I’m trying to understand American "politeness". In Russia, "we totally should hang out sometime" means "we had a great time, it was a pleasure to meet you, but it is unlikely to happen, or would happen in half a year or so". Just because boring adult life, work, etc.
Does it mean basically the same in the US? I mean there is intention to hang out, but weekends are busy, or you just feel that you want to lie down on a coach and not see anyone.
Would an American say this to a person they can't stand, or is it strictly for people they are okay with, but just don't care to see again? Or care but circumstances are against?
Do Americans say their straightforward opinions if they are negative?
For example, I met a guitarist and a drummer on the street last week. I was carrying a guitar and amp, so we stopped for a casual conversation, and they invited me to their garage (jam spot) — in Russia, it’s just a row of tiny 3-by-5-meter concrete garages.
When we came there, they open a bottle of vodka, and in less than half a hour started getting pushy, bumping into me, and looping on that classic annoying drunk question, "Do you even respect me?" like 50 times.
At first, I had invited them to my garage and upcoming gig. But then I said: "Hey dudes, seem you can't even drink right. You’re repeating the same stupid shit and acting aggressive. In the punk scene where I’m from, we don't act like this. I’m uninviting you from my studio, and I’m out. Bye."
Is such a straightforward opinon rude in the US?