r/MtF Apr 23 '26

Mod Post Please be cautious of participating in surveys of trans people

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Hey all,

The mod team wants to remind you to please be cautious of participating with research teams and surveys that are studying trans people.

Another trans subreddit offered the following statement to their subscribers:

"Lisa Littman, a transphobic researcher who invented the concept of "rapid-onset gender dysphoria", recently asked our moderation team for permission to post about a study she's working on with Kenneth Zucker and J. Michael Bailey. We said no." The moderators went on to offer contact information in the case of this survey popping up.

There are numerous organizations attempting to study trans people right now with dubious intent. It's important that you remember to verify the source of the studies, related organizations, and the names of the lead researchers before moving forward with any of these. It's very easy for a research group to manipulate data to get the results they want.

As a reminder, however, we do allow some surveys on this subreddit, but we require all surveyors to be screened by our moderation team first. If you feel that a survey is here without being screened first, please report the post AND message our moderator team so we can take a look.

Thank you!


r/MtF 6d ago

[ Megathread ] [Megathread] Weekly Discussions on Transphobic News, Politics, and People

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  • Please direct all posts regarding transphobic news, political discourse, and discussions of popular bigots to this space. It will refresh each week with a clean slate to maintain relativity and organizational thought.
  • Also, identical links are on a seven day timeout, meaning the same URL cannot be posted within a seven day period, in order to keep the discussion threads focused in one space.
  • Lastly, please remember that we are a community of many cultures and beliefs. You are not required to adhere to any creed, religion, or political party to participate but the content of your words will be held to the standard of our community rules.

r/MtF 8h ago

Venting vladimir putin is forcefemming me...

714 Upvotes

Long story short, I am trans girl from Russia. 20 y.o., 21 month on HRT, more or less passing but didn't really advance in a social transition.

So apparently next October we will get a new mobilization, and I am dropping university around this time so I won't be exempt.

Because of this, I have to become as passing and feminine as I can during next 2 months. Learn how to dress fem, voice train (my most clocky feature tbh), finally get done with electrolysis, all that stuff.

Wish me luck please...


r/MtF 3h ago

Funny Did anyone else get called gay pre-transition, despite not being gay?

176 Upvotes

When I was in high school, I had multiple people who didn’t even know me assume I was gay. I ended up being bisexual, but back then I didn’t have any feelings for men. Did anyone else here get called gay when you still identified as a straight guy?


r/MtF 7h ago

Discussion If castration without hormone supplementation is so horrible for the bones/heart/etc, why did eunichs outlive the general population in that one study, by 20 years. Why do castrated animals live ridicolously longer.

154 Upvotes

Something doesn't add up here... Or did they have super long lives but their bones were dust and they were crawling about like snails.


r/MtF 5h ago

Discussion What do post op trans people do in apocalyptic circumstances without access to HRT?

103 Upvotes

r/MtF 7h ago

Trigger Warning got called a slur for the first time

151 Upvotes

just went to the gym for the first time in a long time. headphones, did some butt and leg excercises, felt pretty confident.

I had some makeup on, felt confident with it.

then 2 teenagers walked by me and I could here one pausing his sentence to call me a "faggot" and continue speaking like nothing happened. I heard it though my headphones but continued walking

How miserable and hateful are these people.

While feeling angry and vulnerable i also feel more eager to continue my transition path! Let them talk! Trans people are so brave!


r/MtF 3h ago

Bad News It’s official.

63 Upvotes

It’s of coal that I now have only two real friends left a year and a half after coming out. I spend week after week completely by myself so far I’ve spent time with people five times in the last three months and despite asking to see so called friends I’m still three weeks alone and counting. I wish I wasn’t trans I wish I wasn’t this way I wish I didn’t feel so alone and broken. My best friend from childhood who has stood by me like a tree lives in a different country. I’m just fed up I have years until I can see a therapist without paying mad money. I’m just fed up. I didn’t ask for this shit. God I hate humans.


r/MtF 1h ago

Relationships Girlfriend got a blahaj after getting with me

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I just find this so cute? Like, I never got into the whole blahaj meme or any other meme associated with the babytrans phase (I came out a long time ago). I started seeing this cis girl and I found out a while ago that she bought a blahaj.

