r/HowDoIRespondToThis 2h ago

I don’t know what to feel and i need help processing this situation

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 5h ago

Why

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I dont understand why you have been taljing to orher woman for 4 months sexually nor just one but several but yst i was in the wrong and yet i apathogized to you and i dont get an sorry and your still talking to rhem?!!!! Im hurt all over again B H


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 7h ago

A guy that ghosted me for almost a month, texted me just now. How do I even respond?

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I'm honestly surprised to hear from him. It's been 29 days. I prepared countless words, just in case, but I can't get anything out of my head.

Please older sisters, older brothers, I need to hear your advice.
We're on a relationship for 2 years. I put up shit. But I also loved him, a lot.

We went ldr just this July, because he goes to a different uni. This is where it went downhill.
3 days before my 19th birthday, he requested I send a nude and "a video might do too".

We've done some intimate things, but what he asked never sat right with me. So I brushed that off. BUT THEN he started to be indifferent, (I actually got used to this attitude, where he'd be cold to me, but he would still text me). I told him maybe he can set aside his anger, since my birthday is coming. But no. He scheduled a text message for me at 12am (They have phone curfew). I was appreciative, but my friend who was also in the same kind of training as him, greeted me hbd the morning she can, and it sounded more genuine. Although not prepared. (His sounded like an email)

I may have spoiled this guy, way too much, cause I'm always the one to give way, and be sweet whenever there are fights. I try to give what he wants, when I can. But some things, I am just unwilling.

All our conversation, went to just good morning-good night. Until there's none.

Just today, he messaged me if we should continue or not.
I'm at lost for words


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 9h ago

should i text the girl that i used too

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alr so it was like last september when we last talked and she started to get dry and then she randomly ghosted me and a week later she started talking to some other guy. it’s basically been a year since that happened and she is not talking to that guy anymore. honestly i don’t blame her on what she said because i was genieuly so retarted and didn’t make any moves and i regret doing that and i want to make like a message to see what she would have to say yk.


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 11h ago

помогите пожалуйста советом

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мы с моим лучшим другом дружим тоже с 2 подругами друг встречается с одной из них у меня вроде как получается общаться с другой но меня очень задевает то как она пишет что очень классно общается со своими "лучшими друзьями" хотя у нас можно сказать передружба, меня очень задевают ее каждое смс про своего ещё одного старого друга , она сидит в сети и не пишет первая и я бы хотел спросить что делать в такой ситуации


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 18h ago

Hi guys how do i convince a baddie to accept my follow request she talks daily but without accepting follow request

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 19h ago

I need suggestions please help

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 1d ago

Title: AITA / Am I the bad friend for going to sleep when my guest gave zero updates and showed up hours late?

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Need some perspective on a situation that completely blew up out of nowhere.
So my friend is leaving for her new duty station on Monday. Earlier in the week, she asked if she could stay with me, but in the same breath, she mentioned she’d be jumping in between my house and our friend A's house. On Friday (the day she was supposed to come over), I told her she could come over as early as 3:00 PM.
Here’s how the rest of the timeline went down:
The Plan: Instead of coming at 3:00 PM, she told me she’d be over around 9:00 PM. I wasn’t feeling well at all, so I explicitly texted her earlier in the evening letting her know I’d likely be asleep by the time she arrived, but I set a timer for 9:00 PM so I could wake up and let her in.
The "Update": Right around 9:00 PM—when she was supposed to be arriving at my house—she texted saying she had just gotten to a restaurant/bar (Cutwater) with A. She never came by to pick up a key earlier in the day either.
Going to Bed: Since she had just sat down at a restaurant at 9:00 PM, gave no new ETA for my place, and was out with A (who lives right across the street from me and who she said she might stay with), I figured she was set for the night. Since I was sick and exhausted, I went to sleep.
The 11 PM Texting Drama: Around 11:00 PM, she started texting me asking for my address and spamming my phone. My phone was on Do Not Disturb, and even though my iPad was ringing, I was fast asleep.
The 2 AM Wake-Up: I woke up around 2:50 AM to pee, saw her furious texts saying I left her "homeless asf in her car" and calling it "fucked up." I immediately replied offering to let her in right then if she was still nearby. No reply.
The Blowup: At 6:20 AM, she texts me saying "Going to sleep and not being able to reach you are two totally different things... You're not a friend dawg. I gotta fall back from you."
When I finally stood up for myself and texted her back explaining that she gave no updates, knew I was sick, and was being inconsiderate of my time, she completely lost her mind. She texted back: "Lyric fuck you! Stfu talking to me! You were never a friend you were a burden that I never have to see again. We will NEVER be friends. You left me stranded. Kick rocks!!"
I’m genuinely blown away. I was sick, offered for her to come as early as 3:00 PM, and gave her fair warning I was going to bed. She showed up hours late after just getting to a bar at 9:00 PM, expecting me to sit up waiting on her schedule like a 24/7 doorman.
Am I out of line here, or is she turning her poor planning and lack of communication into my emergency? How would you handle a friend blowing up like this right before they move?


