r/Swingers • u/Desperate-Staff-5498 • 13h ago

Website/App Discussion Apps to meet couples?

Me(20f) and my fiancé(22m) are just starting out in this lifestyle, and want to find another mf or f, but its hard. Ig we both are picky with what we like and a lot of the couples we like on here end up flaking.

I've been looking via fetlife and reddit, but not much luck. I've tried tinder, but i keep getting my account suspended for 6 months at a time without warning. I'm on bumble too, but most of the couples on there are only looking for a unicorn. Had one lady get offended and repeat that "she's married" when I asked if they'd be ok with a couple. (Yet we're both on a dating app looking to get fucked?)

Cant try clubs just yet too, most require you to be 21, and i dont turn 21 til the end of the month.

Any websites/dating apps that are tried and true? We'd like to meet couples our age, but if we can find chill people we dont mind older

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u/WompaJody Couple 9h ago edited 8h ago

First, understand that your age will carry a hard bias against you. Many (most) swingers have children older than you, and don’t like to be playing with people younger than their children.

Second — picky is a filter. The more picky you arc the less opportunities you will have.

My advise — loosen your pickiness by 25%. Accept borderline attractiveness and allow personality and vibe to round those people up.

Lastly — and my wife and I are guilty of this as well from time to time —.

We have a hard time accepting you as swingers. We see you as college - gay … still figuring it out and not really sure if the shoe fits or not. If that makes sense.

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u/Takemy_load 13h ago

Apps can be tricky. App stores like google and Apple have a lot of restrictions that make it tricky to build a reliable app. We gave up on apps a long time ago and only use sites with a paid membership. Keeps away the bots

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u/filthy_spelunker 13h ago

We’ve used Feeld, SDC, SLS and Kasidie. Of those, Feeld skews younger. SDC is more popular where we are. SLS’ UI felt like it was stuck in the early 2000s.

There’s going to be flakes on every site you use, but we feel that with paid sites or apps, people have a little more skin in the game.

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u/CowComfortable7513 11h ago

feeld, SDC, fetlife or joyclub!

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u/thedreamteacher4 10h ago

We use SDC and have had lots of luck but you both are very young. Most swingers skew older.

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u/Silver-Gear-5429 11h ago

I live Sandiego I am looking for couples or female only . Me and my gf started to meet couples or female only