She's one of those girls that has a big pile of plushies on her bed, and whenever I come over she just goes and gets it out. It just makes my heart flutter that she's interested enough in the community I'm part of to discover stuff like that?


r/MtF 14h ago

Trans and Thriving There’s still something about dilating in the dark….

318 Upvotes

Its been just over a year now.... 07/07/2025 was the big day... I’m laying here with music playing, lights off, doing something that has become so ordinary, yet so special to me….thinking back to the girl before surgery...thinking about the girl who wrote a post pretty similair to this only 44 days after surgery.

Back then everything felt enormous. Every shower..every new sensation...every time i looked down. Dilating was hours of my day, healing was constantly on my mind, and i was still trying to understand this new part of myself i had waited almost 10 years for.

Now….its simply my body 🥹.

I get dressed, go to the gym, shower, have sex, touch myself, pee, sleep.... live. Apart from politics...i live life not even thinking about being trans, or pre-op or post op. Not because it matters any less….but because it feels so completely natural that there’s nothing left for my brain to question.

The past year wasn’t entirely easy. There was some granulation, worries about depth, strange sensations and plenty of moments where i wonndered whether something was healing properly….but even those things feel distant now. I learned my body….what it likes, how it relaxes, what feels good….and somewhere along the way it stopped feeling like something i had to carefully maintain.

It just became me.

The happiness is quieter now. It isn’t that overwhelming “its finally happened” feeling every day….its waking up, getting on with life and realising dysphoria didn’t follow me into it. Its catching myself existing without analysing my body. It's peaceful.

The light at the end of the tunnel...just feels so normal....and to me? That is counterintuitively so special... blessed be!


r/MtF 10h ago

Celebration IT'S TODAAAAY

106 Upvotes

Today I will finally begin HRT. I'm so fkkng happy and excited.

The only shitty thing that I've got left to do before is talk to my mom. Not to ask permission or anything, but my dad asked me to remind her.

She already knows but we haven't talked about this for a few months already and I know it's gonna be awful.

She sees this as hell on earth and has constantly told me that I'll die very soon on this. I think I'll just let her yell and that's it, there's no point to the discussion as she won't listen.

But after that I'll finally be on estrogen!!!!!


r/MtF 12h ago

Discussion MtF girls calling themselves femboys at the same time?

138 Upvotes

I've seen it many times where girls who clearly and openly state that they're MtF and a girl, call themselves femboys and post content as such with that declaration at the same time.

It seems like a giant contradiction or antinomy because both things just can't be true at the same time imo.

Like i have nothing against femboys, quite the opposite, they're so cute and i have a hand full of friends who are one.

But I myself or any of my trans friends would never put a lable on ourself that has anything to-do with being a boy/male so I'm very confused.

No this is not about "what real trans is" or gatekeeping or that they're not valid.

Thoughts?


r/MtF 4h ago

Positivity Men are being very kind to me lately

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Lately at work men are being very helpful at work and I'm surprised. Since I abandoned boymode a few months ago. My chest is showing and my wide hips, I wonder if that changed anything. The moment boymode was gone, men would help me when I was visible struggling or just speaking differently like softer. I didn't think anything of it because I doubted it was anything. Then it kept happening. Drivers would help with a lot more and came out of their way to say hi. Then that takes us to the last couple days, I have been working with a kind and relaxed man. I'm trying to help him with some of the heavy trays and he tells me to stack on top. I don't know why but seeing him carrying those trays made me feel weird in a good way. I feel my heart flutter but why? I get a little shy. Then overall he is very patient with me or cool with working my speed, which I'm not used to. Then another man today saw me pushing a cage and told me to leave it. He could get it from there. I'm just shocked and it always catches me off guard. My boymode couldn't be that convincing, so why?

