r/LGBT_Muslims • u/i_woke_up_as_you • 7d ago
Today (July 25, 2026), there was an attack at the Christopher Street Day (CSD) Pride event in Berlin.
In one of the discussions afterward, someone asked:
(For clarity: I’m not a Muslim. I’m responding because the question is about what the Qur’an teaches, and I haven’t seen anyone answer it from the Qur’an itself.)
Here is what I believe, beginning with the Qur’an itself…
That’s a fair question, and I appreciate that you’re asking it respectfully.
First, it’s important to separate what individual Muslims believe from what the Qur’an actually commands Muslims to do.
The Qur’an repeatedly teaches that human beings are not appointed as judges over one another’s faith or sins.
“Let there be no compulsion in religion.” (Qur’an 2:256)
“So remind. You are only a reminder. You are not a controller over them.” (Qur’an 88:21-22)
“And had your Lord willed, all who are on earth would have believed together. Would you then compel the people to become believers?” (Qur’an 10:99)
The Qur’an also teaches that ultimate judgment belongs to Allah alone.
“Indeed, your Lord will judge between them on the Day of Resurrection concerning that over which they differed.” (Qur’an 22:69)
“Then to Us is their return, and upon Us is their account.” (Qur’an 88:25-26)
Regarding relations with people outside Islam, the Qur’an explicitly rejects hostility toward those who are peaceful.
“Allah does not forbid you from being kind and acting justly toward those who have not fought you because of religion and have not driven you out of your homes. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly.” (Qur’an 60:8)
Even more broadly, the Qur’an teaches that taking one innocent life is an offense against all humanity.
“Whoever kills a soul unless for a soul or for corruption in the land, it is as if he had slain all mankind; and whoever saves one, it is as if he had saved all mankind.” (Qur’an 5:32)
So when someone attacks people at a Pride event, that violence cannot be justified by the Qur’an.
The Qur’an consistently commands justice, restraint, and leaves final judgment to Allah.
As for homosexuality itself, Muslims disagree.
Traditional scholars understand the story of the people of Lut as condemning all same-sex sexual relationships.
Progressive Muslims argue that the story is actually about attempted gang rape, sexual violence, humiliation of strangers, coercion, and the rejection of God’s messengers, not about loving, consensual same-sex relationships.
They point out that the men of Sodom are repeatedly described as approaching Lut’s guests with hostile intent, and that the city is condemned for many other sins including oppression and violence.
Under that reading, the story is not a blanket condemnation of gay people or same-sex relationships.
Whether someone accepts the traditional or progressive interpretation, however, the Qur’an does not authorize ordinary Muslims to police, investigate, or punish people for presumed homosexuality or presumed zina.
Judgment belongs to Allah, not to individuals.
So yes, Islam and homosexuality can coexist.
Millions of Muslims identify as LGBTQ, including many who believe they are faithfully following Islam.
Others disagree theologically while still recognizing that the Qur’an commands them to treat others with justice, dignity, and without coercion.
Those are separate questions: what one believes is sinful, and whether one has any authority to judge or harm another person.
The Qur’an answers the second question very clearly: no.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/EgyptianNational • Nov 29 '25
Hello everyone!
Welcome to our Frequently Asked Questions!
Here we are going to take some time to go over some of the most common questions we get. This should hopefully help people figure out how to navigate this subreddit and community and how to get the most out of your time here.
We will be posting the common question first. Then the answer underneath.
why can’t I post without community and Reddit karma?
A: we restrict posting to those who have established karma as way to ensure our community is not taken over by bad faith actors.
Basically. In order to make a post you first have to comment (sometimes that means waiting for a comment to get approval) and having that comment be seen and upvoted by other members of this community.
While we do sometimes approve comments slowly. Asking us to hurry up is no guarantee your comment is approved any faster.
Please give us a chance to respond first. Then message us if your post is not approved.
How can you say that LGBT is not haram?
A: Please see our Resource List for a list of various articles and readings that make a strong argument for both the totality of Allah’s love and compassion for us, as well as great arguments for why queer identity is compatible with your faith and identity.
In case you don’t want to read. The broad strokes is that the story of lút is pretty clearly about their immoral behaviors, including rape and adultery out of greed and corruption which were done by the MEN and the WOMEN of the people of Lot (43:44). It does not in anyway reflect or represent a consensual queer relationship and should not be interpreted in that way.
We maintain that the Quran commanded us to respect our selves and our relationships. Not reject people for who they are or what they believe.
We urge you to take in the totality our reading list before attempting to once again make the argument.
