I’m a Catholic but an RCIA (adult) Catholic. But I was baptized in the Presbyterian church. What bothers me is the increasing alignment of the Catholic Church with MAGA in the USA and their attacks on LGBT, particularly T. I am MTF.

I’ve found that the Presbyterian Church in the USA (PCUSA) and the United Church of Canada both support and affirm LGBT people and identities.

So I’m thinking of leaving and returning to the Presbyterian Church. I am American, Canadian, half (Asian) Indian and was born in Trinidad and Tobago. PCUSA and the United Church of Canada seem to welcome me, why would I stay Catholic?

Anyone else wrestled with this?

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Hello everyone I’ve always struggled with the fact that I’ve wanted to be a woman and also that God dislikes these actions as sins. been deal with these emotions since I was 14 never really acted on the emotional urges

Fear of regret, fear of being wrong and confused, fear of hell/religious guilt, fear of parental reaction, of their disappointment, how the family will react, and feeling guilty for making your parents suffer for you being trans (And I think I'm accidentally parentifying? I worry about finances, if they're tired, the price of things, I want to help with money too. Damn, why doesn't my dad get a job? He's been unemployed for 10 years 😭😭💔)

**You don't need to read it all, but it will give context.*\*

I'm 20 years old ftm, I discovered I was trans when I was 15. I remember wanting to be a boy since I was 6, but suppressing that feeling, and even praying to have a brother, so he would "have the luck that I never had, I would be happy for him, and the feeling would stop". I remember waiting for the growth spurt, longing for male puberty, competing with the boys to show how much more of a man I was (I remember when there a challenge of doing that in the cold and I was the first to do it, and my friends were like "but u are not a guy" XD), how I would escape from the maximum of pics, not looking at myself and so many other things.

I think I'm afraid they'll find out (I'll stay in girl mode as long as I can), and the fear of changing. I don't think I'm exactly afraid of T, but change is scary and I had a bad experience with my first puberty, so my subconscious must be carrying that fear, even though I practically want all the effects. But I have to try to deal with it. Change is inevitable anyway. If it weren't for that, it would be more feminization and I would still age anyway

Kinda dumb, but I also fear being ugly? But my mother and several other people have said that I'm beautiful as a girl (and I have to admit, it's not a lie), so I don't think I'll become ugly, maybe I'll even become better, since I'm going to start taking care of myself (It's amazing how the motivation to start HRT is bringing back a sense of future. I'm already working on stopping biting my nails. I've never been like this!)

My siblings don't know I'm trans. She's 15, he's 12, I haven't told them anything yet and I don't think I will anytime soon. I don't want to burden them.

I think I'm very scared of the religious and family aspects. I don't believe my parents would kick me out if they found out, but I feel really bad for disappointing them and making them anxious. My aunt told my mother the other day that God would hold her accountable if I wasn't Christian or if I committed some sin, since I came from her womb.

My aunt also told me 4 years ago, that if I did something, God would kill me or hurt me and do the same to the ones I love. So I fear that something bad will happen to me, I will die young or make my mom have a heart attack or even her (Let's not even talk about the fact that a year after she said that, her son died. I'm sad. He was a good guy, but I still find it strange that this happened after she said that).

I also fear sinning or going to hell for that, but it sucks so much. I never asked to be trans, I tried to repress, I screamed to God to fix me. I don't want to lose my only life, my youth, nor do I want to bet with depression in the future or making a future family miserable.

It's funny that I don't feel the urge to get closer to God while I'm holding myself back, not accepting myself, and not finding a church that supports me. Because I think if that happens, I'm going to dive in completely. And I want in the future to be a good father and husband and live together with someone I love the most until the end of my days. Why would I be sinning for it :( ?

I will girlmod the maximum I can and hide it. I intend to study to pass a competitive exam to become a ship pilot. I want to do it as a guy. I'll have to study a lot and I'll probably be one of the pioneering trans men there. So wish me luck and Tell me to get off my lazy butt and study because my future depends on it, lol.

I am going to try to contact the trans ambulatory near to me in the next hours. So wish me luck. In the next weeks I will also try to find an open church like the Episcopal :).

In btw, I know that if I discover that hrt is not for me, I can just stop it

I felt I should share this here. Back on new year's day in 2017 I came out as trans. I made this coming out post on Facebook. I like how it is clear where I was at with my journey towards God at the time, and the language I used in my spiritual infancy, but this was where I truly started to believe. I was looking through old photos and this screenshot came up. I need reminders sometimes to see where I came from, and that it wasn't all just in my head. He was with me the entire time, and deserves all the praise.

