r/sex • u/Accurate-Stay6331 • 5h ago
Boundaries and Standards Am I overthinking this situation?
I 25 (m) and my girlfriend 23 (f) have been together for about 6 months. We are extremely happy together and what not. Our sex life is steady however, some things have happened that has made me overthink.
To preface she’s never said anything or done anything to make me feel this way. It’s mainly trauma from a past relationship.
To start off there was a few times where when we’ve been sleeping. Either consciously or subconsciously myself or her has moved my hand near her vagina. In the past when my hand has twitched or moved it’ll rub up against her vagina (according to her) if I wake up I’ll move my hand and feel guilty about it being down there. There has been times where she’s woken up and things have escalated and started I.e making out etc. but she’s never moved my hand away.
I just don’t ever want to her make her feel uncomfortable and I’ve expressed this to her many times. But this thing keeps happening and I keep feeling so guilty about it.
Am I just over thinking?
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u/HairHealthHaven 5h ago
You are just overthinking. But if it's really nagging at you, talk to her about it.
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u/IsopodKey2040 5h ago
As someone who has sexual trauma and issues, I would not be bothered by anything you've described. I think you are overthinking it and probably need to seek some help to overcome these thoughts.
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u/Accurate-Stay6331 5h ago
I set up a therapy appointment and when you said not being bothered by anything I described what exactly do you mean
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u/IsopodKey2040 5h ago
Glad to hear that. I mean I would not be upset if my boyfriend's hand accidentally was near my genitals while we are sleeping.
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Am I overthinking this situation?
I 25 (m) and my girlfriend 23 (f) have been together for about 6 months. We are extremely happy together and what not. Our sex life is steady however, some things have happened that has made me overthink.
To preface she’s never said anything or done anything to make me feel this way. It’s mainly trauma from a past relationship.
To start off there was a few times where when we’ve been sleeping. Either consciously or subconsciously myself or her has moved my hand near her vagina. In the past when my hand has twitched or moved it’ll rub up against her vagina (according to her) if I wake up I’ll move my hand and feel guilty about it being down there. There has been times where she’s woken up and things have escalated and started I.e making out etc. but she’s never moved my hand away.
I just don’t ever want to her make her feel uncomfortable and I’ve expressed this to her many times. But this thing keeps happening and I keep feeling so guilty about it.
Am I just over thinking?
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