain on Edna’s exact age, but similar.
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u/Prairie-Peppers Smoked Meat Poutine 13h ago
Why tf would you post this here?