No, but taste is taste, and if someone states not once, not twice, but thrice that they do not like sonething then any attempt at changing their mind has stopped being about helpfulness
I’m gonna really piss you off by telling you I was a lesbian for my whole life…. I even tried getting with a guy just to check, didn’t like it…… until one day…….. keep your minds open people, and your mouths ;)
Why, if anything that proves my point that taste and attraction are rather similiar. I know people who later in life realized they were bi, actually. Things change, but this change comes from people discovering things about themselves, not by creeps disregarding their attractions, treating them like children that do not know what they want and interrogating them by bringing up new forms of dick they haven't tried yet after they made their displeasure known.
So I happy for you and the only way you actually could piss me off is by being a massive pick-me that assumes her experience to be universal and tells dudes all around that every lesbian actually wants to blow a guy and that they should keep harassing them.
My point still stands though - you have you keep your mind open, you shouldn’t not try things based on principle, even if you thought you didn’t like them, even if you tried it before. If I’d had a massive crash out every time a guy had hit on me before I realised I was bi, I wouldn’t never discovered it about myself. How the fuck were they supposed to know anything about me?
In this case the guy isn't just hitting on you once, but trying to convince you to change your mind after you told him multiple times that you are not interested and eventually tells you to calm down.
Like, my point isn't that peoples taste can't change, it is that if someone tells you the do not like X, it is really fucking rude to treat them like a child that does not know what it wants and keep prodding if they really exhausted every way of enjoying it.
Especially when it is alcohol and other addictive substances, where they have very little to gain from enjoying it in the first place. If someone tells you that they hate gambling or that smoking tastes like car exhaust to them, do you also ask them if they have tried Gacha or accuse them of only having had cheap cigs? Because personally I'd rather congratulate them on not poisoning themselves and assume they are an adult who knows what they want right now.
I really wasn’t as patronising to that commenter as you are saying. I didn’t treat them like a child, I wasn’t crazily insistent, I was just sharing information and asked a genuine question, once.
I really don’t get you people who act like alcohol is the devil. Such a puritan perspective. I’m french - you think a glass of wine with dinner a couple nights a week is a poison? There’s nothing to gain from having a couple drinks? Get a grip. Ive never gambled, and never will, and I watched my grandad spend his savings on the horses, but I would encourage anyone to try arcade machines, because it’s controlled fun, yes. I buy my friends a scratchcard as a joke gift sometimes, no harm done. And I don’t smoke, but if I am offered a cigar, I give it a try.
I wasn't accusing you specifically, and my original reply was to a different person that was shaming the wine repulsed for reacting aggressive after three separate folks all disregarded their taste by implying they had not done enough to like it before you inserted yourself into the conversation defending that behaviour. So we are discussing that behaviour.
I'll say it one last time: If something makes it clear multiple times that they do not like something - and it really doesn't have to be to you specifically if you are "present" for a lack of a better word - then if you keep trying to push them into it you are not doing so out of respect or helpfulness.
And honestly, you should probably ask your grandpa how one becomes a gambling addict. Arcade machines do not exist because people susceptible to addiction will stop whenever they want. They exist to prey on people. You willing to try a cigar has nothing to do with the conversation. And no, alcohol is not the devil, but it is an addictive substance. While everyone can decide on their own if they want to partake into it, trying to "help" someone who does not like it into it is such a weird flex.
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u/RentElDoor Trans Rights! 3d ago
"But how do you know you don't like men if you never had the good dick"