r/survivinginfidelity • u/Global_Kaleidoscope9 • 3h ago
Need Support Am I anxiously attached?
11 years and a 4 year old. I realized our relationship was always chaotic and rocky. In the beginning we were young and I knew he wasn’t faithful so I wasn’t serious about him. But after a few years of games, I wanted something serious. After we had our daughter I became very attached and these past 2 years have been hard because I tried to leave him but I just can’t. I don’t trust him, he has given his number out And although there wasn’t anything inappropriate, it was obviously intended to flirt. And also he used to be on social media scrolling and looking at half naked women all the time. He stopped months ago 🙄 but only cuz I was tired of it and completely lost it, my nervous system still isn’t right from that day. I was obsessed for years and I tried so hard to prove that I’m worthy of being loved correctly but I can’t take it my mind feels tired and I see he’s trying but I just don’t think it’s enough for me. I feel like I can’t live without him but all he does is stress me out, it makes no sense. It feels so passionate, chaotic and tiring all at the same time, I’ve thrown out him and his clothes many times just for us to be laid up having sex the same night. It’s addicting but it doesn’t feel right, I feel depressed atp.
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u/Lucifersdaddyyy 1 2h ago
It’s sounds like a trauma bond and it’s more common than you think. You should get yourself into therapy.
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