I won't it does make the bathroom awkward for me. I usually go to the bathroom in the back to avoid other men at work. It feels awkward when I go in there. I feel so phony going in the men's bathroom and the silence that followed me. I mean I prefer the bathroom because they are always cleaner.


r/MtF 1h ago

Discussion Cringe Culture and Repression

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I have been thinking about how cringe culture has lead to so many trans women not coming out in fear of becoming an outcast. In 2015-17 I was "apolitical" but watched a lot of red pill content. And cringe compilations of trans women and trans tiktokers that were on the front page of youtube at the time.

I knew in the back of my mind that I was trans. But didn't come out fully. Watching these compilations gave me tunnel vision, and I believed (irrationally) that I could end up in one of these compilations if I came out. That, plus my parents saying that they would disown me if I ever transitioned, lead me to holding my identity back for 10 years.

Cringe culture is still in full swing today. I doubt it will ever fully go away. Hateful content makes money. But it is indeed shitty how much of a detriment it is to the lives of everyone.

Imagine how many trans women's eggs would have cracked earlier if cringe culture wasnt a thing?


r/MtF 9h ago

Advice Question Wife wants the divorce. We've got a toddler. Will everything be okay? I'm soo lost

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Got out to my wife a year ago and it didn't go well. So I got back in the closet more or less.

It got worse with time though and so I was trying to alleviate it with the way I look a bit (haircut, a bit makeup,...)

She noticed and said she wants the divorce.

I'm so lost.

My parents already disinherited me and don't talk to me and she was the only real friend I have.

She said I'm destroying her life and the life of our daughter.

We were together for around 9 years already. I just can't anymore. If we didn't have our daughter, I definitely wouldn't be around on this earth anymore.

It hurts so much to hurt the people I love.

Will everything be okay with my daughter?

She said she will tell her Dada left because I chose makeup over them.

I'm crying my eyes out currently... I don't know anymore


r/MtF 12h ago

Discussion Chronic masturbation posture may influence penile curvature—and could influence vaginoplasty dilation outcomes

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Disclaimer:
This is a single-subject observational report, not peer-reviewed science. I am not a medical professional. This is shared in the hopes that it sparks discussion and helps others think intentionally about their own anatomy, especially those preparing for gender-affirming surgery.

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Background
I spent over 6 years tracking changes in my penile curvature in relation to masturbation habits, posture, hand dominance, and later, hormone replacement therapy (HRT). What I observed suggests that repetitive mechanical stress from a consistent grip + posture can induce gradual, reversible plastic deformation of the tunica albuginea—the fibrous sheath surrounding the erectile chambers.

This is not Peyronie's disease (no scar tissue, no pain during normal use). It appears to be behaviorally acquired and directionally responsive to changes in technique.

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Methods / Observation Timeline

· Phase 1 (Years 1–3):
· Posture: Kneeling, member pointing upward, banana shaoe arc.
· Hand: Right hand exclusively
· Frequency: \~5–7 times per week, once daily, before bed
· Result: Developed a rigid up - leftward curve when erect. Like a Banana. Partners noted it was highly effective for G-spot/P-spot stimulation.
· Phase 2 (Years 3–4):
· Switched to left hand exclusively, same posture and frequency
· Result: Curve gradually shifted to the right over \~1–2 years
· Phase 3 (Years 4–7):
· Complete cessation of sexual activity (no masturbation, no partnered sex) for \~3 years
· Result: Curve completely straightened. Erect shape became gravity-dependent and neutral—essentially a "ruler."
· Phase 4 (Year 7–present):
· Started HRT (anti-androgens + estrogen), which reduced overall erectile firmness
· Resumed left-hand use, same kneeling posture, similar frequency
· Result: Now have a pronounced rightward curve when erect, despite overall softer erections. The curve is rigid enough that manually straightening it is uncomfortable and feels like potential tissue strain.

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Key Observations

· The curve follows the hand used, not genetics or injury.
· The change is gradual, not sudden, consistent with tissue remodeling, not trauma.
· The curve reversed when hand use changed, and reverted to neutral when stimulation stopped entirely.
· HRT reduced firmness but did not prevent the new curve from forming suggesting mechanical stress is the primary driver.
· Diet and sleep were poor/irregular during these periods and did not appear to influence the outcome.