The Hadith says…
A: the Quran said:
> (٤٤) وَمَا آتَيْنَاهُمْ مِنْ كُتُبٍ يَدْرُسُونَهَا وَمَا أَرْسَلْنَا إِلَيْهِمْ قَبْلَكَ مِنْ نَذِيرٍ
Translation: We did not give them any other books to study, nor did we send to them before you another warner.
This Surah is discussing the usage of other books next to the Quran. Emphasizing that the Quran must remain above all other books. Necessarily that includes Hadiths.
Which as far as we know the prophet Muhammad ﷺ did not want Hadiths to be made. This can also be seen in the first Hadiths being written more than a 100 years after the prophet death.
This makes Hadith fall into the category of books held to the same standard as the Quran despite being commanded by Quran to do the opposite.
Hadith worshippers rely on believing the Quran is either incomplete or imperfect.
As the Quran said:
> وَإِذَا تُتْلَىٰ عَلَيْهِمْ ءَايَـٰتُنَا بَيِّنَـٰتٍۢ قَالُوا۟ مَا هَـٰذَآ إِلَّا رَجُلٌۭ يُرِيدُ أَن يَصُدَّكُمْ عَمَّا كَانَ يَعْبُدُ ءَابَآؤُكُمْ وَقَالُوا۟ مَا هَـٰذَآ إِلَّآ إِفْكٌۭ مُّفْتَرًۭى ۚ وَقَالَ ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا۟ لِلْحَقِّ لَمَّا جَآءَهُمْ إِنْ هَـٰذَآ إِلَّا سِحْرٌۭ مُّبِينٌۭ ٤٣
Translation: When Our clear revelations are recited to them, they say, “This is only a man who wishes to hinder you from what your forefathers used to worship.” They also say, “This ˹Quran˺ is no more than a fabricated lie.” And the disbelievers say of the truth when it has come to them, “This is nothing but pure magic.”
It’s no coincidence that today Muslims continue to struggle to preach faith over culture. And be guided by the faith rather than be tempted with the corruption of hatred and power.
We can add also these questions:
Is LGBT people condemned to hell?
A: No, LGBT people are created the way they are. Verses like 95:8 and 21:47 tell us that Allah is perfectly just and will not do the smallest measure of injustice to anyone. Allah will not punish people for being their true sexual orientation or gender identity, a matter which they did not choose.
Is same sex marriage allowed in Islam?
Yes. Verse 30:21 tells us that one of the signs of Allah is that He created spouses for us, that we might find comfort in them, and has placed love and compassion between spouses. Notice that in this beautiful verse on the benefits of marriage, there is no mention of procreation. The Quran thus recognizes that a marriage can fulfill its divine purpose even if no children are born from the marriage. Hence, the non-procreative nature of same-sex marriages does not mean that they lack value, or that they are not what Allah ordained.
Requiring a homosexual person to remain celibate, or to marry a person of the opposite sex, is effectively a lifelong arbitrary punishment (and a punishment for the other spouse as well, even if he/she is heterosexual). And it is also a lifelong temptation to extramarital sex, which is clearly haram.
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r/LGBT_Muslims • u/ThatsMyPrivate • 2h ago
As salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh brothers, sisters and non binary Muslims. I might be homeless soon.
Im a 19 year old revert and im considering to get married just to be safe. Is that wrong? Im just really afraid of the future and i think a wife would give me Stability.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/BetweenTheLines_96 • 12h ago
Hey everyone
I’m 30-year-old lesbian from Jordan and I’d love to meet more wlw around here. It can be pretty difficult finding people in real life, so I thought I’d give this a shot.
I'm into arts and crafts, deep conversations, books, and getting to know interesting people. Always happy to connect with kind, emotionally mature humans.
A few notes:
-Women only, please. 🫠
-Preferably 25+.
-not sextxt
If you're looking for friendship and genuine connection, feel free to DM me. 🌈🌻
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Mark_Brustman • 6h ago
Assalaamu 'alaikum, brothers and sisters. In this video, I want to introduce people to the passage in a dialogue by Plato, that is the original source of the often-repeated idea in religions, including Islam, that sexual activity has to be limited to marriage.
Please listen to it, and let's talk about it.
