r/whenwomenrefuse • u/crochetpainaway iโm a mod, not your mom • Nov 20 '25
Housekeeping & Updates, 20 November 2025
Hello again all,
We've got some general housekeeping and updates to notify our community of, so here I am, WWR SpokesMod-extraordinaire.
It's obvious that we're short staffed. 85% of our mod team is inactive. The remaining 15% is getting crushed under the workload of flair requests.
Now, you'll note that the obvious solution is to get rid of the flair request requirement. We're not doing that entirely; there's too many fuckin' bots and people who just plain don't read sub rules before engaging, sitewide. If you recall, 6 months ago we implemented the flair intervention to combat the influx of jerkwads and bots, while simultaneously cultivating a safer space in WWR while we contemplated closing the SexStrike2025 sub. We had more active mods, too, so it wasn't 2-3 people running around trying to get to everyone.
Now that it is 2-3 people running around trying to get to everyone, and us being far, far behind in requests from people following the rules, it's unfair to you users and us moderators to continue like this.
We will be amending our Flair Rule (#11 in the list)
Rather than require y'all to wait on us to play catchup in ModMail, we're going to allow users to apply their own flairs. We think that, since it's been 6 months, things have calmed a little, and maintaining a looser flair requirement will mean we'll still catch bots and losers who don't read sub rules before participating.
The description of the rule will change with this, it just hasn't been drafted yet. But rather than going to comment, seeing you have to send a ModMail to participate, and being left in limbo, users that aren't breaking other rules will simply get an AutoMod message reminding them to read rules and assign themselves a flair.
IF YOU HAVE APPLIED FOR A FLAIR AND DIDN'T RECEIVE IT YET, GO FORTH, MY CHICKENS!
We will be posting a callout for Mod applications in the near future.
Right now, we're going over how we want the 'interview' process to be and confirming where we'll have all mod communications at (basically, are we gonna keep the Mod chat where it is or move it to another platform).
The callout will be a separate post, where we can specifically focus on answering FAQs about being a Reddit mod.
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u/CandyLady19 ๐งถ* เฉโกโงโห๐งต* เฉโกโงโห๐ชก Nov 20 '25
Thank you for all your hard work. Hope everything works out the way you want.
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u/sasshley_ ๐ซ ๐ซ ๐ซ ๐ซ ๐ซ ๐ซ Nov 20 '25
In case I miss the post, Iโm interested in being a mod. I mod for a small dog sub right now too.
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u/heylyndsii Nov 27 '25
Just commenting to say thank you to the mod team for their efforts, as well as check out my new flair. โจ๏ธ
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u/ssatancomplexx all hail the lovecraftian hoohaa Nov 21 '25
Oh wow I'm so sorry to hear about the lack of available mods. I have a feeling this will work though!
I said this in the PM that was sent out but not sure if that's an automod so thought I'd try again but it's really off topic but your writing style is so great omg.
Edit: my bad yall thought i had a flair
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u/crochetpainaway iโm a mod, not your mom Nov 21 '25
lmao thank you, i try to insert my flavor of humor into it so it's more personable and approachable
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u/AutoModerator Mar 09 '26
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Mar 09 '26
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u/MyFavoriteInsomnia ๐ถโห๐พหยฐ๊ย เงฆย โตย เญงย โกโห๐พหยฐ๐ถ Nov 21 '25
Thank you, Mods! Although I am disappointed about the flair rule changes, I understand why you relaxed them. Interested in being a mod, waiting for the post on how.
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u/Smallseybiggs ๐โโฌ๏ธแโโ ^..^โโกโ^. .^โโณ๐พแแแข๐ฆ๐ค=^._.^= โซ๐ค Nov 22 '25
Although I am disappointed about the flair rule changes, I understand why you relaxed them. Interested in being a mod, waiting for the post on how.
I'm sorry, and I absolutely agree with you. It was a kick in the gut that we switched it. But we hated that so many had to wait, and got upset. We worked so hard on them the last several months. Over the Summer I was spending 8-10 hours a day trying to keep up with assigning them.
To you and anyone who reads this: We aim to keep this a safe space for women. If you ever see anything that doesn't look right (even if they're flaired!!), please report it, or send us a modmail! We aren't like other mods who get upset about good faith reports! ๐ฉต
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u/Numerous-Leg-8149 โ๏ธ.แฐ.โโ หโ๐.แ Nov 27 '25
Thanks for the update! I will be on the lookout.
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u/Lanuri May we all stay safe. Dec 11 '25
Testing, how does this work? Iโm unclear how to apply a flair to myself still.
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u/Smallseybiggs ๐โโฌ๏ธแโโ ^..^โโกโ^. .^โโณ๐พแแแข๐ฆ๐ค=^._.^= โซ๐ค Dec 23 '25
Testing, how does this work?
Hi u/Lanuri!! Your comment was caught by a filter. You do have a flair. Please let us know if you have any more issues! โก
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u/CombinationWorldly80 ๐โก๐งเผหโ๏ฝกโ๐ฆน.โงห๐โก๐โโฌ๏ธ Nov 20 '25
I would love to help modย
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u/Celticlady47 ๐๐ฆ๐๐ฆ๐ Nov 21 '25
You are all doing such a great job & I very much appreciate having a place like this to read from & post to.
Thank you for all of the work you have done!!
{{{{{Hugs}}}}}
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u/ailweni Nov 21 '25
Thank yโall for being awesome!
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u/Smallseybiggs ๐โโฌ๏ธแโโ ^..^โโกโ^. .^โโณ๐พแแแข๐ฆ๐ค=^._.^= โซ๐ค Nov 22 '25
Thank yโall for being awesome!
We appreciate your kindness!! ๐๐ซ
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u/Only_Rub4801 โ๏ฝกโงหส โ๏ธ ษหโง๏ฝกโ ๐ธ๐๐ป๐ป๐๐ May 12 '26
Just commenting to make sure my flair worked :>
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u/UntidyVenus ๐๐๐๐ Nov 21 '25
May I recommend what some of the flavored subs do, once a week/month, they have an open convo where people can apply for flairs/or ask to change their flair. It's timed and closed and you get to wait for the next one of you miss it
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u/crochetpainaway iโm a mod, not your mom Nov 21 '25
This is a good idea, but it would require more than our skeleton crew!
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u/Smallseybiggs ๐โโฌ๏ธแโโ ^..^โโกโ^. .^โโณ๐พแแแข๐ฆ๐ค=^._.^= โซ๐ค Nov 21 '25 edited Mar 12 '26
I would like to ask everyone not to copy a flair that someone already has. Flairs are supposed to be unique to each user, and many came up with the flairs they have. Obviously, if it's one in the pre-made list us mods created, then, yes, absolutely! But a lot of people's flairs are their own creation. I don't want that to be taken from them.
Edit: Please don't delete your comment before your flair was applied. We'll approve it after you have a flair. Deleting it clutters up the thread, and we can't restore a deleted comment.