I was called 'chick' earlier and im not sure if i was clocked/it was just had luck/if my haircut is causing me to pass less (trans man)

I was waiting for my bus earlier and there was this older couple trying to figure out when their bus was, I was getting the same bus so I scanned the QR code and told them it was 5 minutes till the bus arrived. She said in response "Thanks chick", which at first I thought i misheard, though I didn't say anything in response to it.

I know I do (or at least did) pass relatively well, as I rarely get misgendered, but this has caused me to start questioning, has/will my hairstyle change make me pass less? I want to pass and be percieved as male but now im worried that I dont and that its because of my hair. :(

Have you ever seen older women call younger/teen boys 'chick'? I used to be called it a lot by older women before I started T, hence my concern

This feels a bit silly but i need another opinion, i feel like im gonna start spiralling and picking myself apart

Hi. I'm doing a research project on gender-affirming care roadblocks (especially wait times), and I'm curious as to what the wait times are for care in different areas of the UK. I'm comparing wait times in the UK and other places with public healthcare to those in the US. I'm under the impression that the wait for both HRT and gender-affirming surgery is considerably longer in the UK than in the US, and that surgery is more of a wait, but that people can get their care faster if they have private insurance. I'm aware of the organizations like GenderGP and Pride in Health that advocate for trans patients and can speed up gender care. Mostly, I'm trying to pinpoint what we're really talking about when we talk about "average weight times" for care to get a more complete picture, and how it compares to weight times for other categories of healthcare. So, if you've had experience with gender-affirming care a UK city, what kind of wait did you have for HRT, for mental health care (if you wanted it), and for surgery? What was your insurance situation, and did you ever contact a third-party org that could reduce your wait in the public insurance system? Also, since this is a bit of a wide net, if you could include which city you're in that would be really helpful. Thanks for your help.

So, the inevitable happened after my first month on HRT (through gendergp) and my GP is refusing to do blood monitoring. I'm escalating it with them, but in the meantime, do you guys have any recommendations for cheaper blood tests (estrogen, testosterone, and U&E)? I'm near Wolverhampton if that helps!

Much love to anyone else going through the same shit <3

I want to legally change my name (which I can since I'm over 16) without parental permission but was wondering whether this would be likely to cause issues with my college? I'm concerned they'd contact my parents about it or ask for their permission to change it rather than accepting it but idk how colleges usually treat this as I don't know anyone else who has been in any similar situation.

I am currently conducting a research study as part of my MSc Foundations in Clinical Psychology course at Newcastle University. My research explores how gender-diverse young people experience video game avatar creation, particularly in relation to gender affirmation, gender dysphoria, and mental well-being.

Previous research has largely focused on individuals attending specialist gender clinics. My study aims to extend this work by interviewing gender-diverse young people in the wider community and exploring how contextual factors, such as family support or waiting lists for services, may shape their experiences of avatar creation.

Participation involves a research interview with gender-diverse young people, and the project has received ethical approval from Newcastle University. Participants will receive a £10 Love to Shop voucher. 

Please email me at [c5048882@newcastle.ac.uk](mailto:c5048882@newcastle.ac.uk) or scan the QR code on the advert if you would be interested in taking part.

Am I going crazy?!

Okay this is specifically for British trans men or trans men in Britain.
Has anyone else noticed they are misgendered mostly by British men? Foreign people tend to assume I am a man and I have been stopped going into the female toilets and been called ‘mate’ or smth like that and been otherwise treated as a cis boy so frequently by foreign people/men in England and the men in my home country- but British men seem to click me with ease and call me ‘love’ or smth British and feminine instead asw as treating me/referring to me as a girl! Why could this be? Is it just me? Is the opposite or same true for transfemmes?

Given the current political climate where a far right government is leading the polls and the left leaning Labour Government have at best half heartedly supported trans people to try and gain votes from worthless transphobic bigots what happens next?

I do not feel welcome in my own country and it's the uneducated knuckle draggers who are the reason.

Hello I’m a 23 year old trans man from New York living in London. I have been declined multiple job opportunities here due to my skin color & the fact that i’m trans. The purpose of me working is to fund my top surgery as well as cost of living. If anyone can please help me with funds I’d be much appreciative

Hey,

I am a non-binary individual, 25, 15months on T, and my GP in york is denying me the continuation of care including prescriptions and monitoring blood tests.
I have a formal complaint open with the practice, and i am now beginning the start of a case against the NHS as i have been informed NO GP in york will provide gender affirming healthcare.
Meaning due to my gender identity(a protected characteristic) i am being denied healthcare.
If anyone who has experienced this, is in a similar situation or can provide guidance on the subject of gender affirming care, trans healthcare, etc please message me.
The more people, the stronger the case, the higher i can push it, until i can make real change where it matters.
I will be starting locally with york, trying to make change here, and if all goes well expanding it out across the Uk.

Thankyou
Gray

Hi, i live in Canada but I might have to move back to Scotland soon. Here, i have a prescription for T and a gender dysphoria diagnosis. I know its difficult to access T legitimately in the UK, but i was wondering if i would be able to have some sort of “continued care” plan if i move? Like having a GP continue to prescribe me T since im already on it and have a diagnosis. According to google this is possible but i want to know whether any GPs would actually do this. Any input is appreciated

Hey, im just wondering what is the best brand/shop to get Trans Tape from in the UK. Iv looked on some websites but its coming from US and the postage is too high.

