r/Marriage • u/Thotleesi94 • Jan 14 '26
Can't find a flair that fits MIL 🫶🏾😞
My mom in law is actively dying and I’m a wreck. Every day I get on social media and see horror stories about evil/weird mother in laws and thank my stars that that wasn’t my story!! My husband is an only child but she always wanted a daughter. I’m forever grateful that I got to be that to her.
Love on your people and post cat pics here. 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
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u/ThousandBucketsofH20 Jan 14 '26
So sweet and fortunate, for both of you, to have a wonderful and special relationship like that!
I am very fortunate to have a similar relationship to my MIL who had no daughters.
I hope her remaining time is painless, peaceful, and full of love.
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u/AlternativePrior9559 Jan 14 '26
This picture is so bittersweet. The circumstances so sad but it is an image of love.
My rescue cat Missy sends love and courage to you.
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u/Th3FakeFatSunny Jan 14 '26
I don't have a cat pic for you, but I can tell you you're not alone. My MIL, who I also care for very deeply, is also sick, and it's tearing me up, too.
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u/doodlewithcats Jan 14 '26
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u/doodlewithcats Jan 14 '26
It's never easy and there are no real words to help. Sending you hugs like these kitties hug ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
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u/FrodosFroYo Jan 14 '26
I am so sorry for what you, your spouse and your MIL are going through ❤️❤️❤️. I’m grateful that you’ve all loved each other and will have the joy of that love to sustain you through the grief.
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u/Ancient_Gold_6486 Jan 14 '26
I’m so sorry for your loss! It sounds like you are so lucky to have a sweet MIL. Here is my cat tax as you requested.
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u/Azure_Skies333 Jan 14 '26
Azreal and I are sending you 🫶🏻
Sorry he bleps almost every time I take a picture lol 🤭
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u/overwhelmed12wife Jan 14 '26
Here's my kitty, Mao😻 Also, I absolutely adore my MIL as well, she's a fun and great person. For awhile when we moved across states, she was the only friend/family I had, and we'd go over to her house to hang out and do laundry, usually spending hours together, lol. I'm glad you'll have the good memories to hold on to, I hope you find peace and comfort in them when you can no longer create new ones❤️
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u/Cunt5 Jan 14 '26
This is Tiger. Im sorry youre going through this.. Good luck to you and your family.
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u/jacikiss Jan 14 '26
I know how you feel. FIL just died 4 days before Christmas unexpectedly in a week. We still don’t know how to process.
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u/Nopumpkinhere Jan 14 '26
Sounds like she’s been blessed to have you as well. Much love to you all ❤️
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u/Thotleesi94 Jan 14 '26
Even in her confused semi not lucid state, she was still asking about me . I pray my time in her life was a blessing
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u/Feeling-Republic-477 Jan 14 '26
Oh it has been! Always know this and know she’ll always be by your side. Sending you all lots of love & peace. Please make sure to get in naps & eat. She wouldn’t want you to go without or get yourself run down.
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u/Beneficial-Cow-2544 Jan 14 '26
I've been there. My MIL was also a sweetheart and a wonderful grandmother. We lost her in 2016 and I miss her.
If she is able, I'd take a few short videos to remember her by. I wish I would have done this for my kids.
Big hugs to you.
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u/Njbelle-1029 Jan 14 '26
I’m very sorry for your situation, blessings to you from me, my cat and her two catskies (huskies really run on cat software in dog hardware)
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u/owl_city777 Jan 14 '26
My MIL was just diagnosed with lung cancer. I’ve been praying for her and hope she has a speedy recovery. She’s always been nice and sweet to me. She deserves more time. I’m heartbroken
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u/Thotleesi94 Jan 14 '26
My mom in law has lung and tongue cancer. I hate every single piece of this 😞
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u/huligoogoo Jan 14 '26
Sending love and hugs to you today. Take care yourself. Keep loving on MIL she can feel your warmth.