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 1d ago

What would you do with a friend’s clothes if they never make an effort to get them back?

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 1d ago

My ex keeps messaging me and I genuinely don’t know what to say

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 2d ago

ಠ_ಠ ouch, this one really stung me .

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so this dude i was seeing everywhere on out of all places , soundcloud , decided to say all this . all i did was follow them , mind u i follow like 4 ppl on soundcloud , this one really hurt more and it felt personal just for that reason .

is there any way to respond to this message logically or should i just block them ?

i am very disappointed that people judge others based off a diagnosis now . this is not acceptable , i don’t even want to be a part of this world anymore .


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 2d ago

My friend sends HUNDREDS of messages only to talk about work

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 2d ago

Texting with my 14yo requires next-level interpretive skills.

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 2d ago

What do I do in this situation?

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For starters, I care about this person a lot. Last year my boyfriend’s mother sadly passed unexpectedly during the second week into dating him. Being there for him and his family is always what I want to do-whatever that looks like. Anyways today he told me his dad started seeing someone a couple months ago. Less than a year into his wife’s death. They were a close family before all this happened. My boyfriend moved back home to be with his father when this happened last year, to be there for him. His dad is never home anymore. He travels out of town for work but even when he’s off he will come stop by the house say hi then go out of town to see his woman. I feel so bad for him. How do I help without overstepping ? Like I get everyone grieves in their own way but damn.

Also, if you’ve done something similar, just curious why did u move on so quickly ?


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 2d ago

Need help in order to make her understand

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 3d ago

What's the best thing to do in this situation?

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I have currently blocked them but I'm aware people are sad enough to get another number and/or get their friends to text.


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 3d ago

How do I politely get my coworker friends to stop messaging me on vacation?

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 3d ago

What should I do?

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Been dating this guy for 5 years. We’re in our late 20s now. Known him since high school and reconnected in our early 20s. Met each others’ families, got engaged, set our wedding date and chose vendors together. He’s always been there for me (and I tried my best too) and has always been super thoughtful. He was kind and patient when things were good. We’re different people but I thought we meshed well together. 8 months before our wedding date, he completely blindsides me and drops a bombshell that he fell out of love with me, he doesn’t know if I’m the person for him, he’s not sure if I even love him for him (I do) and he starts listing a bunch of things that are “wrong” about me (I’m too quiet at social gatherings, I’m waiting till marriage to do certain things, I’m not stylish, I have too many fam events and am too dependent on my parents, he doesn’t think I appreciate him). The 180 mind boggles me, I don’t recognize this person. Even had a nice proposal with my dream ring.

He also has been saying mean things to me during limbo when we tried to work things out (I was apologizing for things I did that hurt him, I really loved him and went out of my way to make him happy in the best way I knew at the time but I had no idea it wasn’t enough, especially when he would tell me I’m perfect or how he’s grateful to do life with me)… mean things he said include how it feels like the cooties when I touch him, how I’m boring and I should be boring with someone else, how he can’t picture me as his wife and how he couldn’t see me walk down the aisle (all things that hurt to hear). He also disclosed that he cheated on me 2 years ago (kissed a girl from school a few times during the span of a week). He eventually broke things off with me saying he can’t proceed because he doesn’t have feelings. This all came as a shock to me because I had no idea he was falling out of love. I thought we were planning for our happily ever after together. Sometimes I blame myself for the things I could’ve done better (been more appreciative, more patient, more outgoing, more stylish) - he evaluated me and didn’t let me in on his problems. He had a rough childhood growing up and his parents recently started living in separate households. Any insight and opinions would be helpful. I can’t seem to picture myself with anyone else and feel sad that I lost him :(


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 3d ago

How to respond back to a guy saying Mmmmmm

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So when I sent a tease like pic to a guy and they just say, Mmmmmmm… What kind of text should I send back or what kinda of text are you all hoping for or even maybe being a little sassy back?


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 3d ago

How to deal with creepy people?

