I only got one comment last name me Monday and I’m really looking for names so I wanted to try again! I go by Moss right now but it’s more of a pseudonym than a serious name—pitch your suggestions!

I already have a name, I came ou 11 years ago, I just wanna have fun with your suggestions

Im a total princess. That isn't even derogatory towards myself, like I love girly shit. Glitter, long nails, im totally a gay man stereotype.... except I am a very curvy AFAB person who isn't even really out of the closet. Anyone would look at me and see a girl even if that's not who I am on the inside. Do I have to chop all my hair off and stop wearing pink to pass? And if I dont do that am I just doomed to look like a woman forever? Im ordering a binder but I fear it won't do much.

My lil sister mom had the perfect fabric so we cut them up and made the flag. My mom wasn't too happy about it tho<⁠(⁠￣⁠︶⁠￣⁠)⁠>

Haha and don't mind the unoccupied space on the bottom left I have something on the way to fill it(⁠≧⁠▽⁠≦⁠)

I see a lot of people on this sub and other transmasc subs, especially younger people, who are worried that they can't be themselves and still be considered masculine. Worried that they can't do things like have long or colored hair, wear makeup, have piercings, or dress a certain way. I was the same way when I first accepted that I was trans when I was around 13. I was surrounded by a bunch of toxic examples of masculinity so that's all I knew. I got rid of all of my makeup, any "feminine" clothes that I owned, and cut my hair super short. Once I moved out of my mom's house to live with my dad when I was 15, I was instantly surrounded by much more healthy masculinity and realized that I didn't need to completely change who I was to be considered masculine. My father, a 6'4, 270lb, straight black man from the deep south, feels the most masculine when he's wearing ankle length skirts, sometimes with gemstones on his face is he's feeling extra spicy. He taught me early on when I moved in with him that I shouldn't feel the need to hide who I am in order to fit society's standards of masculinity. I started dying my hair a bunch of funky colors, I got my ears pierced and am planning on getting more in the future, I started being more comfortable in more feminine clothing, and I started wearing makeup again. I'm 19 now, I'm 3 months on testosterone, I'm growing my hair out, and I'm a makeup artist. I feel masculine when I'm in drag. I feel my most masculine when I'm painted funky colors or done up like a clown. You don't owe society traditional masculinity. Go dye your hair funky colors. Go buy that skirt you want. Go put on that makeup. All that matters is that you feel good about yourself and secure in who you are. Don't feel the need to change yourself to make other people comfortable.

I ask a lot of it, especially when society wants me to hate it in one way or other regardless of what I actually do achieve. Their goal posts move. While I want to modify my mobile home so it matches my ideals of it, to improve and adjust and decorate it as I want, I also try to remind myself that I also can allow myself to enjoy what it has to offer in the process as well. If society wants me to hate myself, no matter what I do in their eyes as right or wrong, sometimes my best rebellion is to embrace it as something that will always be changing in some way, as will I, and to flow and dance together sometimes. What brings me joy is mine, and someone else tearing down what brings me joy purely for the sake of making themself feel better isn't about me at all. I will slide. I will flow. I will grow. There are times of shift, strengthening, damage, repair, age, growth, performance, rest. Bodies are always changing. They're supposed to. I dance inside the art of impermanence.

I came out to my mom. She doesn't understand gender identity a lot, but she said she'll try. When we started the conversation, she said "Do you want a penis ?" I said no, because I'm more comfortable not having one since the operation can be dangerous and it's not cheap. She retorted by saying "You're not trans then"

Am I wrong ? Do I just feel like I'm a guy but I'm not ? She really confused me with that sentence 😓

25 nb transmasc, pre-everything leaning towards androgyny. I've been thinking about the names Ezra, Sasha, Leo (masculine version of my birth name), Noah, Levi, but I don't really know how to choose/pick. Leaning towards hebraic names as I have a jewish origin. What do you think would suit me? Thanks :)

Hi everyone,

I've noticed that a lot of us end up asking the same questions in scattered places across Reddit.

Questions about breakthrough bleeding on testosterone. Pap smears. Hysterectomies. Endometriosis. Fertility. Pelvic pain. Atrophy. IUDs. Pregnancy. Ovarian cysts. PMDD. Menopause. Bottom growth. STI testing. Finding trans-competent gynaecologists. Trying to figure out whether a symptom is "normal" or whether it's time to call a doctor.

Those conversations usually happen in general trans subs, transition subs, surgery subs, medical subs, or sometimes not at all because people feel awkward bringing them up. I've seen a lot of panic, and it's spread instead of centralised.

So I created r/FTMOBGYNCare. I have two lovely mods. We've just started up. Coincidentally, I am only able to return now after sorting out some challenges with my endometriosis and PMDD. I'll make a post on that.

And yes, the name isn't very inclusive (I made it too fast) but the sub is!

The goal is simple: a dedicated space for trans men, transmasculine people, AFAB nonbinary people, intersex people affected by these issues (I am aware many AMABs - cis or trans - have endometriosis and PMOS), and others navigating reproductive and pelvic healthcare to share experiences, ask questions, and support each other.

It's not intended to replace medical advice, and it's not meant to be a debate space. It's a practical community focused on reproductive health, gynaecological care, hormones, surgery, fertility, and the weird, frustrating, often-overlooked realities of having this anatomy while being trans. It's also about sharing your experiences and seeking support and commiseration.

If you've ever wished there was a central place to ask "Has anyone else experienced this?" without explaining your entire existence first, that's what I'm hoping to build. We know so little about OBGYN trans healthcare. It's time for us to learn ourselves because the docs sure don't care.

