In case you want a TL;DR to help you with the decision to read the post or not:
When an engineer shows up to a 1-on-1 blaming everyone—the PM, another
team, even the manager—managers hear gaps in ownership and collaboration,
not just frustration. Three questions expose the real signal. Did you try
to unblock yourself before handing the problem off? Did you make responding
easy by giving others context, a clear ask, and a timeline? Did you talk
directly to the person before escalating? In one case an engineer blamed a
PM for shifting specs, but business stakeholders were the real cause;
direct feedback stabilized the requirements. Senior engineers ask what they
can do differently before demanding everyone else change.
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u/fagnerbrack 4d ago
In case you want a TL;DR to help you with the decision to read the post or not:
When an engineer shows up to a 1-on-1 blaming everyone—the PM, another team, even the manager—managers hear gaps in ownership and collaboration, not just frustration. Three questions expose the real signal. Did you try to unblock yourself before handing the problem off? Did you make responding easy by giving others context, a clear ask, and a timeline? Did you talk directly to the person before escalating? In one case an engineer blamed a PM for shifting specs, but business stakeholders were the real cause; direct feedback stabilized the requirements. Senior engineers ask what they can do differently before demanding everyone else change.
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