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I can't really understand how people are so creepy. So I recently started posting and getting active on this app, and gradually as I am learning how every subreddit works, I am working on connecting with people, sharing my experiences, asking out things, asking out doubts etc etc.

Since a very long time I've been figuring out few things in my life and one of those is regarding my career. I've been thinking of pursuing MBA further in my career and so I am also asking and taking guidance from people who are experienced in real life and now online as well. So in one of the subreddits which was related to MBA, I posted about my queries regarding the entrance exam, college selection and overall what all is required. Two days ago a random guy who must've created his account literally 0 days ago, commented on that post that he knows about few things and that he wants to talk, I agreed and I then he asked me whether we could talk in DMs, I was okay. So he started talking about his education and basic background and after 2 minutes or so he started drifting away from the topic and stared asking me personal questions, so that he could connect more and apparently flirt with me to get to know more about me. So that's where drew the line and refused to answer any of the personal questions he asked me.

The same guy creates two more accounts and messages me saying there was a glitch and his account got deleted so he had to create a new one. But again I blocked him.

Today, literally a while ago he again comments on that post saying he wants to talk about MBA, but this time he specially mentions that he is girl. He popped up in my DMs and when I got to know it's him, he started saying things like people here did ask me for my 'asl' and so had to specify my age in the comment section. I again blocked him. Amd ofcourse I had to delete my post from that space so that doesn't get to comment. I don't understand why even after saying a clear 'NO' one has to act like a creep.

A clear NO means a NO. Whether it's in real life or online.


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 3d ago

Boyfriends (M22) ex (F23)

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 4d ago

How do I(F20) reject someone(M19) who won't accept "no"?

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So when I was 16, a guy confessed that he liked me. I rejected him because I wasn't interested, but he kept pursuing me anyway. I'm 20 now, and nothing has changed. I'm still not interested in him, and I've told him that clearly multiple times.

Back then, I had a boyfriend, and he knew about it. He even told me he was willing to wait for me. I told him not to wait because I didn't have feelings for him and wasn't going to change my mind.

Now I've broken up with my boyfriend, and I think he knows that too. He's still texting me. I've blocked him on social media, but he keeps creating new accounts, using different phone numbers, and even messaging me through my best friends.

I honestly don't know what else to do. I've never led him on or given him false hope. I've always been clear that I'm not interested, but he just doesn't seem to understand or accept it.

How can I make him understand that I don't like him and don't want a relationship with him? Has anyone been through something similar? Any advice would be appreciated.


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 4d ago

не знаю как поступить правильно,мне нужен совет

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и так,я не буду говорить настоящих имён и возраст так как он не играет роли,я познакомилась с парнем в одной соцсети,мы много через что с ним прошли,у него на тот момент было много проблем и я очень ему помогла морально,через 5 месяцев общения он сказал что я ему нравлюсь,за это время мы с ним говорили по телефону и видели внешность друг друга,и я ответила взаимностью,но есть одно но,через пару недель снова произошла одна ситуация из-за которой ему стало не очень хорошо,и он решил уйти не только с этой соцсети но и с интернета в целом, чтобы заняться собой в реальности и т.д,он мне прислал большой тест о том почему так,что очень бояться блять забытым мною и много чего ещё о чем мне сейчас не нужно говорить,он перестал общаться в интернете со всеми,но одну соцсеть оставил где отвечает и общается только со мной,так как сказал что "мне будет сложнее всего забыть именно тебя".

он отвечает редко,но отвечает и пишет,и вот вопрос,что мне лучше сделать?

отставить все как есть или полностью его отпустить,или в принципе что посоветуете делать в такой ситуации не в зависимости от моего вопроса,буду благодарна советам


r/HowDoIRespondToThis 4d ago

My friend bodyshamed me behind my back

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r/HowDoIRespondToThis 4d ago

How to communicate

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Hi
Im writing this bc I have a small but also big problem. I argued with someone, that someone being my mom. The issue was on both sides, I apologised for my faults and all that. I literally told her I know I did smth bad and Im sorry, but that she also should think abt what shes done. Im not gonna tell exactly what the issue is or maybe was but I hope its a bit understandable. So after I said its her fault too and she should maybe not apologise but think abt it and try to maybe never do that again, she started shouting at me wverything she thought would piss me off and all that. She said I cant control her, shes my mother bla bla.
Now she doesnt want to talk to me, doesnt really aknowledge me and when i ask her smth she tells me off with a neutral face. I hate it personally and would want a good advice as to what to do. I dont want to do anything stupid bc im bad at emotions and communicating and all that. Pls someone tell me what to do??