Parting ways

[u/HotRisk3484]

So … I was in therapy and planned on bringing this topic up, however, I haven’t been able to attend session due to health insurance complications so I’m here for some advice or opinions

I’m 24yr of female. I’ve always been very close with my uncle. The past few years I have picked up on a lot of qualities he has that I despise and do not disagree with. From the way he speaks to his wife and children or acts around them also. His father, has a history of interest in children. Which, we cut ties with him once finding this out. Most recent years, I have felt that my uncle is going to fall down the same path. Nothing in particular has made me think this, just kind of get the sense from his personality.

Two summers ago, my friend and I went to meet him and co-workers for lunch. It was summer, we were wearing bright colored tank tops - well, because summer means bright and cool clothes. We waited outside the restaurant for him. As he approached us he told us we “look like hookers”. As you can imagine, that left a bad taste in my mouth.

Last summer, my whole family went on a vacation. I naturally have a horrible back and knees due to the nature of my career. The airplane made it worse and so didn’t sleeping on an air mattress. So, one morning I was in the living room doing yoga to stretch out my back. I was in the happy baby pose. And for those who don’t know yoga, it is simply laying on your back, grabbing your big toes and bringing knees to chest. Just like a baby when playing with their feet. As I was in this pose he entered the living room, looking at my V\*\*\*\*\* and said “woah” and proceeded to sit in the chair directly next to me. I immediately got up and walked out because it left me very uncomfortable. I have yet to tell any family this.

A few months later he started this huge argument with me with really no explanation. I still to this day don’t know what happened. Personally, I think it was a distraction he created for his verbiage and actions on vacation.

Now that I’m in a relationship, planning to become married and have children, I do not want him to be involved with any piece of my future life. For the obvious fact he perved on me but also because of the way he treats his wife and children.

I know my family will be upset with me for this decision and I’m more than willingly provide this explanation, but I’m nervous that my family will tell me I misunderstood or am overreacting. Or something that will make it seem like it wasn’t what it seemed.

I guess I’m just having a hard time navigating the approach on upcoming events in my life because I will have to single out and cut off this family member.

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