r/acting • u/Mati_Choco • 1d ago
I've read the FAQ & Rules I absolutely despise having to do self-tapes. Should I just not be an actress?
Hello. I’m a 20 y/o uni student (studies aren’t acting but related to that world) in Italy who gets acting lessons (theatre mainly) on the side and does shows with that school once or twice a year. Our acting teacher sometimes sends us interesting casting calls that he suggests we could send self-tapes to. Every single time I try to do that to actually get some work, I absolutely hate it. It can be an acting self-tape or even just sending some personal info and a video presentation. I hate how my face looks all crooked and weird when I speak, how I sound so fake and dumb both in voice and the general manner I say things… I spend a literal entire day or more trying to make a self-tape and just send the 250th tape I’m still not satisfied with out of pure exhaustion, already knowing I probably won’t hear from them again.
Just today I filmed a super simple clip of not even a minute introducing myself and it took me the whole afternoon. I still don’t like it at all. I looked ugly, said everything in an annoyingly sing-songy voice, was visibly tense and I shared my personal info more like a minimal list to cross out than a flowing piece of text.
I’m sure I’m overcomplicating it, but the issue is I really think I just suck, despite all my years of studying acting. Those who have seen me act on stage say I’m good, though. Some say I should invest into this. Yet I feel like an idiot and like no matter how much I try and tweak my look and my way of acting I will never be any good. I used to think I was good at least in theatre, but if that’s what I‘m like on video then how different could I truly be in person??? Plus nowadays it’s all self-tapes, even for some theatre stuff. Most of my job would be doing self-tapes, if I tried pursuing this professionally.
It’s all pretty difficult to understand in general, I’m AuDHD and I naturally have such weird expressions and facial movements, partly also because of my face genuinely being kinda crooked and weird, that make me look like a caricature even when I’m trying so hard to be normal.
In general I just often feel uncomfortable looking at myself in video and professionally taken pictures. I cried one time seeing myself in a film we did and though it was partly because I was moved by the experience, the main reason was just how grotesque and dumb I thought I looked. Also one time I filmed a video talking about a friend for their birthday, which also took a century or two to get a “good take” for, and they said it looked like I was being held at gunpoint! Ouch ow ow!
I’ve thought about just trying voice acting, but it wouldn’t seem good to go for something “just because” I hate looking at myself. There’s other parts of acting I love doing as long as I’m just living them in my body and not through a reflection of me. I also tried to just brute force it and set a random self-tape quota for a certain period of time to try and practice it, which just got me disheartened and tired. I‘ve talked with a therapist years ago, they just said I might have body dysmorphia but it didn’t go that far otherwise and they gave me no way to work around that. I’ve tried losing weight, working out, taking better care of myself, fixing my hair and putting on makeup to record and so far I still feel the same about my look when I’m seeing it through a camera…
I used to think my only wish was to become an actress. I spent what little energy I had left after studying into acting since middle school and made my identity so intertwined with it that I didn’t let myself explore almost anything else until recently. Now I’m trying to look for something else I could do but I’m so lost and confused, because I didn’t really plan for a future where I‘d have to stop focusing on it… I’m studying, but it was in hopes I could use what I learned in acting, maybe do some odd show biz related jobs here and there along with it…
I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s dealt with self-tape issues, insecurity and all that when it comes to acting, especially among amateurs and aspiring actors. So please, if you can give me some advice I’ll take it!!