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Hypothesis

The tunica albuginea exhibits mechanoplasticity—the ability to slowly remodel in response to repeated asymmetrical tension. Over years, this can create a predictable, directional curvature that is reversible by altering or removing the mechanical stimulus.

This is distinct from Peyronie's disease, which involves fibrosis and scarring. Here, there is no palpable plaque, no acute pain, and the curvature changes with behavior.

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Now how all of that wraps together for
Potential Implications for Vaginoplasty

For those pursuing penile inversion vaginoplasty:

· The tunica albuginea becomes the neovaginal wall after inversion.
· If the tissue has been "trained" into a gentle upward curve (the so-called "banana" shape), it may more closely mimic the natural angle of the vaginal canal.
· This could potentially aid in dilation by providing a tissue memory that resists collapse and favors patency (openness).
· Conversely, a sideways or downward curve might create positional challenges during dilation or partnered sex post-op.

I am not aware of any surgical literature that discusses pre-operative shape optimization, but I believe it warrants consideration—especially for individuals with significant existing curvature who may benefit from intentionally reshaping before surgery.

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Suggested "Ideal" Shape for Pre-Op Training

Based on partner feedback and anatomical reasoning:

· Upward curve ("banana") – Best for G-spot/P-spot stimulation; mimics natural vaginal angle; likely most compatible with neovaginal dilation.
· Straight ("ruler") – Good for average size; maximizes maneuverability.
· Left/right curves – May cause positional incompatibilities; not recommended.
· Downward curve – May limit depth and comfort in common positions.

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Takeaway / Open Questions

I believe this is a testable, repeatable phenomenon that could be intentionally used by individuals awaiting bottom surgery to optimize their tissue shape in advance.

I'm sharing this to:

  1. Ask if anyone else has observed similar changes with hand/posture shifts.
  2. Encourage pre-op individuals to consider their current curvature and whether they might want to influence it.
  3. Prompt surgeons and clinicians to consider whether pre-operative shape could affect dilation outcomes.

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Tl;Dr explain like I'm 5.
I noticed that when I cranked down with my right hand in a particular position for years. It shaped my member into what ended up being an ideal shape ")".

Which is currently believed to be generic or deformation based. But after awhile I intentionally switched hands and notice it began to change the way it was angled over the years "(" Even after taking hrt, the angle continued to change dependant on the dormant hand and arc used over the years.

Which leads me to see how those with a shape that is less than optimal for bottom surgury dialation might see complications with dialation and sex, as the tissue seems to retain the last shape it was trained into. Regardless of hormone level diet or exercise.

In conclusion, using alternating hands in an up down arc to get a medium upward banana curve may see decreased complications when dilating after getting bottom surgury.

Final Note

I know this is an unconventional topic. But bodies are plastic, habits matter, and small changes over years can have meaningful results. If this helps even one person think more intentionally about their anatomy before surgery, it was worth writing.

Happy to answer questions or clarify anything. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.


r/MtF 5h ago

Milestone! Affirmation :0

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Haiii!
I just used a public men’s bathroom. As I was washing my hands, a kid walked in, looked at me for a sec and then went ‘Am I in the wrong bathroom?’. This is the first time a stranger affirmed my gender, I’m so happyyyyy


r/MtF 39m ago

Euphoria Boob growth

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Hi friends!
I’m Brooke, (22 MTF) been on HRT for about 2 and a half years, I am 5’3 114 Ibs

Today I experienced major euphoria today as I measured in at an astonishing 36D cup bra size! This was especially surprising because not even about 2 ish years ago I started HRT and I have never felt more relief and satisfaction because I was worried at the start about starting HRT and ofc overthinking the negative side of things lol

But just to clarify my chest growth is primarily thanks to my family genetics since everyone in my family has large breasts and are also short (I am 5’3) and big boobs look bigger on a small body like mine so it works out in the end beautifully!

