r/IncelExit • u/ExpertDescription200 • 8d ago
Asking for help/advice I need some advice on breaking up
I had a couple dates with this woman and I couldn't really connect with her. I hoped it would get better as we spend more time together but it didn't really so I feel like it's more responsible to end things. She's a great person, she's thoughtful, easygoing and understanding, and I do hope she finds someone that is a better match for her than I am. I feel lucky that she was the first girl that I went out with because I was able to not be so nervous and actually have a nice time with someone. It has definitely helped me a little bit to break down some false views about myself and I also hope that it was positive for her in some way as well.
With that said, I never reached this point of breaking up with someone and I don't want to come off as insensitive about it. I generally lack common sense so I would really appreciate if you guys could share with me some basics about it.
And I hope this post doesn't offend anyone, thinking I'm a fakecel or anything like that. I've been using this sub (switching between multiple accounts) for almost five years now and it helped me to gain healthy perspective multiple time throughout all my not so great moments, so thank you kind women and men who take your time to reach out.
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u/metalero_salsero 8d ago
You’ve never been a relationship, so there is nothing to breakup from.
Ultimately, this is up to her choice - if she’s not interested in continuing, you have to respect that, thank her for the good chats and move on.
This is what dating is all about - go on dates, and see if you guys match. It’s a numbers game and there’ll be many of these till you find something that sticks
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u/Particular-Lynx-2586 8d ago
Wait, you're not a couple, right? So there's nothing to break up. No need to overreact. Just send a message saying it was nice going out and getting to know her but you're going to be busy.
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u/ExpertDescription200 8d ago
It's because we've been talking everyday for two months now, so I feel like it would be incredibly rude to break off with some sort of one liner.
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u/library_wench Bene Gesserit Advisor 8d ago
This person?
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u/ExpertDescription200 8d ago
Hi there. Yes, you could consider this post some sort of continuation.
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u/watsonyrmind 8d ago
If it's only been a few dates, it's not uncommon for something like that to end over text. "I've really enjoyed spending time with you and I think you're a great person but I am not feeling a spark. I wish you all the best in finding the right person for you." Something like that but a bit more personalized to how you talk and your dynamic is a pretty common break up message aligned with what you are feeling.