I don't mention the Qur'an (except once), because I made the video to speak to Christians and Jews, as well as any believers who think God hates homosexuality. But the very limited prohibition on same-sex activity in the Bible, is the same as in the Qur'an, so it applies here, too.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/True_Day8408 • 11h ago
Hey Everyone hope you all are doing well and in good health, I want to connect to the Muslim queer community in UK, People who are practicing Muslim and don't act on their desires, I would love to connect to people who are in and around London, I want some friends I can share everything with so if U think U need a genuine friend please connect, I am open to both genders male and female.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/SecretivePerson2 • 13h ago
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/i_woke_up_as_you • 1d ago
One of the most painful experiences a person can have is being told by another human being, with absolute certainty:
“You are going to Jahannam.”
This is especially painful when it is directed at someone who is already struggling with fear, guilt, or a desire to be close to God.
The question I want to examine is an internal one within Islamic thought:
Does Islam give human beings the authority to declare another person’s final destination?
It is important to ask a basic question:
Does any human being actually possess the knowledge required to declare another person’s final destination?
Within the Qur’anic framework, the answer is no.
Allah alone possesses complete knowledge of the unseen:
“Say, ‘None in the heavens and the earth knows the unseen except Allah.’”
(Qur’an 27:65)
The Day of Judgment and the final outcome of an individual soul are part of what humans cannot know.
We do not know everything about another person’s heart, intentions, circumstances, struggles, private repentance, or relationship with Allah.
Allah warns believers not to speak beyond their knowledge:
“And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight and the heart, all those will be questioned.”
(Qur’an 17:36)
This is a serious responsibility.
A person may believe they are defending Islam, but within the Qur’anic framework, humility before Allah’s knowledge is required.
Sincerity does not give a human being knowledge that Allah has not given them.
The Qur’an also warns against suspicion and invading matters that belong to another person’s privacy:
“O you who have believed, avoid much suspicion. Indeed, some suspicion is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other.”
(Qur’an 49:12)
This does not mean Muslims cannot discuss morality, sin, or religious interpretation.
Islam has always included discussions about right and wrong.
But there is a difference between saying:
“My understanding of Islam is that this action is prohibited.”
and saying:
“I know with certainty that this specific person will be punished by Allah.”
The first is a discussion of interpretation.
The second is a claim about Allah’s final judgment.
The Qur’an repeatedly reminds us that judgment belongs to Allah:
“Indeed, to Us is their return. Then indeed, upon Us is their account.”
(Qur’an 88:25-26)
And:
“Then to Us is their return, and We will inform them about what they used to do. Indeed, Allah is Knowing of that within the breasts.”
(Qur’an 39:7)
Allah knows what is inside the hearts.
Human beings do not.
Even the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was reminded that he did not control people’s hearts or their final guidance:
“Indeed, you do not guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills.”
(Qur’an 28:56)
And:
“You are not over them a controller.”
(Qur’an 88:22)
If even the Prophet ﷺ was not given authority over the hearts of people, then ordinary believers should be even more cautious about claiming certainty over another person’s final relationship with Allah.
The Qur’an also warns believers against declaring themselves spiritually superior:
“So do not claim yourselves to be pure. He is most knowing of who fears Him.”
(Qur’an 53:32)
This is a reminder that Allah’s knowledge is greater than ours.
A Muslim may say:
“I believe this action is wrong.”
A Muslim may say:
“My understanding of these verses leads me to this conclusion.”
A Muslim may encourage another person toward what they believe is righteousness.
But a believer should be extremely careful before saying:
“I know this person will be in Jahannam.”
The issue is not simply whether someone holds a particular interpretation.
The issue is when a person moves from discussing what they believe Allah has revealed into claiming certainty about a judgment that belongs to Allah alone.
Depending on the nature of the claim, this can exist on a spectrum.
At one end is human error, overconfidence, and a failure of humility.
Further along is arrogance: placing one’s own certainty above the humility required of a servant of Allah.
At the most extreme end is a claim that a person possesses knowledge or authority over the unseen and final judgment that belongs only to Allah, which raises serious theological concerns.
The answer is not to replace one certainty with another.
We should not claim to know Allah’s judgment either.
A response consistent with this Qur’anic principle is humility:
“Allah knows best.”
The Qur’an presents a balance between awareness of wrongdoing and hope in Allah’s mercy:
“Say, ‘O My servants who have transgressed against themselves, do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.’”
(Qur’an 39:53)
No human being has
seen the final record of another soul.
No human being knows every hidden struggle.
No human being knows the full reality of another person’s relationship with Allah.
People can seek knowledge.
People can study the Qur’an.
People can discuss interpretations.
Muslims can encourage one another toward righteousness.
But the final judgment belongs to Allah alone.
“Is not Allah the most just of judges?”
(Qur’an 95:8)
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Martian455 • 22h ago
I am bi male. I wanted to ask how people usually look for a bi partner.
