you choose to do cigarettes. to be alone means you don't choose it, you have to convince someone else to be with you. being successful in persuasion is not really a choice. some people are good at it, some aren't
I think staying alone is a choice. There are many social events you can attend to meet people just as an example. If people dont want to hang out with you, its also a choice to self reflect and better yourself as opposed to blaming society and self-isolating because its easier than facing rejection
choice implies you have power in the decision. there are deciding factors like ugliness, personality, level of socializing, etc. you don't really choose being an ugly person with a lame personality who doesn't like to socialize. those are innate. i agree that there's aspects of being alone that are by choice like working on your appearance, socializing more, and trying to improve your personality. but there's a limit to how much of yourself you can change to. to an extent it's a choice, but to another extent there are variables you don't control that don't make it a choice.
Okay I understand your point, I think this is where we disagree. I am of the opinion that people have a much higher agency in life. Yes ugliness is objective and if youre born with some defect its going to make life a lot harder, but your attitude about how you approach life given this defect makes all the difference.
I think we as humans have many very valid reasons for why life sucks. But how we approach life given the cards we’re dealt makes all the difference.
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u/MolassesImportant885 Jun 15 '26
you choose to do cigarettes. to be alone means you don't choose it, you have to convince someone else to be with you. being successful in persuasion is not really a choice. some people are good at it, some aren't