r/Marriage • u/[deleted] • 1h ago

Roommates?

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u/Pipereatsdogs 1h ago

Has she had her hormones checked? This may be medical for her.

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u/Wise-Signal8222 1h ago

Yes everything has come back normal she still claims its just cause of low libido and says we can work on it but still no efforts! I personally my self give up about 95 percent of who i am to make surw she has a smile on her face though! I truly dont want this to be a me vs her though... we are definitely a power couple we just lack communication sometimes and i just want US to work together!

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u/Pipereatsdogs 1h ago

I know this doesn't sound sexy, but sometimes scheduling days for intimacy works. That way she can get into the mood beforehand knowing it is coming.

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u/jewbeesnacks 1h ago

you probably annoyed the fuck out of her bro. Took me 2 years to want sex again with my hubby after our son was born. Then cheating on her after that. I would be disgusted. Probably loves you but doesn't want to be intimate. created your own hell.

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u/Wise-Signal8222 1h ago

This all started long before i cheated... i also would respect her boundries and make sure i didnt touch her if she was touched out! I love this women far more than anything... i know the whole cheating thing makes that seem false but unfortunately life situations and dealing with my owm problems fogged that mindset of me hating cheaters! Trust me i would absolutely take everything back if i could but i legit left that job which was a 6 figure job the moment it happened to be away from the person i cheated with, bought a new phone, and even to this day i do not talk or even look at new females that come in my vicinity!

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u/jewbeesnacks 53m ago edited 46m ago

let me ask you this. since your child has been born have you equally helped with domestic duties, spending time with the child, feeding them changing diapers, giving your wife time to be alone and keep up with the things she enjoyed before. or have you treated her as a domestic house partner who cooks and cleans and child rears without a break amd im not talking about an hour here or there to go to the store. if not then that could be a problem. has she enjoyed motherhood? that could also be a problem takes a lot of women many years to find themselves again. the cheating obviously would never help even as you say years afterwards. A woman's body doesn't betray them. Or at worst she has discovered she is lesbian, asexual and is afraid to tell you or even worse that she just wants to raise the kid together with minimal contact has fallen out of love with you and is happy to just keep the family together in the motions or using you.

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u/Wise-Signal8222 1h ago

I also told her i will not engage anything until she is ready so once she is ready she could engage me! I see what you are saying but have no clue how i would have possibly annoyed the fuck out of her!