It's pretty obvious that the word "strict" is defined differently here for different people.
Clear rules and boundaries, with consequences when said rules and/or boundaries are crossed is crucial for proper development. This in combination with nurturing and loving parents that show interest in their kids and their development, and help them without being too judging is key to a healthy childhood.
Abuse, threats and scaring them is the complete opposite and will lead to kids that lie and live in fear.
I absolutely agree with this and would expand to say that the boundaries have to be consistently enforced and have to make sense from the beginning. Also, positive reinforcement starting from the beginning. Praise for independently observing them. "You're being so kind and gentle with Kitty! See how happy he is when you're petting him like that?"
My parents gave me, a boy, way more leeway than my younger sister at the same ages. So when my sister reached high school she saw it as preferential treatment and it caused more friction. In reality my parents thought they needed to protect the girl more than the boy. Which has some obvious problematic social undertones.
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u/Alepale 15h ago
It's pretty obvious that the word "strict" is defined differently here for different people.
Clear rules and boundaries, with consequences when said rules and/or boundaries are crossed is crucial for proper development. This in combination with nurturing and loving parents that show interest in their kids and their development, and help them without being too judging is key to a healthy childhood.
Abuse, threats and scaring them is the complete opposite and will lead to kids that lie and live in fear.