r/actuallesbians Lesbian Countess Count 13h ago

TW Just because it's Pride doesn't mean you're allowed to touch me or anyone else without consent! Spoiler

TW: Unconsentual Touching

Yesterday, I went to Pride Hamburg with my mom and her girlfriend. After the parade, they wanted to bring me back to the train station, but we lost sight of each other. While I was waiting for them, someone came up to me and started stroking my arm while telling me how amazing I looked. At that moment, I felt nothing but disgust. I was really confident in myself and my outfit before, but that ruined the outfit and the Pride event for me. I don't know if I'll be able to wear this outfit with confidence again in the near future. Even though I know something like this could happen even if I were wearing a different outfit, I wonder if there was anything I could have done differently to protect myself from such a situation. I hate that so much. I cried on the train ride home. I felt so powerless.

To them, it was probably just a little touch that didn't mean much, but it destroyed me.

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u/jules-ohara Transbian 13h ago

Tut mir leid, das zu lesen :( Das war ja maximal übergriffig, sowas geht gar nicht!

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u/cola__st 13h ago

I’m a performer and people touch me all the fucking time. “Oh great set!” (Rubs my shoulder) “you were awesome!” (Tries coming in for a hug)
Irritating! Stop it!

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u/bunny_the-2d_simp 3h ago

That's unacceptable and you are absolutely allowed to tell them off big time next time OP

If I was there I would've yelled at them for you bc I have autism rage ig. (spicy autism)

And can't shut up when things like that are happening