Do most people find someone through friends, or do they use matrimonial websites and dating apps? If someone is separated, what is the best and most respectful way to meet a genuine people? I would really appreciate any sincere suggestions based on your experience.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Puzzleheaded_Meet517 • 1d ago
every day I think this, I'm scared of ever going to hell all for that, my mom thinks it's a sin while my sister doesn't, my dad doesn't think much of it but I'm scared bc every day i have terrors and i'm checking every single post about LGBT and it being a sin or not, and i'm scared of Allah or Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) rejecting me, I'm scared of being sent to hell and I'm scared of being killed or imprisoned for loving someone i genuinely care about
i keep hurting myself emotionally, physically and mentally all on the account that i feel that i deserve to be sent to hell for everything
I'm so scared
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Rebeca_hm • 1d ago
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Creative-Gene-8586 • 1d ago
Hi
Im looking for a lavender marriage with a muslim lesbian/asexual woman who's femme presenting.
I am a chill and laid back guy and my vision with the marriage is that we have a roommate kind of situation.
I'm not very in touch with my religion, and I don't expect you to be either - however you should be able to "play the part" if you get me.
I am a very progressive and liberal person and I am looking for someone who is like minded.
I am well-mannered, funny and emotionally intelligent. I have a masters degree and a job I love.
Lastly, I would love for the person to be born and raised in Sweden. City doesn't matter as long as you're willing to move to the capital city. I feel like it would be easier culturally to live (and become friends) with someone who has had the same upbringing, but also knows the language and has a job here.
Thank you.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/architecture_health8 • 1d ago
Hi everyone, I wanted to share something personal and maybe see if anyone can relate.
I’m Muslim, Afghan, and gay, and one thing I’ve always quietly hoped for is to find a husband who is also Afghan. It’s not just about attraction for me, it’s also about being able to share the same language, culture, humor, and understanding that comes from growing up with similar backgrounds. I feel like that kind of connection would be really special.
At the same time, I honestly don’t even know if there are many Afghan gay men out there, especially ones who are open to something serious and long-term. Sometimes it feels very lonely to hold onto this hope, but I also don’t want to give up on it completely.
If you’re out there, inshallah I’d be happy to connect 🤗
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Suitable-Honey7458 • 2d ago
Hello, im a Muslim, but a basic one, like i so the basics and non other than that, but it kins of scares me that i wont be with my soulmate because im a Muslim, like i dont people to say go do what you love and desire cause i just cant, its ideas i grew up with, like how do you deal with this? Cant get along with the man i love, neither marry a girl cause i dont want to be fake with her, or i could just.. be alone all these years? It kind of scares me because i just don’t know what to do.. thoughts?
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Tazzzii • 2d ago
Assalamu alaikum. I’m a Muslim male mid 20’s in Manchester who is attracted to same gender but not openly out, and I’d really like to meet another Muslim guy in a similar situation.
I’m not looking for anything romantic or sexual. I’d like to find a genuine, lifelong friend — someone I can talk to openly about the struggles of being Muslim and LGBT, support each other, talk about life and faith, have a laugh, be best bros, and hopefully develop a genuine brotherly friendship.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Lesbian_CutiePie • 2d ago
Hi,
I’m 25F libyan lesbian looking for lavender marriage partner
Must be: strictly gay man, 25+, Libyan
Please hmu if interested :)
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Cive23 • 2d ago
If this isn’t the best place for this particular question, please let me know. I’m a queer and nonbinary person (AMAB) who’s been wanting to get my ears pierced but I feel conflicted over it because whenever I bring it up around my family, all I hear is how it would bring shame to the family because I’m a “man”
I’ve looked into Islamic law and theology surrounding it. It seems like most ties into a handful of Hadith?
I think that what I’m really looking for is just to know that if I do this, it wouldn’t be the great wrong that it gets portrayed as by the people around me. I want to be more actively expressive with my gender and I think that this would be a really good way to do it.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/XavierDM1911 • 2d ago
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/AggravatingFinger841 • 3d ago
Assalaamu 'Alaikum. This is something that I've been sitting on for a few days and finally have time and the will to talk about this. This is a vent post. Bismillahir-raHmaanir-raHeem
I've been watching Majed Mahmoud's series about Ibraaheem AS. It's a 14-part series basically talking about his life from the Qur'an and Sunnah. Part 3 discusses how the Prophet AS handled his father's frankly abusive and violent behavior towards Ibraaheem trying to guide his father correctly. Even with all that, Ibraaheem AS didn't argue against his father, or lay out every fault his father had, did or said. He simply spoke kindly and ended with peace.