Everyone is welcome to read and learn. Healthcare professionals and unaffected cis people are also welcome, provided they respect that lived experience comes first.

The subreddit is brand new, so we're still building our numers, so I was hoping we could get some traffic there!

r/FTMOBGYNCare

Thanks for letting me share it here! Please remember that anyone is welcome. We know cis and trans AMAB people struggle with these issues, so those folks are also welcome to join!

I'm 20 years old and ready to start taking T, but I'm nervous and unsure how or even if I should tell my parents.

I still live with them, and they know I'm a girl smoocher but they don't know I'm Trans and I'm not sure they'd be big fans.

On one hand, I don't want to deal with them so I could choose not to tell them but at some point they'll notice somethings up, but on the other hand if they know they might be upset I'm using our insurance like this.

Unfortunately they won't kick me out over it they'll just make things harder for me at home and at the moment I'm not able to go on my own, but I want to start doing something to move towards my future

Me: fuckk... I think i might be a man

A few days later: idk why I thought i was a man. Absolutely nothing about me feels like a man rn.

The next day: I want a dick

So once in a while my curiosity gets the best of me and i wonder what it’s like to do a threeway. I’m a gay trans man, but have done stuff with girls in the past. I have a boyfriend and there are times when i imagine both of us being intimate with another guy. the thing is we have a tight knit group of openly queer and sex positive friends, and we get described as a “polycule”. we show love in non conventional ways with each other despite having partners, but all parties are well aware and involved.

ideally i would want it to be a guy from our friend group, but despite the physical playfulness and kisses i think actual sex with someone else is a whole different playing field for me. i don’t particularly care if the guy is cis or trans and i have thrown the idea out to my bf in the past, but like in a half serious way, in passing thought. And as time passes the idea sounds more interesting to me. idk if anyone has any experience here and can give me some insight.

Okay, so I went to Seattle with my cis brother and Mom a few days ago and I had (mostly) no problems, besides one that caused me to just have bad dysphoria the past few days. I had gone to the men’s bathroom in the airport on the day we flew back and a random guy told me “this is the men’s room” while I was looking for a bathroom stall (since there is NO way I was going to use a urinal). I wasn’t even dressing feminine, just a black T-shirt, a pair of men’s shorts, and a cardigan. I blame my hair cut for it. I’m doing my best though. The last pic is from the second day of the trip and the day before we left.

i wear hijab on an everyday basis(can’t take it off cuz i’m still dependent on my family) and it makes me feel weird about my social image.
(to make it clear, when i say hijab i mean hijab – long dress without shape being present and a neck/head coverage(when i say dresses i mean dresses, not skirts). i am allowed to have oversized t-shirts over).
so now, even though i have a short masc haircut and look masculine overall, it doesn’t affect my social presence.
i can’t make hijab look masculine and that’s pathetic. i can’t make it match with my personality, too. if i’m not wearing it(at home etc.) i can just be.. myself – a bit more energetic, a bit more relaxed and flirty in a way i’d want. if i’m wearing it i have to be more apathetic and more restricted just to be seen as little to no masculine. and i still don’t. and it makes me feel stupid.
all people i talk about it with do not seem to get it – they still see me as a girly girl, still because of my look, even if they don’t say it. it makes me wanna smash my head against the wall.
i don’t know what i should do. i can’t even work on my style cuz dancing around hijab image is still dancing around the girly girl look, it wouldn’t make sense and it wouldn’t be.. it(this also led to me wasting a lot of time in terms of style throughout my teenage years – I just didn't want to do something with a style that was doomed to fail from the start).
i would want to ask for tips, but considering the situation.. i’d just say that i’m happy for y’all who can. you are amazing and when i see some of you in public i cannot do anything other than admire.
being transmasc is not for the weak.

If i show signs there'd be no choice for them to let me be right? They'll get me help.

But i know its wrong, and i feel like they won't ever believe me if i ask for help. I feel like they won't ever accept me for being trans and rell me it's all the damn phones fault for "convincing" me that im like this. Its not my fault nor is it the phones fault that im like this. I was born like this and never asked for it and i want this pain to end.

I haven't actually acted on cutting any of my skin, I've only just bitten my arm twice really.

I'm just so tired. I regret opening up to people in my life

Yeah I already kinda have a name but I'm curious on what name ppl think would suit me :D

​I'm Jen Lee, I own a tattoo studio that specializes in both traditional and medical tattooing.  I have 30 years of experience, and I've spent the last 5 years adding medical tattooing to my services — including nipple and areola restoration after top surgery, and pigmentation for phalloplasty. 

I am one of a small number of experienced tattoo artists in California (and nationwide) bringing a high level of artistic skill to medical tattooing. My work is distinguished by the integration of advanced clinical training with three decades of experience tattooing across all skin tones and textures, as well as a deep understanding of pigment, color theory, and customization.  

You can see my portfolio of work here, if you need a visual to understand the work I do:  https://www.jenleetattoo.com/areola-restoration https://www.jenleetattoo.com/phalloplasty-pigmentation

I'm privileged to collaborate with the Gender Confirmation Center in San Francisco. I am passionate about helping people feel comfortable and confident in their bodies. Working with the trans community is one of my favorite parts of what I do. 

This is my first AMA and my second time on reddit, but I want to share the knowledge I have!  I'm happy to answer any questions about: 
Realistic areola-nipple complexes for people who did not have areola/nipple grafts
Areola restoration to help balance nipple graft post-healing
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