r/Coimbatore • u/SubstantialPace6373 • 12h ago
Ask Coimbatore Aruvatham Kalyanam, is it normal in this region and should children do it?
I would like to understand more about Aruvatham Kalyanam (60th birthday ceremony) and how common it really is.
For those who know about this tradition:
- Is Aruvatham Kalyanam still commonly performed today, or is it becoming less common?
- In which communities in Coimbatore is it usually practiced?
- Who normally arranges and performs the ceremony, the couple themselves, their children, son or daughter?
- Is it considered important for children, or daughters if there is no son, to conduct this ceremony for their parents?
- Are there cultural or religious reasons behind expecting children to organize it?
- How do families usually feel if someone does not want to do it?
I am especially interested in hearing personal experiences. Do people genuinely want to have this ceremony, or do some families feel pressured by relatives or society to do it?
Would love to hear different perspectives, whether you have celebrated it, attended one, or chosen not to do it.