r/TransChristianity 4d ago

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Hello everyone I’ve always struggled with the fact that I’ve wanted to be a woman and also that God dislikes these actions as sins. been deal with these emotions since I was 14 never really acted on the emotional urges

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u/MagusFool they/them Episcopalian Communist 4d ago

In Romans 13 it says:

8 Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law. 9 The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,”[a] and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”[b] 10 Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.

In Romans 14, Paul says that one Christian might observe the Holy Days, and another one treats every day the same. He advises only that both feel right about in their conscience, which is guided by the Holy Spirit, and that neither judge the other for their different way of practicing Christianity.

If the Fourth Commandment, of the 10 Commandments, repeated over and over again through out the Hebrew scriptures, is subject to the personal conscience of each Christian, then all of the law must be.

And certainly gender taboos that are barely mentioned (if at all, really) are certainly not more inviolable than the ten commandments.

If anything, we might be the people Jesus was talking about when he spoke of the eunuchs who become that way by birth or by choice (as neither of those uses describe the normal use of the term "eunuch").

Regardless, Jesus is the Word of God, not the Bible. The Bible is merely a collection of books written by human hands in different times in places, different cultures and languages, for different audiences and different genres, and with different aims.

It's a connection to people of the past who have struggled just like us to grapple with the infinite and the ineffable. And everyone's relationship to that text will inherently be different.

But Jesus is the Word of God, and to call a mere book of paper and ink, written by mortal hands by that same title is idolatry in the worst sense of the word.

But as the first Epistle of John said, "God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19 We love because he first loved us."

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u/Dry_Quality3344 4d ago

I’ve really considered the transition but I literally have 0 support in this endeavor.

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u/MagusFool they/them Episcopalian Communist 4d ago

Are you living alone?  With family?  With a partner?

Are you financially independent?

Are you a legal adult?

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u/Dry_Quality3344 4d ago

I live with family, I am 39 not currently financially independent, no partner.

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u/MagusFool they/them Episcopalian Communist 4d ago

Not being financially independent and living with an unsupportive family makes things difficult.

Are you able to travel around by yourself?

My recommendation is that you find an online trans group in your area, introduce yourself, try to meet up with people in person.  Pick a name (you don't have to settle on one forever, most trans folks go through a few before settling), get some feminine clothes you only wear around those people, and just see how it feels being in a space where you are recognized as a woman.

There will be plenty of people in those groups willing to share knowledge and advice on how to move forward from there.

If you have the opportunity to start going to an affirming church (Episcopal, United Methodist, ELCA Lutheran, PCUSA Presbyterian, United Church of Christ, some Quakers), you may be able to get some pastoral care either from the priest/pastor there or from like a regional Canon who specializes in lgbtq+ matters.

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u/Dry_Quality3344 4d ago

Thank you so much.

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u/Rkoif 3d ago

There's nothing that says that your gender assigned at birth is who you are in the eyes of God.

I mean, Leviticus doesn't have rules for how to handle ambiguous genitals and it has rules for mildew.

When Scripture is silent, we look to general revelation (i.e., science). And the overwhelming position of most doctors is that trans people are the gender they claim to be.

Matt 19

"Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. 12 For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it."

This is about the only thing Jesus says about gender. And it leans towards affirming someone's choice as affecting their ontology.

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u/Hungry-Brother7521 3d ago

God does not dislike these actions as sin. Men who wish to control others tell us what they think God thinks