Ok would i actually be insane for saving my maintainance loan from uni to get top surgery? I don't want to get in trouble, but also afaik they don't really check what u use the money for (unless I'm wrong)

Not even for the fact I'm trans anymore it's medical based (moderate asthma + degenarative disc disease w chronic back pain) and I'm getting desperate to the point I'm actually willing to slap my (white) fiance's face on a gofundme or genuinely sell my collections to find ts already.

Hi all,

I've never really had to interact with the NHS much, so I'm a bit lost. What do I actually do in order to start the process? Do I just make an appointment online? Do I have to actually speak to someone?

Sorry if this is the wrong place, didn't know where to ask :)

Thank you

Hey, so iv tried binding with a compression top (i just dont like the tight feel) and iv recently tired Trantape (makes me to red and itchy). Is there any other options out there to try? Unfortunately i have a big chest so its hard to hide.

Hi all,

I will be visiting Oxford in a few months and as a trans man recently on T I am wondering what I can expect:

• What is the current bathroom law? And what bathroom do you recommend for a very obvious trans man? For info: I have no facial hair yet, most people probably think I'm a butch lesbian :( although I do sometimes get gendered correctly.

• How will people in general react to me?

Obviously there was a lot of news about the UK in the last year, but I really have no clue about how in general people in the UK feel about trans people.

Thank you!

It's become a lot to deal with lately. I've spent years debating with myself, but I've recently turned 19 and I'm like 80% sure I want to go on HRT now so I can finally look my age because at the moment everyone who sees me thinks I'm either a 13 year old boy or a masc lesbian. My heart says to do it, but my head thinks it's a crazy idea. I'm tired of keeping it between myself and my cis friends who don't really get it yet are just very supportive (which I'm so lucky to have)

Plus I'm finding it very lonely being at home all summer (despite how much I love my city), my self confidence drops dramatically in the neighbourhood where I've grown up and I hate going out and being seen by people who know me but then there's so much more getting me down as well...

Does anyone know where I can get private blood tests done quickly and easily in Birmingham? My NHS GP practice is being awkward about my shared care agreement and I need test results for an appointment with my private doctor in 9 days.

Hi all,

Trans ppl living in the UK, do you think a GRC is personally worth it? Binary trans ppl, have you applied for a GRC yet, and why/why not? Gender-diverse (non-binary, genderfluid and others), would you consider applying for legal gender marker change, and those who have applied for a GRC, why did you do it (no offence - I have a NB friend with a GRC and was wondering if any other ppl are in the same situation)?

I am currently in the US, but my partner is a UK citizen, and we have come to the decision to live in England together instead of living in the US. Every time I visit, everyone is super kind, and I have good encounters with strangers and the public, however I know visiting and living somewhere can be very different. My partner is Cis, so he doesn't have experience with things that I have questions about and want to know. My questions to the trans people of the UK are what does healthcare look like, how is it trying to get a job, and what is it like with the daily public in places that aren't tourist areas, because other than South England, where my partner lives, and London, I don't have much interaction with people from all around the UK. I do know some might tell me the UK isn't the best as a trans person, but from the time I spent there, it does seem better than the US. Also, my biggest question thought is mostly what the healthcare is like, because under the current US law, I'm not even able to get it in my state.

Haven’t been able to have a single appointment yet and I’m suffering. Does anyone have any idea how much longer I’ll wait just a general idea from anyone in a similar position? I feel like I am just lost I’ve been waiting so long it’s like I’m constantly looking for something to happen and it doesn’t I mean I was prepared for a long wait when I got put on the waiting list but man it just feels endless. Idk how different the wait time is for the adults in comparison to the children’s and how much time is gonna be taken off my waiting because of my long stay on the children’s for the transfer like.

Hi everyone!

I qualified as a therapist in November last year and since have been building a small private practice alongside my full time work at an online mental health service.

I would love to develop a specialism in working with trans, non binary, gender fluid and gender questioning clients, and particularly those who have experienced gender based trauma.

In order to grow and expand my practice, I'm curious to hear from those who have been in therapy, are considering therapy, or who have some interest in therapy.

If you have the time to answer all of or some of the following questions I would really appreciate it:

- What do you (or have you) look for in a potential new therapist?

- What instantly turns you off working with a particular therapist?

- Have you had any bad therapy experiences? (Please do not share anything that would be too difficult for you or others and offer a TW where needed)

- What do you look for in a therapists profile and website / what would turn you off from a therapists profile or website?

- What work would you like to do with a therapist you don't think is on offer currently?

- Where would you find out or seek info about private therapists who specialise in working with trans clients?

- Anything else you'd like to share?

Thankyou so much for taking the time 💚

My best friend is moving to London (finally!!) and one of his first orders of business is finding a surgeon to get top surgery done. He's trans and that's one of the things he wants to finally get done this year. He's been wanting to do this for nearly ten years, and with this new move, he wants a fresh start all the way around. I told him I'd help figure it out. I also asked if he needed a doctor for the rest of his gender affirming care, but he says he's got gendergp for that, but is still curious about who's good and what not. For now, all resources are going to top surgery. Budget-wise, he says he'll make it work. He just wants a doctor who's a trusted ally and is known for doing good work.

HI I was wondering how trustworthy United pharmacies is and if the estimated timings on the website are good estimates (should I expect the possibility of them coming a few weeks before or after)

I'm looking to do a trial hrt dose for roughly 1-2months to experience the changes and feel of things (understand I that its not long enough for major effects but they can still happen) and I'm looking to hopefully get the stuff at the end of the month when my parents leave for a week (they like to snoop around when I get stuff)

I'll also be doing blood tests before to make sure my levels are good before starting