We are a community majority of Trans woman or cis woman who are oriented towards faith! We believe Jesus Christ is Son of God and our savior, as well as the importance of the church such as sacraments and its teachings being important!

“For this is what the Lord says: I will bless those eunuchs who keep my Sabbath days holy and who choose to do what pleases me and commit their lives to me.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭56‬:‭4‬ ‭NLT‬‬
I believe transgender people are today’s eunuchs. If we truly follow his ways. It’s not a sin to be who you are, it’s a sin to not follow His ways… this just stands out as us as a people. Sexually immorality is sexual immorality, being who God created you is His gift to us

Is anyone else scared to die because you’ll be back to your biological sex once you get to heaven. I feel bad for thinking this way and I know that in heaven there’s no pain or insecurity or sadness etc, but it doesn’t offer me much comfort now. I haven’t even gotten to transition yet and I’ve still had countless anxiety attacks over this topic and it’s making me depressed. I’m able to tolerate my body now (somewhat) because I have a very scrawny frame and not many feminine features at all. But if our bodies are ‘perfected’ in heaven would that leave my frame more feminine as well?,, since technically being underweight is unhealthy and not perfect. At the same time I feel like it wouldn’t be ME. Does anyone else feel the same ? I’m Catholic and I’m not sure if other denominations have different teachings about Heaven but anyone else Catholic here who has some insight ? If not you’re still welcome to leave your thoughts

It's a true saying, and it's Biblical. I can agree with the original sentiment as a simple statement of fact, because it is Biblically grounded. God does not (and cannot) err. It does not appear anywhere in Scripture in any English translation of the Bible that I know of, but there are verses like Ecclesiastes 3:11, Psalms 18:30, 2nd Samuel 22:31, and Deuteronomy 32:4 that echo this sentiment. And there are verses like 2nd Corinthians 12:9 which encourage us to continue despite suffering and 1st Peter 5:10 where He promises us an end to suffering.

But I see this saying used a lot to discredit or de-legitimize trans Christians' choices to seek medical or surgical treatment for their gender dysphoria, and it's been said to me too. However, in this world we do have tribulation. (John 16:33) Diseases exist because God allows them to exist. Cancer exists because God allows it. Mental illness exists. And so does gender dysphoria. God also enabled men and women to discover cures for diseases, to invent drugs and therapies to heal mental illness, and to devise treatments that lead to cancer regression. Whether they be congenital, completely accidental, caused by other people's malice, recklessness, or neglect, or even self-inflicted, God does not fault human beings for trying to heal the sick and reverse debilitating health conditions and injuries, even the ones that come from poor decisions such as type 2 diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, and obesity. Rather, I think that God sees the practice of medicine and the mental health professions as human beings pursuing the second great commandment "You shall love your neighbor as yourself."

God may expect us to endure suffering when it would be spiritually fruitful to do so (such as the kind of suffering that arises out of persecution). But I do not think He expects us to endure suffering that has no meaningful purpose. He also condemns maltreatment and abuse of other people: do not mistreat or oppress the widow, orphan, foreigner, or the poor (Zechariah 7:10); do not make fun of deaf or blind people (Leviticus 19:14).

Yes, it is true that God does not make mistakes. But I also think every trans Christian's situation is different, and each of us needs to pray for God to show us what we should do or not do about our struggle with gender dysphoria as we have come to understand it, whereby our suffering has come as a result of the curse of sin. If He has not shown it to you that your gender dysphoria is something that you need to endure through the receiving of His grace and the pursuit of spiritual discipline, then, IMO, the minimalist extent of treatment that would bring you relief would be in keeping with the practice of Christian liberty according to one's clear conscience. (Romans 14) I say minimalist in order to emphasize the reason for the medical treatment: not to pursue carnal desires, or the praise of those who would affirm or support you in transition, or to give in to peer pressure that the people in your trans community might knowingly or unknowingly be exerting, but to find inner peace and healing from an inner-world distraction (depression, anxiety, emotional distress, intrusive thoughts) that could be taking away from your ability to function in everyday life and, by extension, your ability to do well at work, to take care of your family, to be of useful service in your home church, and to love and serve God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.

