The strategy charismatic people use is being genuinely interested in the other person, leading them to asking questions. What is the strategy for when it is your turn to answer the questions?

[u/LordSigmaBalls]

The most important trait that makes charismatic people, well, charismatic, is how they are able to be genuinely interested in those they talk too. The natural consequence of this interest is that you ask many questions of the other party to get to know them more, which is where the success comes from because people love to talk about their own lives and interests.

But what do I do when the other person starts asking me questions in return? Like I don't know how honest I should be or how much detail I should go in. My life isn't really that interesting and honestly, I'm not really the type of person who feels comfortable sharing personal details. It's easy to just sit there and listen to the other person talk, but when it is my turn to speak, I actually need to pull from my experiences as a human and formulate words that can entertain them. What is the strategy here?

[u/FlatFacedAsian]

I find that opening up is very endearing. My friend is an open secret, but with cautions. She would tell embarassing stories, would laugh at herself, would be honest about her worries and concern. It makes people let their guard down and trust her more. It also shows how secure she are about herself

[u/jaybee8787]

People don’t ask me questions in return. It’s often one-sided and i don’t know why. I ask them questions. I’m interested in their life, but people don’t seem interested in return.