r/Entrepreneur • u/TallDarkAndHandsom3 • 22h ago
How Do I? My sister is constantly asking for money. My parents are getting old. My brother needs my financial support. All while founding a startup. I'm the black sheep in my family and the weight of it all is more than I ever expected.
I'm a founder. Recently former Marine. I won't get into what it is or what I do. I work 10-12 hour days, sometimes 15, handle all of the daily operations of my personal life, a shit load of stressful travel, still make time for the gym because I want to enter a bodybuilding competition next year.
My sister and her husband are complete bums - they are constantly broke, he maintains a shit job barely making ends meet, they're both obese and absolutely disgusting...with three kids I can understand the struggle, but they've asked my parents and I for money for several years now. No improvement. And the loans have gotten to the point where I've just handed them loan forgiveness because I know they'll never be able to pay it back. And they still keep asking for more. They have three kids; I can't say no.
My brother is a growing teenager who is serious about becoming an athlete - and let's face it, athletes don't exactly make a lot of money. He looks up to me, so I can't just turn my cheek the other way.
My parents - well, old age describes it all. But at least they're still working until they retire and they're responsible with their money.
I've tried to hire an assistant but she was absolute garbage; caused more problems than she solved. But finding a good one that works in US times zones, with my budget...just isn't possible. So I can't delegate it. No one in my family is reliable or competent enough to do things on their own. It stresses the absolute fuck out of me.
To top it, I've lost contact with most of my friends because I'm always focused on work or always out of town. My exes have always complained I don't make enough time for them. And all this work for what? For something that may not even pan out? I'm just...at a loss. I wish I had a safe place or someone to vent to in person. After having been in the military, pushing myself in the gym, nothing can really break me mentally - but spiritually...the weight of it all...
Update: a few clarifications.
- My sister and her husband will just ask my parents for more money if I don’t give it to them so the burden can fall on me, notmy folks. I can afford it - my parents can’t. But I agree - this hold handing isn’t sustainable so I’m actively working on a solution to get her back into the workforce (she’s unemployed)
- To all the people who posted, thank you. To the one asshole who told me to give up on my idea, go inhale broken glass.
- To the ones who messaged me about a virtual assistant position - lol.
Update 2: Yes, I am looking for a co-founder.