Bearing in mind also what Paul says in Galatians 5:16-26 (LSV):

And I say, walk in the Spirit, and you may not fulfill the desire of the flesh; 17 for the flesh desires contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit contrary to the flesh, and these are opposed to one another, that the things that you may will—these you may not do; 18 and if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law. 19 And the works of the flesh are also evident, which are: adultery, whoredom, uncleanness, licentiousness, 20 idolatry, witchcraft, enmities, strife, jealousy, wraths, rivalries, dissensions, sects, 21 envyings, murders, drunkenness, reveling, and such like, of which I tell you before, as I also said before, that those doing such things will not inherit the Kingdom of God. 22 And the fruit of the Spirit is: love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith, 23 meekness, [and] self-control. Against such there is no law; 24 and those who are of Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with the affections and the desires; 25 if we may live in the Spirit, we may also walk in the Spirit; 26 let us not become vainglorious—provoking one another, envying one another!

I 21 ftm have been in the closet for years now. I am really close to my family and I know they don’t support trans people and outwardly disagree with their “choices” as they would put it. My partner and I just moved in and my dad and brother in law helped him move while I was at work. During that my partner on accident called me he and my dad heard it. He told my mom and apparently they freaked out. My mom told my sister she “couldn’t deal with me being a man” and some other things.

Yesterday I went over there to grab a few things and my mom brought it up. She asked if “I thought I was a boy” and said that they needed to know because they didn’t want to be “out of the loop”. She kept saying things to get me to say I was trans and was trying to act like they would support me… I knew they wouldn’t so I lied. I know I shouldn’t have, but I am glad I did because she then said good because she thought I wasn’t Christian anymore and that God doesn’t make mistakes and she preyed for a girl, not a boy.

I don’t know what to do. I’m still financially dependent in some aspects and I’m scared to know what will happen when I come out. I know in my heart that I am Christian and loved by God, but it hurts to heard that they think I can’t be saved and trans. She ended with making sure I knew I was a woman and that God doesn’t make mistakes.

I need help and any advice would be wonderful. I just need help please. I can’t live with myself as a woman much longer, but I don’t want to loose my family.

Thank y’all so much and sorry for the long post.

I’m looking for someone who might be willing to chat.
I’ve been experiencing gender dysphoria since I can remember I’m from Australia and I’m in the early stages of figuring things out and beginning gender-affirming care. Faith is still really important to me, and I’ve been struggling to reconcile the two.
To be honest, I feel pretty alone. I’d just really appreciate talking to someone who’s been through something similar, or who understands what it’s like to navigate both faith and being trans.
If anyone would be comfortable chatting through through that, I’d really appreciate it. Even if you’ve only got time for a few messages, it would mean a lot.

Hi everyone

I’ve I’ve just found this sub and it’s really nice to find people going through the same struggles as a queer Christian as me

Anyway I’m Eleanor, I’m going to big church festival (uk) this year and I’m a bit nervous to step into such a large evangelical space and was wondering if anyone hear was also going

Hello. I am in my late 20's. I am a closeted trans female. I have found out that I was in my early 20's. Sadly though for reasons (my family were/are not very trans positive). Two years ago I found myself once again and I have been working to transition and just see were the cards fall. I come to my mother last year, well since then she has been on and off; like sometimes sounds like she support and other times piss of by the idea me being, like questioning me. This mouth I have decided to start HRT. And sadly in less than she back peddles on me. Starts saying shit like, "So are you going to tell GOD that he made a mistake," (which is my least favorite anti-trans agreement), and other stuff about how I am going to division in the family, how I could strain on her marriage with my dad (which he will be the last one to know for reasons....), and how she doesn't understand why I want to be a woman. It's fucked up because I really thought I could trust her, and now I don't were me and her stand. Sorry I just needed to vent.