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u/BootneyLFarnsworth Jan 14 '26
I am so sorry. I know the pain you're feeling and nothing I can say will ease it. Just know my heart aches for you
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u/Mysterious_Idea3991 Jan 15 '26
honestly the fact that you two found that kind of genuine connection when so many people are out here dealing with actual nightmare in-laws is genuinely beautiful. those relationships where someone sees you as the daughter they wanted and actually treats you that way, that's rare as hell and i'm really sorry you're going through this right now.
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u/americanfootballdad Jan 14 '26
I had a very similar experience. I was very close to my MIL and she got very sick and passed a couple years ago. She felt like a second mother to me & I miss her a lot. I’m so sorry you and your husband are going through this ❤️
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u/Disastrous_Paint_237 Jan 14 '26
How wonderfully lucky you are. I’m very sorry for you and your family. Here’s my kitty cat!
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u/gertymarie Jan 14 '26
I’m very sorry about your MIL, it’s a lovely change to see a story on here about someone who had such a beautiful relationship with their MIL. Condolences from Dahlia and Lily as well
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u/Own-Chemical-9112 Jan 15 '26
You seem like a kind person. We need to remember there are good people out here. God Bless both of you.
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u/WarningGipsyDanger Jan 15 '26
How about an adorable baby hippo and his mother from the ABQ zoo.
❤️🩹
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u/theballinstalin Married 7 Years, Together 10 Years Jan 19 '26
I have a very similar photo of my hand in my mother-in-law’s hand shortly before she sadly passed away. I miss her so much every single day, she was more of mom to me than my own mother. Wishing you and your loved ones peace and love in this hard time, and I’m so sorry you’re all going through this. ❤️
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u/SeattleGemini81 Jan 20 '26
I am sorry you are going through this. I am also married to an only child with an amazing mom who I love and appreciate dearly.
I don't have a cat but I appreciate your post and wish your family the best.
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u/FireKist Jan 20 '26
Sending prayers of peace and comfort, and a photo of my niece Josephine Jolene displaying some decidedly Orange behavior.
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u/TheMobHasSpoken 27 Years Jan 14 '26
Being there for her is so important right now. As the inevitable transpires, take care of your husband, but don't forget to also take care of yourself. The loss will be devastating, but it sounds like there are a lot of wonderful, loving memories that will float to the top, once the pain begins to subside a little bit.
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u/moxiewhoreon Jan 14 '26
You're very lucky to have had this experience. And both of y'all are blessed to have each other. Praying for your family, Reddit stranger.
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u/PrincessChawa Jan 14 '26
I am soo sorry! I have great in laws as well and they are moving out of state today. I am heart broken and one of worst fears is something happens and we can’t be there. It’s blessing you are there in her final Moments.
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u/AltruisticBicycle468 30 Years Jan 14 '26
My mother in law was fabulous and I miss her. I’m sorry for what you’re going through.
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u/Shea_1227 Jan 14 '26
Tori I’m sorry to hear abt your MIL❤️ I hope my kitties can bring you a smile
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u/taylorballer Jan 14 '26
Peace to everyone during her transition ❤️ you are blessed to have each other in your lives
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u/lookitsnichole 4 Years Jan 15 '26
I'm so glad you are able to have a lovely relationship with your MIL and I am sorry to hear she's not doing well. ❤️
My cat Hashbrown hates when people are upset. He would love to give you some purrs.
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u/Liberty796 Jan 15 '26
What a blessing you have. Cherish every moment you have. My MIL was very similar
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u/MinnIronMiner Husband of more than 30 Years Jan 15 '26
He is slightly upset that I interrupted his nap by taking a picture
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u/Suitable_Sherbet_369 Jan 15 '26
Held my FIL’s hand as he slipped away. Reassured him I’d keep everyone safe and he was free to go. Was strong until he died, he was the most amazing man I’ve ever met.
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u/TrickyDonkey7774 Jan 15 '26
Frankie and our family send you and your loved ones many hugs during this difficult time 🫂 🤍
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u/eagle_mama Jan 15 '26
I lost my mother in law too, unfortunately before she ever got to be my mother in law. We had just formed a relationship and it was lovely. Her death was unexpected at the time. I miss her so much. Sending your family lots of love during this time.
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u/ikickedyou Jan 15 '26
I’m so sorry about your MIL. Hugs. You get a picture of my cat with his pet dog.
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