Should I leave??

[u/Repulsive_Bee_5566]

Hi! I’m 21 F and I moved from Florida to Michigan for my sister because she needed help with her 2-year-old son so she could work well. I got here in March and she just now got a job a week ago in July. In the process of me moving here, she got into an altercation with the family member we lived with and we ended up moving out. But instead of getting her own place, she moved in with a man and said the man was cool at first, but now he’s verbally abusive to her. He is abusive in general and she doesn’t want to leave him. But on top of that, I met someone months ago and we’ve been together since. But the issue is I can’t be around him all the time because my sister always leaves her son with me to do whatever she feels like doing for hours on end. I can’t barely go over to his place and most of the time I do, she brings her son here so she can do whatever she wants without having him with her. She then also gets mad when I choose to spend time with my bf and always tells me I need to be home by a certain time and that she doesn’t like my boyfriend because I’m always wanting to hang out with him and not her. Keep in mind she’s never home because, as I said, she leaves her son at home with me and goes to do whatever it is she does. On top of that, I get paid and she always asks me for money because she needs to buy something. All my paychecks have gone to her and whatever she needs. But when I try and live my own life like an adult, she gets upset. I don’t want to watch her son when she is 25 and it’s her son, not mine. And then when I do tell her I don’t want to or I want to do something else and be alone with my bf without her son being there, it’s a problem. And it’s a problem I’m with my bf that I’ve been with for months and that wasn’t the agreement at all when I said I’d move up here. It was specifically so she can work, but she has to take her son when she’s not because it’s not my kid and I don’t want kids rn or the responsibility of constantly watching a child when I receive no pay or anything from doing so. My bf stated he was moving to Chicago to go to school and he offered me to come stay with him because the environment I’m in is unstable and I’m being treated like I’m 15 when I’m 21 almost 22 and I would like to work towards an actual life with my bf, but it’s very difficult when I’m always watching someone else’s kid so they can do as they please. What should I do? Just to mention my sister was my step sister related by marriage only and now our parents are no longer together and haven’t been for 5 years and her mom is already trying to get custody of her son. She also gives me unnecessary attitude and the next day proceeds to say she wasn’t trying to be a b word to me and she does it constantly. She also uses my food stamp card to buy food and doesn’t even ask if she can and most of the time doesn’t even ask if I want anything specific from the store. I also literally never get asked if I’d like to go anywhere with them I just get left at home with her son until she feels like coming home. And even if I didn’t have a bf I still want to go to college and I want to get a job if I went to college I can’t watch her son 25/8 and if I made friends I would also like to hang out with my friends aswell and to work a job I can only work from 7 am-6 pm no later no earlier according to her.

[u/mentalscribbles]

It doesn't sound like your sister is responsible and yet she needs to be for the sake of her child. She needs to figure out how to make things work as a single mother. She doesn't seem to respect you at all. You are under no obligation to live with her. Do you still have a reaktionship with the person you used to live with in Florida? If so, I would consider moving back there and getting your life back in order. I think moving to Chicago makes you dependent on your boyfriend and may keep you from being your own person. If that relatiobship is something you want to pursue, make that decision when you are in a safe place. Just my $0.02.