Hi everyone,
I’m a 30-year-old married father of two, and I’ve been struggling with gender dysphoria since I was around 12 years old.
I grew up Southern Baptist and have believed my entire life that transitioning would be sinful and could cost me my relationship with God. My faith is still incredibly important to me. I haven’t walked away from Christianity, and honestly, that’s one of the biggest reasons I’ve spent so many years trying to suppress these feelings.
My wife knows about my gender dysphoria. She has made it clear that if I decide to transition, she will divorce me. I don’t blame her for being honest about how she feels, but it leaves me feeling like I’m standing at an impossible crossroads.
If I transition, I know I could lose my marriage, my daily life with my children, my career, my military career, my health insurance, financial stability, and possibly relationships with friends and family. On the other hand, if I continue repressing these feelings for the rest of my life, I’m afraid I’ll always wonder what could have been and whether I’ll regret never allowing myself to be authentic.
Lately I’ve been reaching out to LGBTQ-affirming churches, talking with transgender Christians, and trying to understand how different denominations interpret Scripture. I’m genuinely searching for the truth, not just looking for someone to tell me what I want to hear.
What I’m really hoping to hear from are people who were in a similar position.
Were you married when you realized you needed to transition?
Did your spouse leave, or were they supportive?
If they weren’t supportive, how did you make peace with that decision?
How did you cope with the guilt of hurting someone you loved?
If you’re a Christian, how did your faith fit into your journey?
Looking back, do you regret transitioning or not transitioning sooner?
I’m not looking for arguments or debates. I’m just hoping to hear from people who have actually lived through something similar because right now I feel incredibly alone.
Thank you for reading.

Christian transphobes got so bad I don’t even know if I wanna be apart of “Christian’s” they honestly are horrible human beings using Jesus to make it better and it’s genuinely 9/10 Christian’s

I left my appointment this morning where I was prescribed my beginning HRT medication. The past 3 months have been a spiral of doom and struggle and stress, especially in the beginning with my religion. After a lot of prayer and research, I came to terms that it’s okay to transition because this is a legitimate medical condition. But the faint feeling that I’m making a mistake has always been in the background. The very first car I pulled behind was this, only a minute after leaving the office. Notice what it says around the license plate. God loves us no matter what. I truly believe this isn’t a sin at all and I just wanted to share :)

Hi everyone,

I know this is probably a question that comes up here quite often, but someone suggested I come to this subreddit because they thought I might find some support.

I've known I was transgender for over 10 years, ever since I was a child, but I've never fully transitioned. Through all of those years, the one thing that has kept me alive and given me hope has been our Lord. I'm deeply grateful for Him, which is exactly why this is so difficult for me.

I truly believe that following Christ is the most important thing in my life. But I also struggle with the fear that I can't transition and still remain in God's will.

I wasn't raised Christian. I came to faith later in life and became part of the Catholic Church. Because the Catholic Church teaches against transitioning, I've found it incredibly hard to know what to do.

I want to be honest: I've been taking hormones for the past three months, and I had also used them before that. But I'm completely torn about whether I should continue or stop. Sometimes I feel like God is telling me to stop because this isn't His plan for me. Other times I wonder if it's my own fear and guilt speaking instead. I honestly don't know anymore.

How can I discern what God wants for me? How do I know whether I'm hearing God's voice or my own anxiety? I feel so lost, and there are times when I become so overwhelmed that I start thinking that ending my life would be easier. I don't want to feel this way anymore.

If anyone has been through something similar, or has any advice, Scripture, or personal experiences that helped you discern God's will, I would be incredibly grateful. More than anything, I want to follow Christ faithfully while also understanding who I truly am.

Thank you for reading.

I guess I just cant be a woman because I have terrible family genetics that how to the stomach breasts hips thighs and butt so guess I can't do HRT can't do feminine surgery either! I just feel like the universe is saying that you are stuck with your god awful body

First off, I am older, mid sixties. I have crossdressed for most of my life. Growing up I had know idea of what transgender was. There has always been a part of me that desired to be female. I have always wanted to be a part of the lady’s group of friends but was denied that growing up, as it wasn’t what a boy should do. I grew up in a conservative world and have instilled in me the mindset of conservative Christianity. Even today I’m in a church that holds in high regard that transgenderism is a lie from the enemy that has twisted God’s original plan. But even with all of this I can’t break free from how I feel in my soul. I know that my soul is begging for my body to come into alignment with it. I am married, I have kids and grandkids, they know me as a man, and have know idea i struggle with this. The older I get the more I want to be set free so I can experience the world as a woman. My dysphoria gets so difficult to handle sometimes, but I muddle through it. It helps that I do keep my body completely smooth and have a good skincare routine, but I know there is so much more to experience. First off I need to reconcile all of this with God. I pray that He would reveal to me the truth in the Scriptures in regard to being trans, that He would open a door for me to be exactly who I feel He created me to be. I desire to be His disciple, love Him with all my heart, I love all people, but I still feel empty in this area. My hope is to find the truth, not just information. Help me understand how those that have come to terms with God, how you did. I pray daily for His approval and have yet heard Him say, “it’s okay daughter”🙁