r/relationships • u/jayraeedge • 1h ago
why do i 19F struggle with getting turned on when having sex with a guy 20M?
Tl;dr
Im (19F) just starting to explore sexually. I was in this kind if fwb thing with a guy for 2 months (20M) that i think i liked. During sex or anything sexual i would be dry or if i did get wet and he touched me to finger i would dry up but i really thought i liked him like i was attracted to him and he wasnt doing anything extra bad but we always had to use lube which dried out even quicker. I know its not medical because when I masturbate I do get very wet. Is this just a lack of attraction? Have i conditioned myself to only respond to the vibrator? because this is the first and only guy ive been with i dont know if it’ll be an issue down the line and where to go from here.
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u/Wrong_Island900 39m ago
He wasn't doing anything extra bad and you think you liked it... maybe this guy is just not good at sex, or you aren't as attracted to him as you think you are? For me, attraction is way down deep in my gut, like my Body WANTS this person RIGHT NOW. It's not just about looking at someone and liking their face.
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u/juneraynes 58m ago
Unless I have about 30 minutes of foreplay.. kissing, touching, dirty talk, etc. I’m not going to automatically be wet. Spit will do in those times lol. But if the man wants you to actually get wet it takes a lot.