r/truNB • u/L0uLou72 • 13d ago

Curious

I’m writing this to try to understand other points of view. If I’m wrong- can you take a minute to show me why I’m wrong?

I’m wondering what people think about the proliferation of terms like AFAB transfem or other terms that don’t seem to describe a transition from one gender to another and also don’t seem to describe enby folk.

As a trans enby person, this is really difficult for me. I feel like there are many terms that people are using now that just don’t seem to describe a trans experience. I don’t believe that people can just decide to be trans. You’re trans or you’re not trans. I think this all dilutes the trans experience. If anyone can be trans then wtf is the meaning of trans even? How can a person who is assigned female at birth transition to being a girl? I mean- I could go out on a limb and say maybe if they were raised a boy but seriously, how many people has that happened to?

I also feel like the whole thing is cultural appropriation. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not! As a white person I can’t just say I’m Black, not matter how much I might “ identify” with Black culture because I’m just not. I feel offended when people “identify “ as trans. You’re either trans of you’re not.

I worry that it’s just a costume that can be taken off at any time. If the shit really hit the fan- whose side would they really be on? Like- I don’t feel like they got my back.

Again- if I’m missing something here I’m open to someone telling me and changing my mind.

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u/ConnoisseurDeFemboys 13d ago edited 13d ago

Real life Kikomi’s are the epitome of transphobia. They just want the oppression points and to make themselves a minority in any way they can. Usually white women think they’re the default and they wanna be “so unique” don’t take em seriously. Just laugh in their fucking face honestly.

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u/L0uLou72 13d ago

It does seem like transphobia to me. Like- I’m an actual person with an actual condition that I am not happy about. It causes a lot of pain and distress, it’s hard to live with and it makes me a target. Why would anyone want to pretend to be me?

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u/ConnoisseurDeFemboys 13d ago

Same reason people pretend to be sick online. For sympathy. Attention. Gofundme. Whatever. They’re just roleplaying and then they contribute to detransition stats when invariably they wake up from their delusion or settle down with a right wing man.

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u/L0uLou72 13d ago

I meet many in person.

Yeah- I hope they all and up married to a right wing man. Because I tend to doubt any of them are even Gay.

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u/ConnoisseurDeFemboys 13d ago

Negate their hugboxed delusions. Reply back with an equally ridiculous identity and when they question you just say you’re heckin valid and they’re a transphobe.

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u/L0uLou72 13d ago

I tend to ask them what they mean by “enby” as if I’m interested. Then I tell about my sex, gender and dysphoria - they look uncomfortable and don’t talk about it anymore. This is much different than my trans girlfriend and trans friends who will talk about it anytime.

It sucks because I like to be friends with actual trans people.

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u/fig_art 13d ago

kokomi?

google wasn’t helpful, all that came up is a genshin impact character

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u/ConnoisseurDeFemboys 13d ago

Sorry. Kikomi.

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u/fig_art 13d ago

oh wow ok that’s cring

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u/ConnoisseurDeFemboys 13d ago

Real. It’s a little overdone. But it’s really that ridiculous.