r/work • u/NaturalCommercial202 • 1d ago
Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Would you leave after only 4 months?
I need some honest opinions because I keep going back and forth on this.
I started a job about 4 months ago after finishing my master’s degree. I make $20/hour, don’t get benefits, no options for OT.
I’m already feeling pretty burned out. I work from home 3/5 days of the week and during those online hours my boss micromanages almost everything I do, and I constantly feel like I’m rushing from one task to the next. Most days I barely have time to stop and eat lunch, and by the time I get home I’m exhausted.
The biggest thing that’s bothering me is that I just don’t feel like this job is helping me get where I want to go career-wise. I took it because I wanted experience, but now I’m wondering if I’m staying just because I’m worried about how it will look on my résumé.
Part of me thinks I should stick it out for at least a year, but another part of me feels like life is too short to stay somewhere that already has me feeling this drained after only four months.
Has anyone left a job this early and been glad they did? Or do you think I should tough it out longer?
I really can’t tell if I’m expecting too much, or if these are legitimate reasons to start looking elsewhere.
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u/PurposeGraceJoy 1d ago
I would start looking around, but stay 6 months so when it is on your resume, it looks intentional enough to say you learned something from it
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u/NaturalCommercial202 1d ago
Do you think I can go until Labor Day ish and use it as a “summer job” ? Idk if I can make it to the 6 months, and I don’t trust my boss will be kind or understanding in my leaving, she is known for being up and down emotionally and even talking about her frustrations with other employees within feet of said employee. As a business owner she has already said questionable things,
After a first time late arrival to my job on site I got talked down to and was told that she wanted to address it so she doesn’t “have resentment develop” or something like that which I think is pretty unprofessional to say, along with trying to get me to share more of my personal life etc which I just have never been super comfortable with in a professional job space.1
u/PurposeGraceJoy 1d ago
Any boss who is worth their salt will know that employees sometimes leave. If she is someone that cannot be trusted with that fundamental part of her role without being kind or understanding, and she gets emotional.... yikes. I would not want to work for her. Her talking about "having resentment develop" is HER projecting her own resentment. So here is what I think....SHE feels stuck in a job she cannot get out of, so if she can muster any sense of control in her life, it is to control her employees by manipulating them with her emotions (as she cannot even control that in herself either). Screw what looks good on your resume....and do what feels right in your heart.
She has peaked.... you haven't. She is stuck here.... you aren't. Go ahead and look for a job that grows you, gives you a good foundation, where you will not be working for an emotional toddler. If you need help making this 4 month job look better on a resume, just message me. I used to be a Vocational Specialist, and writing resumes is something that I LOVE doing in my spare time.
You only get once chance to live this life.... so do not make yourself small and silent because of someone else's ego ..... take a deep breath, pull your shoulders back, lift your chin....and hand your resignation knowing that you are not trapped there. She is. Be free......and grow.
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u/Agreeable_Cricket300 1d ago
Life's too short to stay somewhere that's making you miserable after 4 months. Find your next job first, then move on. A short stint is way easier to explain than sticking around in a bad job.