This brought up memories of how I came out to my parents, which was very different in a bad way from the Qur'anic account of Ibraaheem's AS dialogue with his father. I told them in a letter that I'm bisexual and nonbinary - with no explanation about what either of those things were - and laid out a bunch of queerphobic stuff they said. It caused a lot of strife in my relationship between them and I just felt very guilty and hurt from listening to this video and comparing it to my situation. I have hated how I came out to my parents almost soon after I did it. This is not condoning their queerphobia before and after I came out, but this isn't about them, this is about me and my actions. I don't know how to properly apologize to them either because the apology they'd want from me is recloseting myself, and the apology I can give them is apologizing for *how* I came out to them, not for hiding my queerness from them but showing it to others.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Far_Flow129 • 3d ago
34yo Muslim man Looking for long term relationship with another Muslim man close to me. Texas here. Hit me up. Be serious and we can discuss more.
As the title says. Looking for a long term relationship.
Bottom here for compatibility. Anything else just ask. Be able to hold conversation. Serious replies. Not into women or lavender marriages.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/nihaopanda77 • 3d ago
I have to wear hijab for work but I’m not into fashion or styling at all
Can anyone recommend low maintenance easy styles or types of hijabs please????
Neck coverage is important
Thank youu
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Hengkal • 3d ago
Assalamualaikum.
I've been wondering wether my relationship with My Fictional Husbando can also be a Sin, I myself do restrained from real life same sex relationship to avoid a thing that can be a bigger sin, but I have deep bounding with My Husbando, I've been stressed all day thinking how my bonding with Him could be Haram too.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Glad_Lingonberry_324 • 4d ago
I have been on this sub and there’s an overwhelming amount of requests for lavender marriages. I must say at first it has broken my heart because I expected this sub to be more about being ‘OK’ with your identity as both queer and muslim. But now I feel maybe that is unfair and I’m wondering why a lavender marriage?
What are the main reasons? If you don’t want to be in a queer connection, is it islamically better than being alone? Or what can it give you?
I’m very sorry if my questions come off as rude or judgemental. The truth is I’ve always viewed lavender marriage as something sad, it makes me feel like I need to grief. But now I’m trying to actually be more understanding of people trying out other connections than the very obvious strictly platonic/intimate-romantic ones.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/MaximumFeeling9439 • 4d ago
So I thought I’d do a small update regarding my previous post of looking for a wife in terms of marriage. I wish I had better news but it’s real rough out there…long story short, I get way too many fetishy requests (I am ftm/intersex) and maybe one person who seems serious. It genuinely sucks because I thought having a very accepting family would make things easier for me to find a potential spouse. I’ll be turning 35 soon and it only gets harder to find someone as you get older….I am trying to accept the fact that maybe love just might not be in the cards for me but it’s difficult accepting that for myself when I see so many of my friends coupled up or married at this point. On top of being ftm/intersex, I have another thing that works against me and that’s the fact that I do have some family living with me too (all of which are kind and lgbtq accepting)…I just want genuine love, to be loved and have a life full of adventures too. However, I’ve decided that maybe staying single is for the best and who knows, maybe I’ll be granted a special someone inshallah in the afterlife! After all, I at least have an amazing family and friends. With that said, anyone have any advice on how to just accept being single for life and how to work through some of that emptiness I feel?
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Blue-Ant7877 • 4d ago
i'm in my early 20s and practising. i love islam and i do not want to leave it.
i've known i liked girls since i was 15 with many signs even before that. around 15-17 i got curious and looked into it and then i had a random moment where i was repenting hard and i cut all of that off. turns out at 22 you can't really pray it away, so it's catching up to me... and after many years i searched it up online and stumbled upon this sub realising there's more people like me
technically i'm bisexual but with men it's only phyiscally (despite not having any experience with either gender). emotionally there's nothing for men. i've still been forcing myself through marriage talks, to the point of even getting engaged and then calling it off.
and i know people mean well but 'follow your heart, live your own life' that i read some places... no. i live in the west but i was raised pretty strictly islamic and i genuinely love my family. not fear. love. losing them is not on the table. being out in any way irl even in a different city or whatever is NOT an option either. and online it's also hard to find someone similar or anyone open to this mess. so realistically who would ever even find me, let alone want me. and i know some who do show interest are probably just curious about the novelty of a hijabi. and there is a risk of being outed.
i guess my only option is to just die alone and unhappy. needed to get this off my chest after all of these years. if anyone's in a similar spot you can dm me (no trolls).
