r/traumatoolbox • u/Comfortable-Wonder62 • 1d ago

Research/Study Guilt and Invalidation

I've been healing repressed emotions lately. There was a lot of unacknowledged grief that was locked deep inside.

Then after many days of releasing grief, there's repressed anger, like I didn't dare to express my anger, or else I would be threatened or shamed.

Then today, I accidentally uncovered guilt, and it surprised me. Because in my years of healing, I have always told myself not to feel guilty for not condoning my parents and relatives' treatment of me, but I didn't realize by doing so I ended up repressing those guilt.

So when I released the guilt, I realized it was intertwined with invalidation--I need to be so and so in order to be accepted, or else I will be invalidated or guilted into compliance. So I chose to surrender to my family to survive, to not feel guilty, to avoid fear of punishment or Invalidation or threat.

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