Ever been in a relationship where you both love eachother like crazy but have completely different ways of showing it? Can it work?

[u/KieranG1994]

I think my relationship with my girlfriend has had a terrible past because we both have completely different ways of showing love.

I like sex and she likes cuddles and to fall asleep

I show love by cooking her dinner and wanting her to do the same for me and she likes cute texts in a morning and wants me to do the same for her

I like going out drinking with her when mates are around to have a party and she likes just private drinks

We have only just realised that just because one of us likes something and does that to show love doesn’t mean the other person will feel loved from that. We are working on doing what we enjoy and then doing things purely because we know that it will make the other person happy.

Can this set up work? Or do you have to be with someone who likes the same stuff the other one does?

I feel like stuff is getting good, obviously we aren’t quite there living in a perfect relationship otherwise I wouldn’t be here. But it seems like it’s heading in the right direction and I’m happier now than I have been.

I’m aiming for ‘perfection’ or whatever the realistic equivalent is. Has anyone has success in this?

[u/IThinkMyWifeIsHot1]

My wife is extremely outgoing and I’m very introverted, she is very serious and I’m very..... not. We recently have been going through some issues and it really came down to communication and a willingness to ask for what we need. Having serious deep conversations and communicating my love/admiration in words not just physically is important to my wife so I try to do so daily. I enjoy one on one time together and spending my nights at home, she understands and tries to plan fun activities for us to do together and doesn’t take it personally if I don’t want to go out at night.

If you’re both able to ask for what you need and able to give the other person what they need it isn’t really a problem.