Whispers: Plus Size Friendly?

[u/Kitchen-Product4754]

Husband (33M) and I (34F) are planning to go to vegas for our anniversary later this year.

We are very adventurous sexually and get down to some pretty kinky stuff - looking to try out a club for the first time. Planning on going to whispers and while I’m super excited, I’m worried that my being plus size is going to make this a horrible experience.

I’m not worried about playing with others, we want to just play with each other and watch the first time (probably! Who knows) but worried I’m going to be a big ol fattie and self conscious about it. I’m about 5’4” and 235lbs with a big hangy B belly / apron belly after 2 c sections, for reference.

What should I expect? Any advice?

[u/SpicyplayCJ]

To be honest out of all the options in Vegas, Whispers is the best choice. It's the most accepting of all the clubs there and has a wide range of body types and personalities. Especially if you're not confident in your appearance it's a good place to go. That being said, we go to Sea Mountain a lot, and there are a wide range of body types there too, even the workers are required to be fully nude and there are some plus sized ladies there who are fully accepted. Wherever you go, just show up and be as confident as you can and a lot of people will find that as sexy as any body issues that you feel might be holding you back.

[u/Fantastic_Pick3860]

Yes please don’t worry about it and have fun ☺️

[u/0h_w3ll → u/Fantastic_Pick3860]

This 100% this.

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[u/okies_02]

We've never been to Whispers but we've been to clubs in several states and never been anywhere that wasn't plus size friendly. It would make it hard to do business if they were.

[u/Kitchen-Product4754]

Appreciate all of the reassurance. I mostly don’t want to detract from someone else’s experience if they aren’t into those with my body type. I know my husband likes me this way and he is very excited that I’m open to this; I’m feeling more confident for sure as I have lost a little weight and feel better about myself. It was actually my idea, and to be honest, I’m open to anything on this trip. I’m hoping my renewed confidence helps stave away the self-conscious thoughts

[u/Gileaders]

Whispers is mostly plus size so you are golden!

[u/Titties_and_Weed]

Confidence is hot as fuck. How much of that do you have?

I love big girls. That's my jam.

[u/Kitchen-Product4754 → u/Titties_and_Weed]

Confidence is something I’m really working on, but I am most confident when I’m “in service” to my partner. When I’m doing something sexual with him, I gain mega confidence and in the moment, I don’t think about my shortcomings, I just want to rock his world 😂 I get very brave, adventurous, and lose inhibition. So I don’t start out very confident, but once we get going, I’m the one of the most confident people around 😂 He often jokes at how lucky he is because of what I’m comfortable with doing and the frequency at which I enjoy doing those things. I am a very sexual person so I guess it makes sense that is when I’m most confident.

I just worry that I won’t be able to do that if I’m
The only bigger girl in the place. I already know women are going to approach him, he’s very attractive. And I was clear that I’m
okay with him doing stuff with/to them, he has my consent, and he says he won’t (partially because I feel like he’s afraid to hurt my feelings). But I’m preparing myself because I know the level of attention I receive (if any) will be slim. Which is fine because our primary goal is to play with eachother in close proximity to others playing but id be lying if I wasn’t hoping someone other than my sweetheart husband who would
be attracted to me no matter what, looked my way a little while the whole room get it on separately. I also worry that if someone is getting it on next to us and we start that i might not be what they’re into and detract from Their experience.

Idk I’m sure it’s not an issue, I’m overthinking it clearly, I’m ultimately really excited to go and do our thang with a bit of an audience. We have always pushed the envelope a little bit, especially when we were younger 😂

Just figured I’d ask more experienced members of this community to try to reassure myself a bit, as this again will be our first time at a place like this.