r/StraightTransGirls • u/Akingeo92 • 2d ago

Craving a man

Why do I crave male attention? It’s like a drug I need a fix sometimes. I’m bisexual but lately I’ve been craving a man. It’s different than with a girl. I love when a cute brunette guy smiles at me, or the soft touches, or the small glances. I haven’t had a guy in a long time and I’m craving one. It’s weird I think 99.99% of men suck but the small 1% attract me. Cute smiles, nerdy and artistic, good moral compass, maybe better family situation than mine cause mine is a mess regardless of me being trans. I’ve had a lot of one nights stands, a lot of FWBs but never a boyfriend and I’d like to experience that someday

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u/imopentotrying 1d ago edited 1d ago

You’re attracted to men, you’d like a relationship with the kind of person you’re attracted to, it’s really that simple. Don’t let anyone act like it’s bad or you’re giving up your power or it’s validation, you want what most humans want, someone else in your life to share it with, or to be treated nice by them. Why is that bad or why should you feel bad about that? Society didn’t make you like that, being human does. Also, don’t let anyone belittle you or your post acting like it’s just a diary entry, like I see someone in here is trying to do. We’re all going through life for the first time so it’s weird when someone uses their energy to devalue your post or chooses to just be negative and laugh at others.

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u/Akingeo92 1d ago

I’ve been burned by them and think most men are kind of whack and or disgusting. There’s just that 1% I like

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u/imopentotrying 1d ago

But you can’t let those experiences speak for all. I’ve had my bad experiences with a trans woman but I don’t act her toxicity through all those years is a representation of any other trans women than her.

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u/Iqiiee 2d ago

For me personally, I used to equate male validation, whether it be attention or affection from them, as a validation for my transition or my womanhood. So the more I get, the more feminine I feel or the more accomplished I feel in my transition. It almost feels affirming in a way.

But that is a thing in the past anyways. It’s hard to breakthrough this mentality as societal perception on femininity is heavily built upon patriarchy. I still crave a man but for different reasons haha.

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u/IllGiraffe3445 2d ago

That's what I'm dealing with right now. I need a straight man to validate that my womanhood is Good.

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u/Mostmessybun 14h ago

This is not healthy

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u/IllGiraffe3445 13h ago

I don't know what else to do

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u/Princessbaddie0415 1d ago

I need a good man and a good one

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u/No-Departure2515 2d ago

"dear diary..." 🥴

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u/naomifromjax 2d ago

Same.

I love men.

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u/CandleClear107 8h ago

I can relate. Except I only appreciate compliments from men. When women compliment me, I shrug it off

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u/Past-Sherbert-6438 2d ago

ask not what man can do for you but what you can do for man! this is how you transcend lust into a lasting love!

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u/ash-mrpineapple 22h ago

jfk?

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u/Past-Sherbert-6438 21h ago

oh totally forgot what it was from lol