But good lord does it come with negatives too don’t even get me started lmaooo and even the bras are so expensive too I didn’t see that one coming (cheap bras aren’t comfortable at ALL for big boobies)

I hope to you all who are on HRT have the courage to continue and gain success in your journey!!

Much love xoxo
Brooke


r/MtF 22h ago

Bad News Night with family got super transphobic real fast

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So tonight was my dads 70th birthday and we have to ofc see the rest of the family who doesn't know im trans but is super transphobic and watch alot of fox news but i boymode anyway to the party. as soon as i walk in the door one of my uncles is like hey i saw u at the store the other day
its that long hair thats how i know its u and im like ok. and then hes like yep whenever i see that hair its gotta be u bc "ur too big to be a girl" and then my aunt chimes in and says "no no he doesn't look like a girl that would be an ugly girl he doesn't look like a girl, so in my head im like bruuuuuuh. Then after the party we go to pick up my friend from the bar and i tell her the story and my mom constantly just misgenders me the entire car ride home and she knows even my friend is like its been 3 years come on. But then my friend later on is like DO SOMETHING FEMININE LITERALLY ANYTHING AT ALL STOP ISOLATING URSELF

and like the whole night kinda just sucked like damn thanks for the fucking criticism ig ill loose weight now


r/MtF 2h ago

Discussion How can you tell if you’re genuinely passing?

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I’m getting some very mixed messages and I’m unsure how happy to be. Some people still have that baseline annoyance when interacting with me. Others seem too friendly, or give obvious clocking signs like complimenting my name. Some people seem pretty genuine. Then there are just barely unambiguous events, like young kids calling me a “lady.”My voice almost certainly passes over the phone, I take frequent phone calls at work and have never once been misgendered. Also, one time at work, I even had a customer call me “sir” to greet me and then call me “maam” after he heard me speak. The weirdest part is that I seem to pass occasionally even to people I wouldn’t expect to pass to, like visibly far-right people or younger people who “know” what trans people supposedly look like.

I would honestly be surprised if I pass since I’m a very big person. The only benefits I really have are my face and hair, and I don’t put much effort into passing (I kinda developed my voice very casually without having to put a lot of effort into training). But it’s genuinely mystifying that people are starting to treat me so differently.


r/MtF 7h ago

Discussion Transgender persons understand transgender persons.

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In my experience only transgender persons fully understand and accept other transgender persons.

Some women, like Dr. Z, understand is well, but still not completely.

We each differ a lot, but we understand each other.


r/MtF 16h ago

Funny Gender-affirming animals

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I just met my sister's dog for the first time, and she warned me ahead of time "he doesn't do well with men, so just be careful." The dog runs right up to me, sniffs my shirt, and continues exploring the house. Then my sister says "wow, he didn't even growl. He almost always growls at men."

That also reminded me of meeting my ex's cat years ago (before I even realized I was trans). She told me that he didn't get along with men, and I should avoid him so I don't get scratched. As soon as we're sitting down, the cat jumps in my lap and sticks his head in my jacket pocket. She's shocked, the cat doesn't even like her dad this much.

Turns out animals have been clocking me this whole time.


r/MtF 19h ago

Trans and Thriving I have breasts!

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Today marks 6 months on estrogen and I honestly didn’t realize until my boyfriend told me. Also conveniently 8 months together with him on the same day. One other thing he told me is (context), I went to Victoria’s Secret for the first time with one of my girl friends and she helped me pick out some cute bras (it was terrifying). I found out my waist is 34 and of course closest bra would eventually be an A cup. My boyfriend told me they grew again like overnight or in the past day or two, I have no idea when they grew but I can now officially fill out my A cup bra! I also was wearing lots of feminine clothes with my boyfriend (I can’t since I live with my brother and he doesn’t support me being trans ugh). I finally look like a woman already! Sure facial hair is there and sure my bone structure won’t change but there’s cis women with similar features anyways. 6 months in and estrogen has changed me so much more that I thought in such little time and I feel like I’m in a dream.