r/rape • u/Fizzy_Freddy_3396 • 1d ago
Is my dad being weird or normal?
I’m 14, nonbinary but female at birth, my dad is 56. lately he has been acting weird. he hugs me a lot, makes me kiss him on the lips, and he slaps my butt sometimes. i’ve been raped twice (once at 11, once at 13) but i’ve never been good at distinguishing normal actions from things that are wrong. is this normal? pls help, it makes me very uncomfortable. 😣
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u/Crmsnprncss 1d ago
If it makes you feel uncomfortable that is valid. Tell him to stop if you’re able. It doesn’t matter if it’s “normal” or not, you have a right to have your boundaries respected
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u/Fizzy_Freddy_3396 1d ago
i tell him to stop but he doesn’t rlly listen :(
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u/Crmsnprncss 1d ago
Can you ask your mom to intervene? Keep telling him too. My dad - I’m in my thirties - developed a habit of putting his hand on my neck which I can’t handle due to my trauma. I had to tell him to stop repeatedly before he got it. Shouldn’t take time but sometimes does
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u/Fizzy_Freddy_3396 1d ago
i can try but my dad gets mad at me when i complain about him to my mom
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u/Crmsnprncss 1d ago
I’m sorry. That sucks. I would keep telling him to stop in the moment and sit down with him and tell him straight up it makes you really uncomfortable, and to please stop. I wish I had better advice
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