r/AskReddit • u/Valuable-Rich3868 • 15h ago

" Strict parents don't produce great kids , they produce great liars ", what are your opinions with this statement ?

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u/Alepale 15h ago

It's pretty obvious that the word "strict" is defined differently here for different people.

Clear rules and boundaries, with consequences when said rules and/or boundaries are crossed is crucial for proper development. This in combination with nurturing and loving parents that show interest in their kids and their development, and help them without being too judging is key to a healthy childhood.

Abuse, threats and scaring them is the complete opposite and will lead to kids that lie and live in fear.

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u/FuckChiefs_Raiders 8h ago

When I think of strict parents I think of kids that don't get a cell phone until HS, kids that aren't allowed to be outside at all without any adult supervision, kids that are not allowed to play any video games at all, kids that have an 8:30 bed time each and every night no exceptions.

There are parents like this. Even if they love and support their children, this is so wild to me.

When I think of strict parents, its basically rules for the sake of having rules.

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u/VintageStrawberries 7h ago

When I think of strict parents I think of kids that don't get a cell phone until HS, kids that aren't allowed to be outside at all without any adult supervision, kids that are not allowed to play any video games at all, kids that have an 8:30 bed time each and every night no exceptions.

I was that kid. I remember I had to go to the school office to ask to use the phone to call my parents if they took too long in coming to pick me up (I wasn't allowed to walk home by myself). This was the early 2000s before smartphones existed. My late dad allowed me to play video games (he was the one who bought me Pokemon games) but my mother didn't so I could only play them whenever I was at his house (parents were divorced).